Need advice on life

[ovis90]

So when i became 14 i started to get bullied in school since that time i have almost lost most of my friends i had and stopped going out. I spent most of my time on computer and when i was 16 on online dating. As well i wasn't thinking much of career. so Later somehow i joined university and studied business management,but i feel its hard for me to concentrate and study.Since I was 21 i have discovered faith and it seemed what i asked God He gave me I wanted to be a missionary he with out me doing anything I went to Rome and was a missionary for a year. Later after that year i asked to go abroad to live on my on. I worked in England at the same time begining was really hard but i felt how he lead me and helped me to find a job.Later on i started to feel a bit depressed and lonely and had temptation to go to clubs for almost a year i went to clubs stopped then go again stopped and go again. So I felt best choice would be if i just leave that country and return home. So now I am 26 back to my own country returned to continue to study same profession that i will never work and don't want, feel alone almost have no friends and do the same things addicted to online dating. I feel God was leading me somewhere ,but I just messed up something I repented of those things,but now I feel i just destroyed my life and have no clue neither in career or life and feel hopeless like i can't change anything because it all looks destroyed . Any advices thank you

 

[Kenny'sID]

Nothing is destroyed, but I understand that it can feel that way at times.

God forgives as many times as you ask or as in the bible "7x70". You just have to keep trying, have faith that he forgives, and if you mess up, ask forgiveness again, and get back on track.

I think "Seek and ye shall find" can go so far as to mean... Keep seeking the truth, and the ability to abide by it/Gods rules and we will eventually find a way to do that. Or it could be as simple as "Practice makes perfect".

Now get back up on that horse and ride...if you fall of on occasion, the horse and you are still there to try again, not destroyed. The only time things get destroyed is when we give up or give in to sin completely, no longer care and never come out of that state. But even then we can go back to God.

 

[LittleTim]

Find a strong local church. God still has a plan for your life and you'll never be past what his grace can't heal and deliver you from.

 

[Rescued One]

So when i became 14 i started to get bullied in school since that time i have almost lost most of my friends i had and stopped going out. I spent most of my time on computer and when i was 16 on online dating. As well i wasn't thinking much of career. so Later somehow i joined university and studied business management,but i feel its hard for me to concentrate and study.Since I was 21 i have discovered faith and it seemed what i asked God He gave me I wanted to be a missionary he with out me doing anything I went to Rome and was a missionary for a year. Later after that year i asked to go abroad to live on my on. I worked in England at the same time begining was really hard but i felt how he lead me and helped me to find a job.Later on i started to feel a bit depressed and lonely and had temptation to go to clubs for almost a year i went to clubs stopped then go again stopped and go again. So I felt best choice would be if i just leave that country and return home. So now I am 26 back to my own country returned to continue to study same profession that i will never work and don't want, feel alone almost have no friends and do the same things addicted to online dating. I feel God was leading me somewhere ,but I just messed up something I repented of those things,but now I feel i just destroyed my life and have no clue neither in career or life and feel hopeless like i can't change anything because it all looks destroyed . Any advices thank you

I don't know what country you live in so it's difficult to give advice. I can tell you this: there are most likely millions of people who have felt like you do. And the world is full of bullies. It's difficult to find compassionate people. People who are different come in at least two types: those who don't like you because you aren't like them; and those few who accept the fact that we aren't all alike.

Making friends can be difficult. Try to develop an interest in something. It can be a game or a hobby or a collection. Or cooking or reading. That will be something you can talk to others about. Starting a conversation is difficult for some of us. I suggest asking a person what he does for work and if he enjoys his job. Then you might ask how he spends his free time. When the person has to leave, tell him you enjoyed talking to him. Do NOT criticize the other person! That drives people away. And try to not show any jealousy if they start talking to someone else or if someone else starts talking to them. If someone tries to avoid you, let them. There are other people to meet in this world.

There are professional counselors in some countries and leagl medication for depression. Don't use alcohol or illegal drugs for depression--- that has ruined the lives of people I know.
God bless.

 

[Goodbook]

Jesus is the who gives eternal life. Have you got a bible? Repent from being distracted by online dating and chasing careers and worldly ambition close down those accounts and go back to your first love...Jesus. Get back into reading and studying his Word esp the gospels, like the book of John.

The sermon on the mount is good too. When you seek first His kingdom and righteousness everything will be added unto you.

Remember the prodigal son? His father welcomes him with open arms when he came home.

 

[sparkle123]

Hi. It sounds like you've been struggling for a long time with the clubs and online dating. It also sounds like online dating is an old struggle for you. I can relate to being bullied; I was bullied in school too. Bullying creates a lot of loneliness. Perhaps this is why you turned to online dating? To gain a sense of being wanted and accepted? Whatever the reason, I hope you know that your life isn't destroyed because of your mistakes. I know it feels terrible, but feelings don't reflect the truth. The truth is that you are so loved and valued, and that God has a place in this world for you. I know it can be a struggle to believe this, because I struggle too, but we've got to keep trying.

You've been given some good advice by others here. Delete your online dating account. Block the site if you have to. If you're struggling with loneliness, you aren't alone! Seriously. I struggle with it, and I know so many others that do too. Chances are there are some lonely people around you who would like a friend too. Look for them in your church, in your community, and don't give up!

As for career-- well, these days it's common for people to work many different jobs. What do you want to do? What is important to you? It doesn't sound like what you're studying suits you, so if you can maybe you should try something else. I wish you luck with it, and I'm praying for you.

 

[Sketcher]

What would you like to do then? Majors can be changed.