My husband died in 94

[Romans55]

And I still miss him so much
He took the my 3 boys out for the day to cuta Christmas tree down, it was supposed to be a fun day for all. I was home making his Ann. gift - a quilt and a big dinner. I got a phone call saying they were doing CPR on him and that the kids would be at the hospital ER waiting for me, It took me 4 hours to find them. All the while I saw Christmas Trees on top of cars going home, it mad me sadder, I knew he was dead, but I was hoping I was wrong. In the ER I found the boys ALONE crying in the ER, no one could even sit with them.
They were 8, a just 4 and a just one. It was a night mare
from then on, we buried him on what would have been our 5th Ann.
He was my soul mate and best friend.
Time does allow it to get better but to me it just gets put in a different place and isnt so raw.
I know if I didnt have God and my family I wouldnt have made it.
sandi

 

[JeanR]

Dear Sandi,
Thank you for your encouraging words.

Your kids were so young! Mine are in their 20s and I am so grateful for their support. I just don't know how I would have made it if they were young.

Stay with us here, Sandi. We look out for each other. The forum has been pretty quiet since January and this is very unusual.

Jean

 

[Romans55]

Thank You Jean,
I took one day at a time, sometimes, often was one minute at a time in the begining.
BUt I know I would have loved talking to someone when Murray died, so if you need to talk, Im here,
hugs
sandi

 

[simojt_marjun]

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[c1ners]

I'm so sorry for your loss Sarah. I lost my husband in 1987, and I still miss him too. I don't think we ever really get over it. For some it seems to be easy. For others like us, it's impossible.

Hold onto your memories, and share them with your children. The greatest gift I gave my daughter was in not letting her forget her daddy. She was just a baby when he died (16 months old), but from my memories she knows that he was a wonderful man and loved her very much.

I still have so many nightmares about that day. He was working out of town, and me and the baby came out to visit him. Actually he begged for us to come all week, but it was my dads birthday and I wanted to wait until the day after. So Thursday I packed up the car, and me and the baby made the five hour trip to see him. We were all supposed to come home that weekend. My husband wanted to go to church. But we never made it. Friday while taking him back to work a car ran the median and hit us head on. My husband didn't survive. I was awoke when he took his last breath and slumped into the dashboard.

It's hard, but with Gods help we can get through anything and everything. God knows how much you miss your husband. When you're sad and missing him turn to God and try to feel his arms around you. Sometimes I ask God to let me feel my husbands arms instead. I close my eyes and I can see his face. I can smell his cologne, and I can feel his strongs arms wrapped around me. And I can imagaine his voice telling me that it's going to be okay.

God bless you Sarah.

 

[singingwife]

Thanks for sharing, Romans. I haven't even had a year yet; it will be in August. I've heard it said that it "gets easier" and in a way it does. I've gotten used to living alone, and doing everything myself. A year ago, I almost was; my dh was barely up for doing anything. I can't imagine what life will be like in over 10 years; we only had 7 1/2 years married; 9 years as a couple. Yes; I also take it a day at a time, and know that I'd be a way worse wreck if I didn't know Jesus. I know he's with Him, and I'm thankful for that; that he's no longer suffering from the cancer. I have my days where I long for the day we'll see each other again.
Keep coming here, okay, so we can give encouragement to each other.