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modest dress code

tamtam92

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First, I shall examine the "pertaining to men" issue. I notice that many women who won't wear pants because they "pertained to men first" will still wear sneakers/athletic shoes, sweatshirts, sweaters, T-shirts, and boots, all originally "men's attire". So, even though they are trying to be feminine by never wearing pants, they are still wearing some things that "pertain to men". Hey, what about denim? In the form of a skirt or pants, it was originally men's material. I mean, think about it.

As far as modesty: Pants outline the shape of both legs. On males and females. Wearing loose- or normal-fitting pants should not pose a problem. As far as that goes, I have seen many skirts that are less modest than pants. Long ones that have slits clear up the length of the leg. Those can't be too modest. Skirts that are too short, and ultra-form-fitting skirts that really emphasize the rear and hips are not modest. I say that both skirts and pants can be modest, just as there are ones that are immodest. Nobody's really going to be happy unless we all went back to wearing robes like the Bible days... and even then someone will be offended.

If a woman feels convicted to wear only skirts or dresses for whatever reason, she is to be commended for that. What I don't like is when one who has this conviction has a "holier-than-everyone-else" attitude.
I agree.

I only wear skirts... for several reasons. The first is, i've noticed that the more pants look feminine, the more they're immodest. I want to be feminine and modest. The second is i had to wear pants at school for sport and i didn't feel comfortable at all with them. To be frank i felt the look from the guys was different (it was only a feeling, i have no proof to ascertain if it was founded). The third reason is i think skirts are prettier. :) so that is a kind of personal taste. The fourth reason is i know my father wouldn't like it at all if i was to wear pants. Oh not at all. So i do it in submission to him too. The fifth reason is i don't feel any need to wear pants (the few sport i do can be done with a skirt). Six, i don't want to look like wordly people, i'm proud to be different. Seven, i can have straightforward relations with most guys at work, since they can see directly than i don't dress to seduce them, even more directly than if a wore a simple pair of denims.
 
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Wearing only skirts is a good personal conviction, but I do not think a woman wearing pants is any less godly because they don't have the exact same conviction. I have said in another post that there are some women who wear only dresses, but they're not even Christians, meaning conviction has nothing to do with it. Dresses do not set a woman apart or impress God any more than pants do. It just means that times change. If things weren't meant to change, every one of us (men and women) would still be wearing robes.

We all have to be careful in any personal conviction we have not to become like a Pharisee. Sometimes that can become like flaunting and bragging if we're not careful ("hey, look at how holy I am because I do such-and-such"), and that, itself, can be a form of immodesty.

I personally see nothing wrong with a woman wearing pants. I feel I am very careful in the pants and skirts I pick out, and I do not, in any way, look like a man.

Let's face it. We are all different. But wouldn't it be boring if we all thought the same? As long as we are saved and seek to live the best life we can, that's what counts.
 
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