Nobody I know in real life has ever been in this situation, and I was hoping maybe there was somebody that had been here. I apologize if some of it is just venting.
Now, don't get me wrong: my fiance is the man of my dreams. I can't imagine anyone being so perfect for me, and I'm deeply in love with him. There's nothing wrong with our relationship, and there's nobody else in the picture. It's just that we barely talk. As in, he's deployed in Iraq right now, and I only get to talk with him 20 minutes a day. And then, because of the time difference, he's often too tired for coherent conversation.
I'm really not sure I can do this for six months, let alone during heaven knows how many future deployments. It's not that I'm not used to him being away in general...We've been long-distance through most of the relationship. I'm fine when we can talk for at least an hour or so a day. But since he switched sections that's just not going to happen. He gets to email me even less, since his internet access is restricted at work.
The thing is, I'm not even sure I can talk about this with him, considering there's no way he can be alone to talk and we'd only have 20 minutes before we'd have to wait until the next day. And since there's not much he can actually do about it, it would mostly just be stressing him out.
I just don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can be in a relationship with someone I can't confide in. I know none of this is his fault, but that doesn't make my ability to tolerate it any greater.
Now, don't get me wrong: my fiance is the man of my dreams. I can't imagine anyone being so perfect for me, and I'm deeply in love with him. There's nothing wrong with our relationship, and there's nobody else in the picture. It's just that we barely talk. As in, he's deployed in Iraq right now, and I only get to talk with him 20 minutes a day. And then, because of the time difference, he's often too tired for coherent conversation.
I'm really not sure I can do this for six months, let alone during heaven knows how many future deployments. It's not that I'm not used to him being away in general...We've been long-distance through most of the relationship. I'm fine when we can talk for at least an hour or so a day. But since he switched sections that's just not going to happen. He gets to email me even less, since his internet access is restricted at work.
The thing is, I'm not even sure I can talk about this with him, considering there's no way he can be alone to talk and we'd only have 20 minutes before we'd have to wait until the next day. And since there's not much he can actually do about it, it would mostly just be stressing him out.
I just don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can be in a relationship with someone I can't confide in. I know none of this is his fault, but that doesn't make my ability to tolerate it any greater.
