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Masturbation

Is masturbation ok or not?

  • Yes, masturbation is ok.

  • No, masturbation is not ok.

  • I don't know/Other.


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Johnny J

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It's a lie to say none of us have ever done it.

It is also a lie to say that none of us don't feel guilty afterwards.

On the one hand, it may prevent temptation from actual fornication.

On the other it may subject one to weakness to lust.

It is, by all means, the lesser of two evils.

On the other hand, should the world be vaporized while your shorts are around your ankles, that's a fairly compromising position to be "caught red handed" in.
 
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Masturbation is fine; in fact, it's quite healthy. It's benefits include easing menstrual cramps in girls, muscle relaxation, reducing stress, and helping to get rid of bacteria in that area. Also, the act of self-exploration is beneficial in helping you learn more about your body, and boosting your self-esteem. It helps to be comfortable with your body, because it ultimately leads to you being more comfortable with whomever you choose to be with in the future.

So I vote, "It's okay."
 
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Colin

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i am a catholic, my church says that it is always a sin

The Church does say more than that.

" To judge one's moral responsibility regarding masturbation , one must take into account the affective immaturity , the force of acquired habit , conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen or even extenuate moral culpability." ( from The Catechism of The Catholic Church ).
It is not a black and white issue.
 
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i am a catholic, my church says that it is always a sin

The Church does say more than that.

" To judge one's moral responsibility regarding masturbation , one must take into account the affective immaturity , the force of acquired habit , conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen or even extenuate moral culpability." ( from The Catechism of The Catholic Church ).
It is not a black and white issue.

hello dear sister in christ
sin is always sin
culpability means that, you might not always have 100% of the guilt from that sin based on social factors (the secular wold tells people it is ok to touch) or addiction or other problems
that means it is always a sin, but it is not always a mortal sin based on these other factors

good point though, there are differant degrees of culpability and it is good that you pointed it out
 
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Out of curiousity.... you all m+++++ without lust? If so, you guys have perfect concentration! I wish I had like this when I study for exams... However, if you do lust then...
...?
 
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I don't know whether its M that causes L or S. Maybe its B or V or even D.


God created sex to be shared with someone you love i.e. wife. By wasting this gift alone, you misuse it.!

In addition, i tried to touch without lust. But filthy images came into my mind all the time. There is now way to escape it...

To sum it up, it's your business.

God Bless!
 
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The essential problem of this is one that bothers me to this day

Sexual sin is the most grave of all sins, it controls ones mind and draws him away from God in the worst of ways. Much of the problems we face now as society collapses around our ears is this unpredecented sexuality that we have released upon ourselves. There is almost no going back from this. Our ancestors had nothing like what we have now, pornography, and ideas. Of course, all men are programmed to lust, and women too, so how do we reconcile the two? Most will admit that periods of time from when we do not 'release' ourselves lead to great frustration and deprivation of focus.
 
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God created sex to be shared with someone you love i.e. wife. By wasting this gift alone, you misuse it.!

What about when a couple is apart and wants to have phone sex? And don't forget that many couples enjoy mutual masturbation.

Personally, I find it hard to just focus on sexual things when I'm masturbating. I find myself thinking about odd ball things half the time and I forget what I'm doing. I find it hard to focus without someone else there to keep my loins a-goin'.
 
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O God!

This is really pathetic! Everyone tries to find arguments in order to justify M!
Oh I dont lust during M thats why I can go on!
Oh Few times are ok! Nothing wrong!
Oh I am alone and have no friends! it's ok to M!
Oh I dont sleep well! One time before night wont ruin my life!

There are thousands of these Ohs. I passed through all of them! Each brings to pain and guilt! Stop it!
God gave us sperm to reproduce! Not for dropping it on your floor! Yes! Onan is a great example!

SINCE THIS MOMENT I WILL START CAMPAIGN AGAINST M ON THESE FORUMS! I DECLARE WAR! STOP JUSTIFYING SIN!
GOD BLESS ME AND HELP!
 
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O God!

This is really pathetic! Everyone tries to find arguments in order to justify M!
Oh I dont lust during M thats why I can go on!
Oh Few times are ok! Nothing wrong!
Oh I am alone and have no friends! it's ok to M!
Oh I dont sleep well! One time before night wont ruin my life!

There are thousands of these Ohs. I passed through all of them! Each brings to pain and guilt! Stop it!
Thats your problem though. Just like the thought of exposing an ancle brings guilt to some Muslim women.

God gave us sperm to reproduce! Not for dropping it on your floor! Yes! Onan is a great example!
If true, then why did God design the male body to have wet dreams if it goes a long time without [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]?

Bad design?
 
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