Hey I need ideas of quality time things to do, romantic things to do... etc. We have been married almost 6 years and we need some new stuff. Feeling kinda dry recently, please pray for us too because we have had an increase in fights...
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Quality time things: Write a poem or story together, try to stay up all night/most of the night talking, reminisce about the first times you met/dated each other, read the Bible together, pray together, talk about how you both first came to know God, lay next to each other. Make a cake or cookies together.
Romantic things: Depending on your budget of course... buy each other stuffed animals, whether at the dollar store or HUGE stuffed animals. Surprise each other with little notes or gifts hidden around the house in some sort of "treasure hunt," with each having a "clue" to the next one. Pick out lingerie together. Give each other massages.
I hope something gives you inspiration
Quality time things: Write a poem or story together, try to stay up all night/most of the night talking, reminisce about the first times you met/dated each other, read the Bible together, pray together, talk about how you both first came to know God, lay next to each other. Make a cake or cookies together.
Romantic things: Depending on your budget of course... buy each other stuffed animals, whether at the dollar store or HUGE stuffed animals. Surprise each other with little notes or gifts hidden around the house in some sort of "treasure hunt," with each having a "clue" to the next one. Pick out lingerie together. Give each other massages.
I hope something gives you inspiration
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http://www.the-generous-wife.com/
That's the link for "The Generous Wife" and if you sign up with your email address, you'll get daily "hints" for being loving towards your husband, little things you can do romantically....like:
That's the link for "The Generous Wife" and if you sign up with your email address, you'll get daily "hints" for being loving towards your husband, little things you can do romantically....like:
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My hubby and I are learning massage. We bought this set of 3 DVDs to teach all differant types for the different body parts. Seriously after a 10 hour shift a nice hot shower and a foot rub gets me in the good books for sure!
Do you guys go out on dates? I mean get dressed up, and be really nice to eachother and do something together out of the house without David in tow? SOmetimes if we're broke I'll get all dressed up right here at home and have a date after the kid is asleep.
Um...I'm out of ideas. I'll pray for you both though.
Do you guys go out on dates? I mean get dressed up, and be really nice to eachother and do something together out of the house without David in tow? SOmetimes if we're broke I'll get all dressed up right here at home and have a date after the kid is asleep.
Um...I'm out of ideas. I'll pray for you both though.
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You need to have time apart from each other too. We work together, so that can be difficult sometimes. Spend time together, do something to laugh at, watch a funny film. We had this problem as well, but when we laugh together we get closer. Sounds wierd I know. Discuss things with your husband, the things that annoy you, and how you'd appreciate it if he would do whatever for you, how happy it would make you feel. we did this and it helped alot, cos we weren't happy and were grumpy. Hope that makes sense, cos I've beed at work for 15hrs now.
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The problem might be boredom. Have him take you out for a night at the rough part of town and go slummin.
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Leanna said:Yes it is boredum..... but I don't understand what else you are talking about
Excitement from dangerous situations like chillin in the bad part of town. Thrillseeking! Go skydiving, traveling, spelunking?sp etc... Get a little variety.
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Leanna,
GenerousWife is a good resource. There's one for the men too
Have you two read Love Languages? That could help with ideas... I think your best bet might be to challenge yourself to do one thing each day (that you wouldn't usually) that is something that will cause him to feel loved and cherished. It might be as simple as going with his pick of movie to watch, or sending him a jar of his fave lollies (must be embellished with ribbons, love hearts and a balloon) at work. Or taking him out for a picnic brekkie, etc.
Does that help, or have I missed the point?
GenerousWife is a good resource. There's one for the men too
Have you two read Love Languages? That could help with ideas... I think your best bet might be to challenge yourself to do one thing each day (that you wouldn't usually) that is something that will cause him to feel loved and cherished. It might be as simple as going with his pick of movie to watch, or sending him a jar of his fave lollies (must be embellished with ribbons, love hearts and a balloon) at work. Or taking him out for a picnic brekkie, etc.
Does that help, or have I missed the point?
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Do you mean the Five Love Languages? We read that and know our love languages.... but I don't think it has any ideas. I appreciate the idea, hehe, but he would KILL me if I sent a jar of lollies to his work.... that would be embarrassing to him... he's kinda funny like that. I could probably stick stuff in the car. I'll check out the website (thanks andiesmama).
I'll check out the website (thanks andiesmama).
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Leanna said:
Shok said:
Leanna said:
Hmmmmm - I've never known a lack of romantic things to do to cause fights...
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You always have to be sarcastic don't you? I didn't know I had to give a run down on everything that happens. The increase in fights has more to do with my husband's new work schedule he is working a lot and we are getting less sleep, and there are long days where I am here with David (son) for 15 hours.... not that its any of your business. If I ask for romantic ideas, how about you give some rather than start insinuating there is something wrong with my marriage? Thanks.
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Darlin' - you are the one who said you were having an increase in fights, not me. You could have simply asked for romantic ideas, but you didn't. You continued on and mentioned the increase in fights. Sorry, but that's hard to ignore and pretend that it doesn't exist, and it's not really very helpfu to you and others who might read the thread with similiar situations.
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Leanna said:
I know what you're going through. When I was in the Marines my wife was with children for long lengths of time. When I got home I wanted alone time and she would demand we talk, as we were both irritable we clashed. As for romantic stuff sometimes just getting a sitter and going to dinner and a movie can recharge things a bit. You don't have to do the crazy stuff.
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Well, I know that when time goes by and my DH and I aren't as "romantic"
as we usually are...tempers seem to get shorter & we snap at each other more until we make the effort to get back on track with each other on a more "personal" level...
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