Marrying young

[SarcasmDispenser]

Is there any couples in here that either are very young and married or married young? What kind of problems has this made, or did it make while you were young?

I'm sorry if I'm not allowed to post here, but I've always been very curious about this.

 

[jesusmysaviour76]

I didn't so much get married young, but my husband and I started with children young (we weren't saved at the time). When our eldest was born I was 21 and he was 19.

This took it's toll on us. As we never got the chance to truely court or be boyfriend and girlfriend (we had only known each other three months when I fell pregnant). But in saying this, we have learnt with the help of God, how to communicate and grow together. We are slowly getting there. We still have a lot of work to do, and it's not an easy path but with every day, and the help of God we know we will succeed.

 

[progressivegal]

I didn't necissarily PLAN on getting married young, but that;s what happened. My husband is seven years older than me, so that played a huge part. Most guys in their early 20s that I dated didn't appear to me to be ready to be married at all. My husband and I knew we loved eachother, and where ready to get married. I had finished college (I didn't graduate though, but I was done) and my hisband has graduated and had a job and a house, and was ready to get married (as was I).

 

[cobweb]

I don't know if I married young or not. I was 20.

That is pretty much the normal age to get married in my family so I have nothing else to compare it to.

 

[Ari5]

Yes, I got married at 19 & looking back now I would not recommend it. I'd say that I didn't take the time to really think things through at all, I did not have the guidance I should have had.
Once you make that commitment that's it. We now have been married 15 years & we have changed into different people (which I guess happens in all cases),. I guess what I'm saying is I didn't really think about what I wanted in a mate, just went & got married.
So, I would take your time, date the person for a long time so that you get pass that infatuation stage & see what each other are really like. And if you have any doubts at all, wait.

 

[dews]

We got married when when I was 21 and my husband was 20. We dated for 4 months and got married. We have been happily married for 10.5 years and I couldn't imagine my life without him. With him we have 3 wonderful children.

My aunt and uncle got married when they were 19 years old and have been married for 50 years now.

Just because people get married young doesn't mean that they are making a mistake. How young is "young"?

 

[YellowSapphire]

I got married right before my 23rd birthday. My husband is 5 years older than me. We had been dating 3 years before we married. It was a bad decision because I didn't know myself enough. I hadn't lived on my own or been self-sufficient. If I could turn back time, I would not have married until my late 20s or early 30s.

 

[progressivegal]

I don't know if I married young or not. I was 20.

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I would say early 20's or below is DEFINITELY "young".

 

[Momma2H]

I got married at 19 and we have been just fine. Great, in fact! I don't think that age is the key factor of whether or not the marriage will last, as some people make it out to be. I think it depends more on whether or not you know each other well enough and that you are compatible and there has to be love on both sides. I'm not saying that any marriage is ever perfect, but just because some people get married younger doesn't mean that their marriage will fail as a result. There are people who married in their 30's and some in their 40's, who can't make their marriage work, so what about them?

 

[Katakalupto]

I got married when I was 19, and he was 23. It hasn't made any problems for us. We have had the normal fights that people have, but we grow closer every day. I am so thankful to God that I found my dh at the age I did. I will get, God willing, many more years with my husband, than either mine or his parents will have or had together. The only problems at all where caused by other people keeping on at us about how young we were before we got married.

 

[lin1235]

We waited until I was 26, he was 27, we had been dating for 7 years at that time. It was mostly logistical (the last 3 years was long distance) but I have to say I'm really grateful that we waited. We were both more mature, and I was definitely less selfish than I was 3 or 4 years earlier so I think it made the transition from being single to being married that much easier. I'm not saying that would be true for everyone, but it was definitely true for us.

 

[sioleabha]

I think when people say they got married too young, what they mean is "I wasn't mature enough," or "I didn't really think it through."

I met dh at 19, got pregnant at 20, married at 21, and saved that same year.

While I wish it had gone in nearly the opposite order -- saved, married, pregnant, but that really wasn't possible -- my being young had absolutely no bad effects. If anything meeting dh pulled me off of a bad path and turned me around, and getting married and having kids was a big part of what changed me for the better.

 

[c1ners]

I was 20 years old when I first got married. My husband was 25. If I had to do it all over again I would've married him the day after my 18th birthday. He was everything I ever dreamed of, and more. I loved him with all my heart and all my soul. I don't regret not a minute of being married to him.

Sometimes though we put our love for our spouse over our love for God. We need to watch out for that. Least our loved ones be taken away from us forever.

 

[Robinsegg]

Well, I've seen this go both ways. My parents were married when my mom was 18 & my dad was 21. They had me 9 months later. They're still married 30 years later.

I know another couple who married at 18 (both). They weren't ready for it, now have 3 boys and a girl on the way. They've been separated a couple of times and struggle financially. They've been married 6-7 years. They still don't have any business being married or having children together, because neither have their acts together.

I married at 21, my hubby at 31. We've been married 8 years, have two children and are doing very well.

It really depends on the maturity level of the people involved: Do they really have it together to know who they are and what they want in life and how to get it?

Rachel

 

[littlemrs]

I'll be 19 when I marry. I don't feel like I am "too young" to be getting married, bc I fully realize the sacrifices that my future husband and I both will have to make and that marriage isn't going to be a cakewalk. We've been together three years and are crazy about each other, but we know that it is going to take more than that to make a marriage work, and we are 100% ready to put forth all our efforts. We feel extremely blessed to have found each other so early in life, and we thank God for it every day!

 

[Leanna]

I got married at 19, my husband was 21. Young marriage has its advantages and disadvantages. One advantage is that we were able to have almost 5 child free years and I was still able to have my first child at 24. One disadvantage is we encountered a lot of troubles early on... I think part of it was our age.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

I was 19 and hubby 21 when we married. That was 6 years ago. I wouldn't say it created a problems for our relationship but there were difficulties/are difficulties in the finance department. I certainly wouldn't call them problems for our marriage my any means.

 

[Picture.Of.Obedience]

We got married when when I was 21 and my husband was 20. We dated for 4 months and got married. We have been happily married for 10.5 years and I couldn't imagine my life without him. With him we have 3 wonderful children.

My aunt and uncle got married when they were 19 years old and have been married for 50 years now.

Just because people get married young doesn't mean that they are making a mistake.

same here, only we have been married 4 years. I got married at 18, while still in high school (and i graduated) and we have had an amazing marriage so far. We have 1 child in heaven, 1 here and 1 on the way. God has blessed us tons!

 

[Picture.Of.Obedience]

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[sjdennis]

I got married at 19 and we have been just fine. Great, in fact! I don't think that age is the key factor of whether or not the marriage will last, as some people make it out to be. I think it depends more on whether or not you know each other well enough and that you are compatible and there has to be love on both sides. I'm not saying that any marriage is ever perfect, but just because some people get married younger doesn't mean that their marriage will fail as a result. There are people who married in their 30's and some in their 40's, who can't make their marriage work, so what about them?

Completely agree with this! Age doesn't matter, but maturity and how well you know each other AND GOD.

I was 21, my wife 22 - married 6 months now and still going strong! Best decision I ever made in my life. We have no money at all and are about to get into major debt heading overseas for my studies - and I still think it's the best decision I've ever made! All depends on whether finances worry you or not, at the end of the day, in any western country you won't starve to death, social welfare kicks in before that point, so finances are not a life and death issue, therefore not a worry! Trust God!