Lost and directionless

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Does anyone else feel like they have no direction and they don't know quite what they're doing exceot just trying to get through another day?

I'm studying and working so it should feel like I'm aiming towards a goal but I'm not. I'm not doing that well in my studies, out of 6 exams I wrote I failed 4. I can't concentrate that much, I feel like giving up, I'm just so tired of struggling.

It feels like I'm never going to get anywhere, I just feel so lost. I want the earth to stop spinning so I can get off for a while. I'm such a mess but I just try to get through each day but that's not the way I want to live. I want to do well in my studies and enjoy life.

to everybody.

 

[HolyOne87]

Does anyone else feel like they have no direction and they don't know quite what they're doing exceot just trying to get through another day?

I'm studying and working so it should feel like I'm aiming towards a goal but I'm not. I'm not doing that well in my studies, out of 6 exams I wrote I failed 4. I can't concentrate that much, I feel like giving up, I'm just so tired of struggling.

It feels like I'm never going to get anywhere, I just feel so lost. I want the earth to stop spinning so I can get off for a while. I'm such a mess but I just try to get through each day but that's not the way I want to live. I want to do well in my studies and enjoy life.

to everybody.

i know how you feel. I went through that this past semester. i just passed pretty much all my classes (2 of them i at least got b's but the others i got C-'s on). I barely was able to concentrate..In one week, i lost my cat of 8 years, lost a boyfriend, and then lost the one who said he loved me (another guy..we kind of liked each other..then when my ex and i broke up we went out together and we both loved every minute of it..then 2 days later, didnt love me anymore).
One thing i learned is to not give up. Things do get better..sometimes it happens in "waves" before it becomes more constant(like something great will happen then a few days later things might not be so good).
Have you taken a vacation? Maybe you just need a break from reality for a bit..just to get away from everything for a bit and just relax..
you can do both(enjoy life and focus in on your studies). Maybe talk to a few friends at your school (ones in your classes)..maybe have study nights and stuff..You will both be spending time with your friends and also learning about things you need for school.
I do hope and pray things become better for you!And I am sure you have lots of wisdom and you will get somewhere in life!

 

[HannahBanana]

I feel the exact same way, TLB. And I, too, am in college. Maybe it's common for college students to feel this way. One thing that has helped me somewhat is seeing a therapist. If you're not already seeing one, it couldn't hurt to try therapy out for at least a little while. Good luck and I'll keep you in my thoughts.

 

[UnitynLove]

Hello how are you TLB? Do you have a specific reason you are feeling this way.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

i know how you feel. I went through that this past semester. i just passed pretty much all my classes (2 of them i at least got b's but the others i got C-'s on). I barely was able to concentrate..In one week, i lost my cat of 8 years, lost a boyfriend, and then lost the one who said he loved me (another guy..we kind of liked each other..then when my ex and i broke up we went out together and we both loved every minute of it..then 2 days later, didnt love me anymore).
One thing i learned is to not give up. Things do get better..sometimes it happens in "waves" before it becomes more constant(like something great will happen then a few days later things might not be so good).
Have you taken a vacation? Maybe you just need a break from reality for a bit..just to get away from everything for a bit and just relax..
you can do both(enjoy life and focus in on your studies). Maybe talk to a few friends at your school (ones in your classes)..maybe have study nights and stuff..You will both be spending time with your friends and also learning about things you need for school.
I do hope and pray things become better for you!And I am sure you have lots of wisdom and you will get somewhere in life!

I study through a correspondence university so I don't interact much at all with other students. This year I do plan on organising study groups which will give me a chance to meet people, have fun and hopefully help me learn.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

I feel the exact same way, TLB. And I, too, am in college. Maybe it's common for college students to feel this way. One thing that has helped me somewhat is seeing a therapist. If you're not already seeing one, it couldn't hurt to try therapy out for at least a little while. Good luck and I'll keep you in my thoughts.

I have wondered whether I should see a therapist. I just have a distrust for people in that line of work. If I want to open up to somebody it's easier if its a good friend then a stranger.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Hello how are you TLB? Do you have a specific reason you are feeling this way.

Hey, maybe its because I failed so many subjects and I wonder if I'm smart enough to get my degree or find a relevant job if I do eventually finish.
I'm trying to study for supplementary exams and I'm under pressure to pass because I don't want to redo any more subjects then I already am, I have to start thinking ahead to my new subjects that I have to organise as soon as my supplementary exams are finished and I have to work out a study plan and try not to get behind with assignments and try to be more disciplined then i have been. I still have to register for a couple more subjects which I can only do when my supp results are in.
I can't always think straight and concentrate, maybe its information overload. I'm trying to get at least a 60% aggregate this year which doesn't sound that difficult but I've just been scraping through on most of my subjects up until this point. If I want to do Honours I have to get a 60% aggregate on my third level subjects, I'm mostly doing second year subjects this year but I want to try fir 60% this year so I know how much work I'll have to put in.

I know most of that information was unnecessary but its just to give you an idea of how much I have to think about and plan.

 

[HannahBanana]

I have wondered whether I should see a therapist. I just have a distrust for people in that line of work. If I want to open up to somebody it's easier if its a good friend then a stranger.

Hmm...well that's tough. Could it be though that you haven't found the right therapist yet? My favorite therapists have been the ones who have allowed me to become friends with them, so I can totally relate on the "hard to open up to strangers" thing. Therapy is the only thing I can think of to advise you to try, though, sorry. Good luck.

 

[Silver-winged Flyer]

Hmm...well that's tough. Could it be though that you haven't found the right therapist yet? My favorite therapists have been the ones who have allowed me to become friends with them, so I can totally relate on the "hard to open up to strangers" thing. Therapy is the only thing I can think of to advise you to try, though, sorry. Good luck.

I've only ever spoken to one person and he was a family friend so it was also difficult spilling my guts to him, it was strange talking to someone who had known me all my life. The fact that he didn't seem to understand that I could not like myself didn't help.
Thanks for the advice, it is definitely something I should try.

 

[HolyOne87]

I study through a correspondence university so I don't interact much at all with other students. This year I do plan on organising study groups which will give me a chance to meet people, have fun and hopefully help me learn.

thats good. I hope that works out for you!