Men and Diapers

[Beth1231]

If you pick up certain books of marraige (such as His Needs, Her Needs) you will find that the Christian wife is made to feel guilty if she asks for help from her husband more than just on occassion. It took nearly six months of marriage to feel comfortable asking Hubby to rotate the laundry or vaccuum or whatever without feeling like I was a bad wife. Some of those books tell women that a man wants peace and quiet and if you don't give it to him when he gets home from work, his needs aren't being met and he might be tempted to stay away from home rather than come home to "honey, can you give Susie a bath". Yikes and I fell for this stuff hook, line and sinker!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I think it is a shared responsibility.
A man who won't change his child's diaper hasn't grown up much since he got out of his own diapers.

 

[MoodyBlue]

My daughters are long past the diaper stage (both young adults now), but when they were infants, I had no problem with this. Who handled the mess depended on who was busy at the moment, but my wife and I shared the duty. When it is your own kids, somehow it is a bit more tolerable.

 

[okiemommy26]

My hubby has no problem changing diapers. He thinks they are his children too so he should share in taking care of them and he does. Parenting is 50-50, they are mine and his children he should help out period. If I know his tired though when he gets home from work I will do the things but sometimes us that stay home with the children need a break too and it doesn't hurt the husband to help out with changing the diaper, or giving the kids a bath.

 

[Cordy]

Forget about just "helping"; my husband will be doing all the diaper changing. I refuse to touch or have anything to do things that are not related to sugar, spice, and everything “nice”. I think such a "dirty job" is too tough for my delicate feminine sensibilities, and therefore only a “man’s job”. Poop is so unfeminine.

 

[Crazy Liz]

When our kids were babies we said, "You catch 'em, you clean 'em." It works for fishing & it works for babies.

There has to be a really good reason to ask someone else to change the baby on your watch.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

If you pick up certain books of marraige (such as His Needs, Her Needs) you will find that the Christian wife is made to feel guilty if she asks for help from her husband more than just on occassion. It took nearly six months of marriage to feel comfortable asking Hubby to rotate the laundry or vaccuum or whatever without feeling like I was a bad wife. Some of those books tell women that a man wants peace and quiet and if you don't give it to him when he gets home from work, his needs aren't being met and he might be tempted to stay away from home rather than come home to "honey, can you give Susie a bath". Yikes and I fell for this stuff hook, line and sinker!

Oh man, do I ever know what you are talking about.... I actually got some really good advice from a fellow forum buddy (I think his name is Mr Cheese) before I got married when he told me not to read any books on marriage. And I didn't.... however Josh's parents gave us a book on sex (Intended for Pleasure) and I just flipped through the pages to the section on being the perfect wife (also noticing that there was no chapter on being the perfect husband)

Anywho... much of the chapter was as you said hubby needs peace and quite, leave him alone while he relaxes etc. But the part of the book that REALLY made me mad, was the section that tells the wife to "pretty herself up" for her husband before he comes home from work, never let him see you in sweat pants or anything other then looking your absoulte best (including makeup.) I also think it said something along the lines of "if your husband likes to stay up late, you should nap in the afternoon so you can stay up late with him too.... (if I have to work at 6am, and he wants to stay up till 2 am.... wife or no wife, he can stay up alone!!)

Sorry for straying.... but I'm still a little heated over the book.

As for the diaper thing, just like our marriage, my husband and I see having children as a shared responsibility. I'm a housewife, but you better believe my hubby helps me clean and even though I will also be a stay at home mom, he will still help me be a mom. As someone previously said, if hubby is off at 5... and only has to work 8 hrs a day, why is it the woman has to work 24 hrs a day????

 

[christalee4]

Fish Burger: "But the part of the book that REALLY made me mad, was the section that tells the wife to "pretty herself up" for her husband before he comes home from work, never let him see you in sweat pants or anything other then looking your absoulte best (including makeup.) I also think it said something along the lines of "if your husband likes to stay up late, you should nap in the afternoon so you can stay up late with him too.... (if I have to work at 6am, and he wants to stay up till 2 am.... wife or no wife, he can stay up alone!!)"
This is obviously more than changing nappies. I think that whole Stepford Wife crap doesn't amount to much either in the real life. So hubby can't see the real you or the real kids, when they make a giant doodie in their diaper? Life is beautiful all the time?

That's nonsense, and ideas that went out with the seventies, like the "Total Woman" garbage.

If men want a total, perfect woman to greet them without children in dirty nappies trailing her, and cocktails, plus stockings and French Maid's apron, I guess they had better bring in mommy to help take care of the children while the wife worships the master.

 

[BigNorsk]

Changing diapers is no big deal-unless your kid is on soy formula. That stuff is absolute proof that man is not designed to be a vegetarian. Nasty isn't the half of it. We fed one of our kids that stuff a couple of times and that was a couple too many. I feel for any parents whose child is intolerant of other formulas.

Marv

 

[Stringaling]

If the wife works full time and the husband stays home with the children he should always change the diapers and vice versa if the wife stays at home and the husband works full time.

Do you mean that even while both parents are at home she should still do all the work to car for the child?

 

[Redguard]

He thinks they are his children too

When are you going to tell him the truth?

 

[Silent Enigma]

My husband only changed a diaper once and that was when I was sick.

That's the only time I change a diaper!

 

[christalee4]

Do you mean that even while both parents are at home she should still do all the work to car for the child?

Are you shocked?

 

[christalee4]

That's the only time I change a diaper!

If I were you, why not force the wench-wife to change it, despite how she feels. After all, she is under your Enigma.

 

[BountyHunterNX01]

All I can say is that I changed alot of smelly smelly diapers and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Now the guys I work with think I am nuts but I see nothing wrong with it. I don't have any little ones in diapers now but when they have kids I will be happy to change the grandchildren too.

 

[RedTulipMom]

my hubby changes diapers once in a while. Not too often, but he works everyday and i am at home, so its fine with me.