Major Problem, Please Help!

[silverprince]

Posted this in the Men's Corner, but thought I would post it here also seeing as I think it is relevant.

Hey guys!
This is I think the first time that I have posted here on this site and haven't actually been here in 3 years.
Anyway, I am having a major problem which I would consider a man problem.
I hope this does not offend anyone, but this is serious.
It is best to be up front and honest, I am actually attracted to guys as well as girls. But this is quite a recent development...
Since I have started my second year of university, I have been having stronger feelings for one of my male friends especially and it is getting quite bad. And also, what do you think I should do in terms of my friend, who I would actually consider my best friend. I want to have a good, healthy relationship with him, but right not I am just at a loss of what to do.

 

[Criada]

I am sorry you are dealing with this.. it is a very difficult thing.
If you are attracted to both genders, you can choose not to act on the attraction to males... think of your attraction to your friend in similar terms to an attraction to a girl who you cannot start a relationship with... a friend's girlfriend or a married woman.
We all, whether homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual, are sometimes tempted sexually in ways that we know are wrong. Temptation is not sin, the issue is how you act on it.
I would usually advise someone in your position to avoid the person they feel this way about... at least for a while. I don't know whether you can do this with your friend, or eve whether you can tell your friend some of what you feel and explain that you need to withdraw a little.

If you need to talk, please PM me. I have had similar issues (yes women have them too!) and I'm a good listener.
I hope you can work this out and find peace with your feelings.

 

[Skilletdude]

I struggle with this too a little actually. I don't have any answers really. I just pray whenever I'm letting my mind wander off too far let God handle it. I don't stress over it cause if you do, I find then I can't get it out of my mind. So I just accept that what I was imagining or thinking is wrong, tell God about it and ask for forgiveness and help me. If I try to force thoughts and feelings and stuff out, they kind of keep coming back. Like if someone says don't think of a pink elephant for the next 30 seconds. You won't be able too. Stop stressing over it and just go on and let God handle it. I mean yeah it will pop back up but at least I'm not dwelling over it and entertaining demons.

Avoiding the person for a while is ok I guess. I find that when I haven't seen him for a while though, when I do, the attraction is quite strong and I get really depressed so I don't know. I have a pretty good understanding of why I feel this way or have this attraction. It started really quite innocent so I'm trying to address those problems...

There is a pretty good Christian site called livehope.org and they have a private forum for men struggling with same sex attraction. You may wanna try there if you get a chance. Lots of encouragement from others who struggle with this and a little easier to talk about everything. I haven't been there in a while... but yeah.