My non-Christian boyfirend - help??

[cc11]

HI, I decided today that I want to have better relationship with Jesus - I've always had a relationship wth Jesus but now I've just really decided to devote my life

I don't want to do the wrong thing by having a non Christian boyfriend and I fear it's not right because of what it says in the bible about not be unevenly yoked to others.

But i cant stand the thought of breaking up with him. I love my boyfriend so much and can't imagine my life without him. He would do anything for me.

I can't talk to anyone in my family, but should i try talk to someone before I decided to break up.

or should I wait a while to see if he follows in my witness and sees the love of God in me. then becomes saved?

I really need some advice please....


I would just like to request some more advice as I am only a new Christian....

I talked to my bf about how I felt, and How I wanted to become a better Christian and devote my life to Jesus. and he was extremely supportive, although he's not a Christian he did grow up in a very Christian based home, therefore he knows and understands where I am coming from.

He also says that he will take me to church as I can't go without him driving me. and also gave me a bible he had been given (it's his only one - should i take it?)

He said he was once a Christian when he was 12 (yr 7) but it faded and he became uninterested.

I told him that I will not have premarital sex and he was totally fine with that and accepted my wish and said I was worth the wait.

He says God might give him a sign and "who knows" (as in to say he might be saved one day)

As I said earlier I am a new Christian and I need advice please.

I will keep praying that God guides me through this and shows me the plan he has for my life

 

[singpeace]

CC11,

It sounds like you and your bf are both on your way to following after Christ. I would not break up with him yet as this is a great opportunity for you both - and let him drive you to church. That way he will be exposed to the teachings of Christ and the transformation he sees in you.

I doubt he can remain an unbeliever for very long.

Father, touch this sister and her boyfriend. Bring her closer to you and show her great things in your word. Bring her boyfriend to repentance. Use them both for your glory in Christ Jesus. Amen.

 

[_Believer_]

It sounds to me like you both have a good head on your shoulders. Since he is so accepting of your decision of abstinence, and that he is not knocking your religion because he is not a Christian. We can only hope that with prayer and guidance, he will follow you into the path of Righteousness. Good luck to you both!

 

[Sketcher]

If he's your ride to church, don't dump him!

 

[Goodbook]

hmm cc11 I think you are right to be concerned about being yoked with unbelievers, when your boyfriend says God will give him a sign, and you were talking about abstinence were you 100% sure that your BF mean he wanted to be saved one day or did he really mean 'who knows' maybe he can convince you to sleep with him?

Because if I know anything, and I speak from experience, is that boys who are not Christians only think of one thing when they are with girls they are attracted to. And I've heard of plenty of false conversions only happened with guys not because they wanted to be saved but because they want to please their girlfirends.

Jesus said the cost of following him means you may have to give up your family and friends. He says that we love him first above all others.

I don't mean to put you off..but I think maybe go to church together. Make sure this church is preaching the Bible and Jesus (and not prosperity gospel) Watch his reaction. If he's not interested in God, then dump him. Yes it's good to pray and ask God about this. But I reckon He's already led you to his Word in the Bible. Please do not be deceived about this. 'love' can blind us.

 

[ChrisLeishy]

friend it sounds like you have a wise head on your shoulders. it is good to sort this out.
My thoughts are this, dumping a boyfriend because of differing beliefs is not good.

living life in marriage with differing beliefs is not good. It can be done but is not usually easy. If you both share similar ideology even though married life is not always smooth it will make it a lot easier. When times get rocky differing beliefs widen the gap between you at times.

give your guy the opportunity to grow into your beliefs at least from what you wrote he sounds like a good guy. At some point in our lives we all first accepted Jesus, I hope his day will soon come for his sake and yours too. He may already have but hasn't met with the holy spirit.

You may be the lords provision to him to encourage him to places that will show him how to connect with god.

its hard to advise Ask god to give you a sign He will give you one if you ask. Pray also for your boyfriend. Good friends are hard to come by always remember that too.

 

[Goodbook]

Sorry put in more than 2 cents but I was thinking of you again and a verse came to me - Jesus himself says-
Matthew 16:4 A wicked and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign and there shall be no sign given unto it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas.

Then Jesus explains how he, like Jonah in the whale, will be away for 3 days, then rise again. Remember Jonah was sent to Ninevah to announce God's judgment, which would have been averted if they came to repentence.

So this way you can be sure. Ask your boyfriend if he believes Jesus was sent, like Jonah, to save people from sin, that he was crucified and was raised from the dead. If he says yes, he does believe that, then for sure he is a Christian and going to church with you will be no problem, he's just been away from church. But if he has doubts then he cannot believe and if he thinks God will sent him a sign other than what Jesus himself says and you testify then beware!!! Jesus says a wicked and adulterous generation.. seeks after a sign, and for your sake God is warning you, that is why he says don't be yoked with unbelievers, because as many other christian girls testify, having a relationship with an unbeliever leads to grave consquences not least broken hearts and falling from grace. God wants what is best for you.

 

[heymikey80]

This'd be simple if it weren't bound up in emotions, wouldn't it. But God gives us those emotions as well, though not to be slaves to emotion.

Your bf has parents who are church-goers? And he's gone to church as well, and someone may have influenced him emotionally to pray a prayer when he was 12. ok. That means he's toughened against the simple questions of faith. He's matured in that issue. That means you'll have a lot of maturing to do to respond to his questions.

Either that, or he just doesn't know how to mature himself in his spiritual thinking. That's also certainly possible: I spent about seven years in a holding pattern, unable to move in my spiritual life after I accepted Christ. He may be on the other side of that door, too. He may not know how.

You already know the answer. You know what struggles led him to drop Christian living. And whether you struggle with them.

"unequally yoked" means, a gap -- say in maturity. If you needed two oxen to pull a load, y'wouldn't pick a 1-ton behemoth and a calf. You'd go around in circles.

Get an appointment with your pastor/preacher and discuss the situation in more detail with him.