Make or Break

[~HopeFloats~]

What are the things that make or break your choice to persue or not persue a relationship with someone?

I get the normal ones of Faith, Virgin-- Non Virgin.

But what has made you in the past or will in the future?

For me I cannot handle someone who has victim mentality.. that to me is immaturity beyond words.the negitivity would consume the possible relationship.

 

[Tenorvoice]

The biggest thing for me is if they had been divorced, and her ex-husband was still living.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Thinking pre-marital sex is OK, compulsive spending problems, doesn't like dogs, doesn't like my family, does like spiders, bad attitude/negative/pessimistic, verbally or physically abusive/or shows definite warning signs of it, has an STD, wants/plans to move a lot, controlling, lies

I think that should cover it.

 

[LookingTotheFuture]

I admire caring compassionate people who have faced adversity in their lives and have risen about it.

Some people still have some social issues, but as long as they try to be strong, move forward, and progress, I feel akin with them. For those who feel defeated, or seem lost, I can share advice with them and show them the way, but couldn't see getting involved in a relationship with them until they've gotten things better worked out.

 

[awashinlove]

Obvious moral issues aside, lots of anger and a picky attitude; dislike for hard work and aversion to offering a helping hand (literally and financially); disapproving of pets in the home and the taking in of injured/abandoned animals; dislike for God's great outdoors and activities like hiking; a judgmental personality that leads to bigotedness; universalism; no sense of humor; inability to laugh when everything's going wrong; complete unawareness of current events; having no dreams and anticipation for being a good, loving, loyal father - all absolute deal breakers in my book.

 

[Tenorvoice]

Well I guess if we are going to get picky then....

Tattoos
Body Peircings
Smoker
Drinker
Liberal
Non-Born again Evagelical Christian
not willing to go out and work if needed, (in other words wants to sit on their tail and collect wellfare).

There are others, but Ihave probly offended to many people by now.

 

[plum]

Well I guess if we are going to get picky then....

Tattoos
Body Peircings
Drinker
Liberal


There are others, but Ihave probly offended to many people by now.

darn i guess we aren't made for each other, Tenor!

nah no offense taken. we all have personal tastes

 

[plum]

my list of breaks (serious turn-offs):

smoker
pattern of cheating/casual sex/playing the field/eroticism
excessive immaturity and a lack of respect or care for others
violent or abusive mentally, verbally, or physically
lazy/no ambition or drive or work ethic
needy emotionally/not emotionally stable or mature
racism
party/club lifestyle
overly materialistic or vain
overly competitive at everything
"radical left" or "radical right"
not supportive or encouraging of my spiritual growth and the path I'm on
and if he isn't truly seeking G-d or passionate for Him

 

[Matt.9:22]

my make or break list:

-doesn't believe in God/ mocks the Christian religion
-bad relationship with his mother (foreshadows his relationship with me)
-mean to children or animals
-rude to service staff (cashiers, waiters, valets, etc.)
-intolerant of other ethnicities/ languages (I'm really into languages and learning a second language has made me really tolerant to other cultures).
-not interested in learning new things ( I love new experiences
-he's one of those men who thinks a woman's place is in the house, cooking and taking care of babies. I don't consider myself a women's libber, but I'm not going tens of thousands of dollars into debt to sit home all day thinking of what I can do to make him happy.
-he drinks or smokes. I abhor these behaviors.
-he's not willing to work. I can kind of understand the artist/hippie-finding myself thing, but I can't really tolerate it in a man I'm in a serious relationship with. If a man doesn't work, a man doesn't eat. And a man who depends on a woman, when he is fully capable of working himself, isn't much of a man.

I'll probably come back and edit this to add more later.

 

[christianflyboy]

lemme see here, serious deal breakers

liberal,
Not willing to let me persue a career as a pilot
tatoo(s)
smoking,
drinking
peircing other than the ears
vain in self appearance (thats not a permission slip to let yourself go either)
cant stand the clarinet
not willing to have any children
a feminist
would rather work than take care of the children.

I think that pretty much covers the basics.

 

[Arclight610]

Liberal
Anti-Military
grossly overweight
No goals or aspirations in life
No confidence
Rolls over and dies to easily (giving up in the face of adversity instead of destroying it)
Self-Righteous
Arrogant
Cheaters
Liars

-TJ-

 

[Llauralin]

So... are you guys really saying that if a girl got a tatoo at some point in her past, even if she regrets it now, that you absolutly wouldn't date her? Or is that just huge hideous ones?

 

[Matt.9:22]

So... are you guys really saying that if a girl got a tatoo at some point in her past, even if she regrets it now, that you absolutly wouldn't date her? Or is that just huge hideous ones?

For me, the only thing that would make a tatoo a make-or-break is if the tattoo was racist. For instance, if I decided to date someone who was a reformed white supremacist and had a swastika or die slur word die tattooed on him, he'd have to have it removed or it would be a deal breaker. Even if he's turned from that idiocy, I would not be able to deal with seeing a tattooed reminder of it everyday.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I'll post only make or break things that actually happened:

1) Marries some other dude

2)Goes from exciting and happy to mean and nasty without any cause.

 

[Arclight610]

So... are you guys really saying that if a girl got a tatoo at some point in her past, even if she regrets it now, that you absolutly wouldn't date her? Or is that just huge hideous ones?

I would date her as long as the tattoos weren't derrogatory in any way and she wasn't covered with them. I have 2 of them.

-TJ-

 

[Tenorvoice]

So... are you guys really saying that if a girl got a tatoo at some point in her past, even if she regrets it now, that you absolutly wouldn't date her? Or is that just huge hideous ones?

Any tattoo for me is a major turn off/breaker

 

[JPPT1974]

Break:
Mean People
Arrogant Federal agents
Rudeness
Talking behind others backs
Smoking
Drinking
Doing drugs
Guns
Machettes/Huge knifes
Liars
Cheaters
Stealing
Cold-heartedness

 

[joyouspirit]

Break list:

Liar
Cheater
Verbally abusive
Physically abusive
Controlling
Won't be able to love my kids

 

[ThinkofHim]

Is insane.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

smoker(unless they are a light smoker currently attempting to quit or very soon intending to quit)

heavy drinker and regular partyer

arrogant/proud

No sense of humour

Liar

Controlling

Overly passive, wishy washy, indecisive

Very overweight

Cusses, especially the heavier cuss words.

Doesnt like kids

Doesn't respect women

Doesnt like rabbits

Doesnt atleast work at taking care of their body.

Heavy full grown beard

Does drugs (I'm not talking about prescription medications here)

Very impatient

Anger issues

Very insensitive/inconsiderate

Judgemental of my upbringing

Believes premarital sex is ok (doesnt matter if they are a virgin though)

Doesnt pray or read his bible regularily

Can't support himself financially