Looks or Personality

[toastface_grillah]

Personality means a lot, but what matters more is whether or not the girl's personality clicks with mine. She can have the most loving and gracious personality, and a face for billboards, but if we can never find the same wavelength, it just won't work.

 

[edwardfsmith]

Personality is far more important.

I notice looks.
I have known a girl that was not attractive to me at first.
When I got to know her personality she was very attractive.
Her looks were very attractive!
So I agree with saucy

 

[SnowyMacie]

Personality is more important, although I am attracted to looks first. I have had occasions where I wasn't attracted to her looks, but gained an overall attraction because of personality. I am not going to say looks don't matter, but personality is numero uno (number one)

 

[Hadassah_]

I am one who thinks that a person's personality makes them look more attractive to me. There have been many times when I wasn't necessarily attracted to someone, but once I got to know them, I fell for them because they were beautiful to me.

This.

A man is attractive and appealing to me because of his personality.

 

[Niels]

Personality means a lot, but what matters more is whether or not the girl's personality clicks with mine. She can have the most loving and gracious personality, and a face for billboards, but if we can never find the same wavelength, it just won't work.

+1

 

[Saucy]

This.

A man is attractive and appealing to me because of his personality.

 

[broken_one]

Personality. Of course says the one who doesn't have the looks.

 

[Sketcher]

Both, and tack on character. I'm greedy like that.

 

[Gym]

Do dead horses still have personality?

 

[Zenaida]

I'm mercenary. I go for their bank account.
(I'm incapable of having a serious answer to this question anymore)

Dead horses have personality, it's just not their own. You can't host a scavenger party without attracting a few bold personalities.

Anyway

Both are important. Which I believe is the standard answer. To be long winded about it I care about looks more than it seems I should. Perhaps I care about looks and personality more than I should.

I will not date someone I find unattractive, even if I think their personality is amazing i'm not going to "give it a go". No-one has ever become more attractive to me due to their personality, i've enjoyed their company, found them pleasant, and thought that they'd make a good husband one day; but not for me.

My thoughts have never changed when it comes to someone like that. Usually if there have been people i've seemingly developed attraction to later on I never found them unattractive, I had just not considered them in terms of relationship potential. There's a difference.

On the flip side I can find someone very attractive and still not want to be in a relationship with them as their personality is not one that gels with mine. They do not necessarily have an ugly personality, but what they do have is an outlook on life that I do not share. I do not find them less attractive physically, they are just

Neither is more important than the other to me, they each become important at different stages and for different reasons.