Hello,
I am new here and just wanted to reach out to some other Christians who may know a bit about the pain I am going through. My wife and I have been together for 10 years. Married for 4. We met at a Christian Camp and our relationship was founded on God. We had everything in common and were best friends. As time went on our passion kind of subsided and the emotional connection between the two of us ceased to exist. Our relationships with God fell further and further out of our lives. We had nothing but a business partnership and a marriage license. Most of it was my fault as the man I'm supposed to lead spiritually and I didn't. I did not hear her subtle cries for attention and the emotional connection that all women need. I was too selfish and blind. I was basically too immature to be married.
About a month ago now my wife told me that she did not want to be married anymore. She 100% wanted a divorce. As a christian, I never saw this coming because I thought divorce was never an option. Also she never suggested we get help or cried out to anyone in our lives for help. She told me in 15 minutes how our 10 year relationship was over. She said that she could see herself raising children with someone else. She broke my heart. She said that we had to move on with the logistics of the situation and that she didn't want to talk about anything involving counseling or fixing our marriage at all. I tried sending flowers, cards, letters, jewelry. I tried going to her in the middle of the night. She coldly said stop all of this as I don't want it and will refuse delivery. Again we need to talk about logistics.
I wrote her back and said that I would respect her wishes but I would fight the divorce because I don't believe in it. I said I was working on my own emotional attachment issues and would love a chance to talk to her and tell her how God has called me back to Himself through this rock bottom experience. She remains cold and doesn't want to talk about it at all to me or anyone else. No one knew, not her mom or sister. She will only engage them in small talk and nothing of substance. God has woke me up from my spiritual abandonment by taking the one thing in this world that I really held dear. The sadness in my soul is so deep that it is almost unbearable. I am seeking God fervently in this valley because He is literally all I have. I have a good job and a good family but nothing else matters and my thoughts are all consumed in this. I know God has a plan here and I am trying to see through the pain but everything is so foggy that it is hard to know what is God's will here and what is my will. Please pray for this stranger who is in desperate need of some intervention in his life.
Thanks for reading.
I am new here and just wanted to reach out to some other Christians who may know a bit about the pain I am going through. My wife and I have been together for 10 years. Married for 4. We met at a Christian Camp and our relationship was founded on God. We had everything in common and were best friends. As time went on our passion kind of subsided and the emotional connection between the two of us ceased to exist. Our relationships with God fell further and further out of our lives. We had nothing but a business partnership and a marriage license. Most of it was my fault as the man I'm supposed to lead spiritually and I didn't. I did not hear her subtle cries for attention and the emotional connection that all women need. I was too selfish and blind. I was basically too immature to be married.
About a month ago now my wife told me that she did not want to be married anymore. She 100% wanted a divorce. As a christian, I never saw this coming because I thought divorce was never an option. Also she never suggested we get help or cried out to anyone in our lives for help. She told me in 15 minutes how our 10 year relationship was over. She said that she could see herself raising children with someone else. She broke my heart. She said that we had to move on with the logistics of the situation and that she didn't want to talk about anything involving counseling or fixing our marriage at all. I tried sending flowers, cards, letters, jewelry. I tried going to her in the middle of the night. She coldly said stop all of this as I don't want it and will refuse delivery. Again we need to talk about logistics.
I wrote her back and said that I would respect her wishes but I would fight the divorce because I don't believe in it. I said I was working on my own emotional attachment issues and would love a chance to talk to her and tell her how God has called me back to Himself through this rock bottom experience. She remains cold and doesn't want to talk about it at all to me or anyone else. No one knew, not her mom or sister. She will only engage them in small talk and nothing of substance. God has woke me up from my spiritual abandonment by taking the one thing in this world that I really held dear. The sadness in my soul is so deep that it is almost unbearable. I am seeking God fervently in this valley because He is literally all I have. I have a good job and a good family but nothing else matters and my thoughts are all consumed in this. I know God has a plan here and I am trying to see through the pain but everything is so foggy that it is hard to know what is God's will here and what is my will. Please pray for this stranger who is in desperate need of some intervention in his life.
Thanks for reading.