Mature chat thread.....

[peacechild4]

Happy New Year to all mature age single chatters...

 

[SearcherKris]

Happy New Year!

 

[mjmcmillan]

A little late to the party, but, happy New Year to everybody here.

 

[Gwenyfur]

Happy New Years!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

right back at 'cha! all you CF "mature" chatters lol!
I have a good feeling about this year 2011. Of course I don't let my feelings rule me, but for the first time since my husband died, I have a hope for my future. I am looking forward to deepening my relationship with God, looking forward to getting my body into shape (again ), looking forward to continuing to wittle down my debt, and giving up my vices. I know I know, its a tall order, but I feel that this is my appointed time and I am ready! I really really am! I'm tired of doing what I've been doing and expecting a different result. I want to serve God in some fashion, just not sure where yet (except with my children, of course). Last year was such a dreadful year for most, including me, and even though the economy is still in the toilet IMO, I'm gonna trust God and see what happens.

 

[TomCS]

Happy New Year!

 

[peacechild4]

right back at 'cha! all you CF "mature" chatters lol!
I have a good feeling about this year 2011. Of course I don't let my feelings rule me, but for the first time since my husband died, I have a hope for my future. I am looking forward to deepening my relationship with God, looking forward to getting my body into shape (again ), looking forward to continuing to wittle down my debt, and giving up my vices. I know I know, its a tall order, but I feel that this is my appointed time and I am ready! I really really am! I'm tired of doing what I've been doing and expecting a different result. I want to serve God in some fashion, just not sure where yet (except with my children, of course). Last year was such a dreadful year for most, including me, and even though the economy is still in the toilet IMO, I'm gonna trust God and see what happens.

This encourages me too.. I feel much the same way thought I do not know where the drive is going to come from..

Yes amen.. going to trust GOD and see what happens.. I am so glad you are here with us.. you bless me sis..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Awe! You're so sweet!

 

[Gwenyfur]

Well, today I got the rest of Yule decorations banished from the house and back into storage....

It's a new moon tonight, so I spent an hour or so out under the moon, cleansing stones, athame, cauldrons, and other ritual implements, as well as some Workings...it was a nice crisp winter's night for such workings....I had fun and feel much better for spending time at my Craft instead of the crazy mash of holidays that's been fairly solid since mid October...

For Pagans, the new year is technically Samhein...but meh...alas we have both calendars so the holidays do pile up overload! It's nice to have just a quiet New Moon Ritual without all the Sabbat stuffs piled on top

Anyhow...

It's been an interesting day on the personal front as well...apparently the guy I've been seeing for a while now is wanting to take it to the next level???

I dunno that I'm ready to move across the state and relocate...and not really so sure he is either....considering he's no children or anything it'd certainly be easier for him to relocate LOL I dunno who'll win that negotiation...or even if it's going to be negotiated...hmmmm not sure I wanna make that type of a long term commitment again...yet...heh

anyhow...yeah...that's the scary thing going on right now LOL

Tomorrow Bug goes back to school and Wed she is officially a teenager! The big 13!!!!

Lotsa stuffs going on this week...but anyhow...a quiet night under the new moon was surely relaxing and helpful for me to recharge a bit...

 

[peacechild4]

I guess if you want to be with him.. that stuff will work out.. right now I would go anywhere if I loved someone and knew they loved me back..

 

[Gwenyfur]

That's just it...
I enjoy our weekends together...
I enjoy the time we spend together...
We have tons in common...right down to career and interests...

But do I really trust my judgment when it comes to males???

I've had 2 failed marriages...the first an abuser who tried to kill me...the 2nd well...I could have taken a fist better than what he doled out...

I dunno...they change when they've got your commitment...and I'm not sure if I want to take that risk...

especially when neither of us has spoken of "love" just compatibility...

 

[dayhiker]

Happy New Year all.
I had a great time at 1st night Chattham out on the Cape in MA.
learned of a new group - Java Jive Trio. Man were they good.

JAVA JIVE - Boston wedding band, night club band, Newport wedding band, Cape Cod wedding band if you want to check them out.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I guess if you want to be with him.. that stuff will work out.. right now I would go anywhere if I loved someone and knew they loved me back..

Go with God sister....He loved you first and He will always love you. I think right now He is trying to teach you to lean on Him and seek Him, and then for you.....that stuff will work out...maybe not how you think it will, but you can't go wrong trusting God and yes....it is a waiting game.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

That's just it...
I enjoy our weekends together...
I enjoy the time we spend together...
We have tons in common...right down to career and interests...

But do I really trust my judgment when it comes to males???

I've had 2 failed marriages...the first an abuser who tried to kill me...the 2nd well...I could have taken a fist better than what he doled out...

I dunno...they change when they've got your commitment...and I'm not sure if I want to take that risk...

especially when neither of us has spoken of "love" just compatibility...

what's to gain then from taking it to the next level? And what happens to the relationship if YOU don't want to take it to the next level? How will he handle that? I can't see committing to someone that you haven't even spoken the "L" word to. Plus you have a lovely teenager that I'm quite sure would not want to relocate and leave her friends, right? If you're leary, there could be a reason for it, and not just because of your (in your words) prior bad judgement with men. Guard your heart and don't be ruled by your feelings and if you are not 110% sure that, that is what you want, don't do it. You know what they say...it's either 3rd times a charm or 3 strikes your out . I'd say pray about it, but yeah...anyway, think long and hard before making any drastic moves. I'm sure you will already do that.

 

[peacechild4]

That's just it...
I enjoy our weekends together...
I enjoy the time we spend together...
We have tons in common...right down to career and interests...

But do I really trust my judgment when it comes to males???

I've had 2 failed marriages...the first an abuser who tried to kill me...the 2nd well...I could have taken a fist better than what he doled out...

I dunno...they change when they've got your commitment...and I'm not sure if I want to take that risk...

especially when neither of us has spoken of "love" just compatibility...

I guess if you are happy as is then keep it that way.. I guess with every relationship there is risk involved.. People keep telling me not to look back.. but hard not too.. but love and being with someone nice is pretty special..

Your life.. I would pray.. but I prayed alot over my husband.. and look where I am.. sometimes bad things happen and we don't know why..

 

[Gwenyfur]

Thanks y'all...

I've been meditating on it...and I'm still thinking on it LOL

I really just dunno...

oh well, I have time ... LOL

And yes...my teen doesn't wanna move across the state, I'm starting my ccna classes in a couple of weeks and life's just not at a point to really even consider uprooting right now...

I'm not up for relocating right now...truly...

As for the next level...well more time together...for the upside...

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Your life.. I would pray.. but I prayed alot over my husband.. and look where I am.. sometimes bad things happen and we don't know why..

They are called trials and we were promised them in the Bible. They are to test our faith and help us put our trust in God. Also don't forget everyone in the OT had to wait and wait and hurry up and wait some more. Remember Abraham? After waiting 25 years he got tired of waiting and tried to "help" God and had Ismael. And then God made him wait 13 more years before he had Isaac.

 

[peacechild4]

I have done a lot of waiting so maybe I am nearly at the right point to receive..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I have done a lot of waiting so maybe I am nearly at the right point to receive..

When you get to the point that you will willingly wait forever even if it means that it might never happen....then you will be ready. The point is to just keep following the Lord. Seek his voice in His word and seek His counsel in your prayer life. Develop your relationship more with Him and just trust Him that He really does love you and care about you and has great things in store for you. Might not be the things you think you want, but they will be the best things for you in the end. And even if nothing happens in this lifetime, you don't know what blessings you have stored up in eternity.

 

[peacechild4]

I am going to believe good things will happen.. even if they don't.. I cannot live or really live if I had nothing good to believe for..