First a little bit of background on the story. My thoughts and perspective, and then I need some input. Thanks.
I'll try and stay in chronological order...
Back in mid may of this year, I met a woman (20, me 21). Hit it off, things have gone well. Still are in fact.
We've talked on the phone or talked online just about every day. She recently (well, coming up on 2 months ago now) moved back to arkansa for college, but if I decided to persue a relationship, that would be fine, because I can work off site and would have plenty of time to visit or find a place up closer to her, etc...
Anyway, I learned pretty early on that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 6-7 years earlier this year. I didn't really ask for details, but that is beside the point. Earlier today I was looking at a website my future hopefull had made for her. I do some research on guy who was making the site becuase I'm a techie and it looked REALLY good. Turns out this guy is someone I went to college with for about 6 months from jan-june this year and I knew him(or so I thought). It also turns out it is her ex.
I contact him thinking this is someone I've had a few talks with and hung out with at the school during breaks or whatever, but when he replied, it seems he is a totally different person. Ok, no big deal, because whether this is a person I know or not is irrelevant. So in his reply, he says he is planning on asking my future hopefull to marry her in the next few weeks and for me not to tell. I've had 6 hours and 32 minutes from right now to think and talk with God about it, but I feel I'm running on emotions in stead of rational thought trying to find God's will.
End background... My perspective...
I've been asking God to bring the right person at the right time into my life for the past two years, and that if I accidentally rush into something and find the wrong person, that He would end the relationship for me.
So when my now, ever getting closer friend, shows up in mid may and it's continued until now (when the past relationships I've tried to start have ended within days for various reasons, but I know it's God helping me), I can't help but question what's going on here.
I have no intention at all to screw up this guys plan on asking her to marry him because 1. I don't wanna strain any relationship from my point and 2. If it's God's will for me to be with her, it won't work out between these two anyway.
End perspective... Need input from you...
What should I do? Should I continue to talk to her like nothing has changed. I mean I know that her and her ex have still be good friends, but she has expressed that she wouldn't go back. Whether or not that happens, doesn't bother me too much. Again, I believe that if it's God's will for me to be with this girl, I will no matter what I do, but I don't know how I should go about it right now.
Should I back off and see what happens between the two or should I continue on like nothing has happened? Advice?
I'll try and stay in chronological order...
Back in mid may of this year, I met a woman (20, me 21). Hit it off, things have gone well. Still are in fact.
We've talked on the phone or talked online just about every day. She recently (well, coming up on 2 months ago now) moved back to arkansa for college, but if I decided to persue a relationship, that would be fine, because I can work off site and would have plenty of time to visit or find a place up closer to her, etc...
Anyway, I learned pretty early on that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 6-7 years earlier this year. I didn't really ask for details, but that is beside the point. Earlier today I was looking at a website my future hopefull had made for her. I do some research on guy who was making the site becuase I'm a techie and it looked REALLY good. Turns out this guy is someone I went to college with for about 6 months from jan-june this year and I knew him(or so I thought). It also turns out it is her ex.
I contact him thinking this is someone I've had a few talks with and hung out with at the school during breaks or whatever, but when he replied, it seems he is a totally different person. Ok, no big deal, because whether this is a person I know or not is irrelevant. So in his reply, he says he is planning on asking my future hopefull to marry her in the next few weeks and for me not to tell. I've had 6 hours and 32 minutes from right now to think and talk with God about it, but I feel I'm running on emotions in stead of rational thought trying to find God's will.
End background... My perspective...
I've been asking God to bring the right person at the right time into my life for the past two years, and that if I accidentally rush into something and find the wrong person, that He would end the relationship for me.
So when my now, ever getting closer friend, shows up in mid may and it's continued until now (when the past relationships I've tried to start have ended within days for various reasons, but I know it's God helping me), I can't help but question what's going on here.
I have no intention at all to screw up this guys plan on asking her to marry him because 1. I don't wanna strain any relationship from my point and 2. If it's God's will for me to be with her, it won't work out between these two anyway.
End perspective... Need input from you...
What should I do? Should I continue to talk to her like nothing has changed. I mean I know that her and her ex have still be good friends, but she has expressed that she wouldn't go back. Whether or not that happens, doesn't bother me too much. Again, I believe that if it's God's will for me to be with this girl, I will no matter what I do, but I don't know how I should go about it right now.
Should I back off and see what happens between the two or should I continue on like nothing has happened? Advice?
God may be testing your faith and trust in Him. If things are meant to be between these two, do you want to be the one that messes that up or cause unneeded strife? If she doesn't want to be with this other guy, then I think a marriage proposal out of the blue like this may totally freak her out and cause her to cut ties with him, realizing that maybe it's time to end whatever type of relationship they have. But just remember, that doesn't pave the way for you either. Just continue being her friend, getting to know each other and finding out about each other. Going to spend a long weekend with her sounds like a step in the right direction. Don't cancel that unless she tells you that she has accepted this other guys proposal or is considering it. 
