need advice

[BrokenForHim]

I am so sick of geting blamed for all my stupid familys problems...I can't take it anymore...just once I wish they would say "I love you." or "good job Im proud of you for not being self distructive." but no...all I get is "why don't you just go kill yourself.", "your the reason our family is falling apart.", "Oh Lindsey needs to get her way or else she will go cut herself.", "Why don't you just leave, get out of here, do us all a favour."...and it just keeps going and going...I'm at my breaking point...a really close friend of mine died a few weeks back and he helped me stop S.I ..I'm finding it really hard to keep going...any advice would be nice.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Hi Hun ,
I'm so sorry you get blamed for your family's problems - it can be really hard when that happens . A friend of mine passed away almost three weeks ago too. You must be going through such a rough time

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If I'm allowed to ask, have you spoken to someone like a school counsellor about all that's been going on? They're often great to talk to and can help you find better ways to handle the pressures from home, school and life. While we can't offer counselling on here, we're also here to listen if you ever need to talk.

You'll be in my prayers and if you ever want to talk, my PM box is always open.

Shalom,
Steffi

 

[goldenviolet]

sweetheart, you are so very special. i'm sorry you are not told this by the people who should. can you talk to a school counselor? maybe a teen hotline. build yourself a support system. i'll be on it God will give you the strength to hold on. one day you'll be old enough to get away from this type of dysfunction. bless your heart, i'll pray for you too. pm me anytime. love dee

 

[mitiog]

Hey that's really harsh! It takes guts to give up cutting and to have your familiy making life hard for you in the meantime must be horrible.

I hope that you can find someone to talk to face to face about this. I'm sorry to hear that you're also had a bereavement. I pray that you will be able to lean on the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort [2 Cor 1:3] as you work through your grief.

May you know the Lord's peace that passes all understanding at this time.

mitiog

 

[mahalia]

hey gal... i know what it feels like and i don't always have advice but i can promise that i'll keep you in my thoughts, always. it's harsh and you may not always know what to do, but like it was suggested earlier, talk to someone like a school counselor. i used to refuse (i hate seeming weak) but trust me, it makes all the difference. keep strong, you can make it. just keep reminding yourself that there is more to life than this and it is waiting for you... just get there in one piece.

 

[mamalonglegs]

Yeap, I use to get blamed for everything. That was the only time I existed where I lived. The rest of the time is unspeakable. My heart goes out to you. Definitely get some outside help like the others said to do. Yes you can pm me as well. There is a trilogy of books that may help you understand your feelings and what is happening to you as well. I am reading them now. I wish I had them when I was your age. The first one is called, "A Child Called "It" by Dave Pelzer. You can get it real cheap through Amazon.com If you can't for some reason or other get it. I will be glad to do it for you. PM me if you need help and want this book.
Praying much for you. Because I know believe me I know...... mamalonglegs Ephesians 6:18 I Love You!

 

[mahalia]

oh my gosh i read that trilogy two years ago... it's horrible... i mean, it's good but it's horrible... and it helps me cos i realised, i have it bad, but not NEARLY as bad as that

 

[berry2000]

Ouch. That's really hurtful. I used to wish my family would say nice things to/about me. But I came to a realization that I couldn't change them. I had to find support and people to love me and say nice things about me from outside the family. Church youth group helped alot, so did some of my teachers.

Whenever possible surround yourself with positive people. And try not to believe the lies your family is telling you. Even scriptures can help....try reading the "you are god's little butterly post".

 

[BrokenForHim]

aw thanx guys for writing back..it means a lot to know that people do care.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[BrokenForHim]

Awww *hearts* you and Yolly!

 

[oneandlonely]

aww hun s. I've been blamed like that too. I know it rough. But please try not to listen to them. I know thats not easy

*hugs* I'm here if you ever want to talk