Hi guys. This will be a long winded post because I am really going through it right now and I need help somehow.
Some backstory:
"Saved" in late 2009 or so. My life changed in a big way. Turned from many sinful ways, began really seeking the LORD, learning a lot very quickly. Growing in faith, grace, and righteousness. Bearing fruit. Hating sin, thirsting after righteousness. Seeing the world for what it is, the lies, deceptions, traps.
I knew and still know that I am not even close to perfect. I feel I am a coward, I am afraid of what man thinks of me (I have Social Anxiety Disorder), I suffer from sexual lust, and I can list more but you get the point. I sin. It has always eaten me up inside. I would confess these things and trust that Jesus had somehow forgiven them and move forward, hoping and trusting that one day Jesus would give victory over them. Maybe a year from now, maybe 20 years, but He would do it. My social anxieties have kept me from a lot but most importantly it has kept me from being in a local body of believers. I have not had anyone who is experienced disciple me and I have not been baptized. I still have had some fellowship with a friend who was saved at the same time as me as well as a woman we met online that we do online bible studies with. My mother was eventually saved as well. So there was fellowship to a limited degree but no Shepherd over me/us. You could say I was discipled by youtube videos and online articles... not good.
I felt I was getting a good grip on what we must do to be saved. What the gospel was, what Jesus did for us, how to live, etc. but in reading scripture the stark warnings throughout always really concerned me and frightened me. However I was able to handle them and remain hopeful somehow.
At the height of my level of trust in Jesus and what He had accomplished for me in His life, death, and resurrection, in late 2012/early 2013 I was having an online bible study and we were reading Matthew 5 together and commenting on it. I had read it many times before but for some reason Jesus' words jumped out at me in a very terrifying way... Jesus was laying out part of what it takes to be saved it seems and it sounded like perfection to me. It shook me to my core...
That night, afraid, I wondered if I had been wrong about the plan of salvation. Does Jesus require literal present perfection in life in order to be saved?? I was aware that there are some on youtube who preach sinless perfection and entire sanctification and I curiously watched some of their video teachings. It sounded more than plausible. I felt that I was lost. How could I be saved? I sin. A lot. I hate it, sure, but that means nothing. I never recovered from the hit my faith and joy in Christ took. I didn't outright stop believing or hoping---not at all. But I took a big hit. I was filled with such dread, loneliness, fear, anxiety, nightmares it was unbelievable. 4 YEARS have passed.
In those 4 years, I went to war against my sexual sin and even had some lasting victory (365 days oddly enough). The failure of falling to that sin again was another big hit to my walk. I studied sinless perfection and have come to a place where it doesn't quite fit the entirety of scripture. I cannot ignore the serious warnings though. I was/am confused about salvation and the gospel and what my responsibilities are in regards to salvation (do we earn it? Do we already have it? Can we lose it? Why am I not growing? Why am I not like this Christian or that?). Overall I tried to remain hopeful, always trying to trust in Christ. I would pray, but that became largely an exercise in going through the motions with the odd nice time of fellowship with God. I would force myself to read the word but would often come away feeling condemned and afraid, or at best just not get much nourishment out of it. In the more recent year+, I stopped watching sermons online and stuck to mostly apologetics videos/debates. I just became distracted overall. I was just floating along day by day.
In the past 6 months or so the intense fear from 4 years ago was back in full effect. Almost worse. It was brought on by a friend sending me a link to a man's website where he made a very good case for the ability to lose your salvation. I knew it would trigger my fear and set me off again but my curiosity got the best of me. He claimed that he was now (fully) obedient to God and had discovered the secret to a Godly life. Whether that is true or not, it drove me to examine those stark warnings in scripture about falling away, what acts will keep you from heaven, the passages in Hebrews, all of it.
I can only conclude that we must indeed repent of ALL of our sins in order to be saved. And I realize that if that is true, I probably will not make it. There is still room for hope, but wow. To be perfectly honest, I am hoping it isn't quite true. Not because I want to keep sinning. I HATE my sin. HATE it. I am hoping it isn't true because I don't see a way of escape. I don't see the blessed hope in Christ. The joy. The peace. The rest. The power to live in holiness...
My days are so bleak. Depression and hopelessness. I cry constantly. I see everyone perishing around me and I can't give them the gospel of peace because I'm not even sure what it is anymore. What is the good news? It IS good news...but in what way? I spend my days fearing sin and trying to constantly be watching bible videos or reading articles, trying to find some hope to get me through the day. I dread the nights because I usually have just read some scripture that scares me and I start thinking about death and hell. Intense loneliness overcomes me. Thankfully I live with my believing mother who I can go to for some company, even late at night. We have begun going to a church but have only been once so far. I hope to build some kind of relationships there but that will be very hard for me. I don't feel as though any person on earth can really help me with this. I have read all the encouragements people give for issues like these. What once gave comfort is now hollow. I don't know what to do. It is as though I am being crushed slowly. LORD help me please. You are the only hope there is. Please hear my prayer. I am sorry.
Thank you for reading. Please pray for me. God bless you all.
Some backstory:
"Saved" in late 2009 or so. My life changed in a big way. Turned from many sinful ways, began really seeking the LORD, learning a lot very quickly. Growing in faith, grace, and righteousness. Bearing fruit. Hating sin, thirsting after righteousness. Seeing the world for what it is, the lies, deceptions, traps.
I knew and still know that I am not even close to perfect. I feel I am a coward, I am afraid of what man thinks of me (I have Social Anxiety Disorder), I suffer from sexual lust, and I can list more but you get the point. I sin. It has always eaten me up inside. I would confess these things and trust that Jesus had somehow forgiven them and move forward, hoping and trusting that one day Jesus would give victory over them. Maybe a year from now, maybe 20 years, but He would do it. My social anxieties have kept me from a lot but most importantly it has kept me from being in a local body of believers. I have not had anyone who is experienced disciple me and I have not been baptized. I still have had some fellowship with a friend who was saved at the same time as me as well as a woman we met online that we do online bible studies with. My mother was eventually saved as well. So there was fellowship to a limited degree but no Shepherd over me/us. You could say I was discipled by youtube videos and online articles... not good.
I felt I was getting a good grip on what we must do to be saved. What the gospel was, what Jesus did for us, how to live, etc. but in reading scripture the stark warnings throughout always really concerned me and frightened me. However I was able to handle them and remain hopeful somehow.
At the height of my level of trust in Jesus and what He had accomplished for me in His life, death, and resurrection, in late 2012/early 2013 I was having an online bible study and we were reading Matthew 5 together and commenting on it. I had read it many times before but for some reason Jesus' words jumped out at me in a very terrifying way... Jesus was laying out part of what it takes to be saved it seems and it sounded like perfection to me. It shook me to my core...
That night, afraid, I wondered if I had been wrong about the plan of salvation. Does Jesus require literal present perfection in life in order to be saved?? I was aware that there are some on youtube who preach sinless perfection and entire sanctification and I curiously watched some of their video teachings. It sounded more than plausible. I felt that I was lost. How could I be saved? I sin. A lot. I hate it, sure, but that means nothing. I never recovered from the hit my faith and joy in Christ took. I didn't outright stop believing or hoping---not at all. But I took a big hit. I was filled with such dread, loneliness, fear, anxiety, nightmares it was unbelievable. 4 YEARS have passed.
In those 4 years, I went to war against my sexual sin and even had some lasting victory (365 days oddly enough). The failure of falling to that sin again was another big hit to my walk. I studied sinless perfection and have come to a place where it doesn't quite fit the entirety of scripture. I cannot ignore the serious warnings though. I was/am confused about salvation and the gospel and what my responsibilities are in regards to salvation (do we earn it? Do we already have it? Can we lose it? Why am I not growing? Why am I not like this Christian or that?). Overall I tried to remain hopeful, always trying to trust in Christ. I would pray, but that became largely an exercise in going through the motions with the odd nice time of fellowship with God. I would force myself to read the word but would often come away feeling condemned and afraid, or at best just not get much nourishment out of it. In the more recent year+, I stopped watching sermons online and stuck to mostly apologetics videos/debates. I just became distracted overall. I was just floating along day by day.
In the past 6 months or so the intense fear from 4 years ago was back in full effect. Almost worse. It was brought on by a friend sending me a link to a man's website where he made a very good case for the ability to lose your salvation. I knew it would trigger my fear and set me off again but my curiosity got the best of me. He claimed that he was now (fully) obedient to God and had discovered the secret to a Godly life. Whether that is true or not, it drove me to examine those stark warnings in scripture about falling away, what acts will keep you from heaven, the passages in Hebrews, all of it.
I can only conclude that we must indeed repent of ALL of our sins in order to be saved. And I realize that if that is true, I probably will not make it. There is still room for hope, but wow. To be perfectly honest, I am hoping it isn't quite true. Not because I want to keep sinning. I HATE my sin. HATE it. I am hoping it isn't true because I don't see a way of escape. I don't see the blessed hope in Christ. The joy. The peace. The rest. The power to live in holiness...
My days are so bleak. Depression and hopelessness. I cry constantly. I see everyone perishing around me and I can't give them the gospel of peace because I'm not even sure what it is anymore. What is the good news? It IS good news...but in what way? I spend my days fearing sin and trying to constantly be watching bible videos or reading articles, trying to find some hope to get me through the day. I dread the nights because I usually have just read some scripture that scares me and I start thinking about death and hell. Intense loneliness overcomes me. Thankfully I live with my believing mother who I can go to for some company, even late at night. We have begun going to a church but have only been once so far. I hope to build some kind of relationships there but that will be very hard for me. I don't feel as though any person on earth can really help me with this. I have read all the encouragements people give for issues like these. What once gave comfort is now hollow. I don't know what to do. It is as though I am being crushed slowly. LORD help me please. You are the only hope there is. Please hear my prayer. I am sorry.
Thank you for reading. Please pray for me. God bless you all.