married young?

[SanguinaryThorn]

The fact of the matter is, the younger a couple marries the more their chances increase of getting divorced.

... I'm a paralegal whose main area of practice is divorce, separation and family law. As someone that sees the statistics of this exact thing on a daily basis, and has their hands in them every single day... I have to strongly disagree with that statement as being so black and white. There is SO much to take into account when talking about reasons divorce is persued, and oddly... age has little to do with it, from my experience. I see couples in to their 50s and 60s coming in for divorce. Couples that have been married 30+ years even. From what I've observed, there really is no "safety" when it comes to divorce... it can strike any couple, at any time, for just about any reason. I've seen just about every reason in the book, even "we're getting a divorce just to get remarried". I have seen couples that claim they got married too young, but not at such outrageous numbers to suggest that age has any more consequence, or "increased chances" than any other reason for divorce.

 

[Ari5]

snowflake -

Just wanted to agree with all being said about divorce up above. I think we think if we go to someone else our problems will be fixed, but mostly they are only creating new problems if we don't find out how to fix the problems.

My mom left when I was 4, married someone else, after 26 years later they are now in a divorce & she now has a new boyfriend. So the happiness she is searching for will she find it after 2 divorces with the next guy?? I think if you allow yourself to look at the bad things & you dwell on them you will never find that happiness. Marriage is not easy , it is hard & it takes tons of effort & patience. Maybe instead of concentrating on him & the things he does wrong, maybe you should look at yourself & what your role in the marriage is. I only say that because I have had to do that myself. Ari

 

[littlenova]

having babies way too young and suddenly and did feel the push to just live it up but then i realized he was feeling the same. we got a divorice due to stress,when all we realy needed was more help and time alone without all these kids. being married to him only with no kids wouldn't have phased me,the motherhood part is where i blamed him. i hate myself for this.