lonely

[Jesusisgood]

I am 19, and have never been in a relationship. Watching all the young Christian people my age getting married or having a bf and rubbing it in my face makes me hate myself. Im tired and give up. No man will ever love me. Im told Im pretty but thats not good enough. Only Christian guys I like reject me for some frumpy chick whos blond or has big chest. Like really and its worldly to like me because I wear makeup??? Who's the worldly one sir?

 

[Jesusisgood]

i dont want to live anymore cause there is no point. Im not ever going to be cherished. and I feel like Im going to hell and Im not forgiven of any of my sins. I hate myself.

 

[hypostatic]

Praying for you. You're still very young, there's so much time for you to meet the perfect man! I met my fiancee last year, and now we're engaged (she's 31)!

 

[ReginaPhlange]

Jesusisgood, I feel for you. You sound just like me at 19.

I was popular and had many friends, but it was like I was a man repeller! I had my first relationship at age 20, which lasted for 6 months. My second relationship began when I was 24. I'm still in that relationship and we're engaged (I'm 35 now).

At one point, I never thought I'd be in a relationship, let alone engaged to be married.

Think about the name you chose for yourself on this forum - Jesus Is Good - He is!! We don't always understand Him, but I feel that His plan for you is to meet the right person, not just any person! Lean on Jesus and share your feelings with Him through prayer. I'll be praying for you too

I agree with hypostatic, not to sound patronising, but you are still young and have plenty of time to find someone who is as wonderful as you!

Many blessings x

 

[jsimms615]

praying for you

 

[charity_22]

you're still young my dear, only 19. there are still more Blessings to come.. divert all of these frustrations into something that will improve yourself more like studying, learning more things.. having a degree and excel into something you love to do. There are many more opportunities to come..

we are saying these because we've been there at we've been wronged so many times. =)

God bless you.

 

[Linus]

I'm really sorry that you feel that way!

My suggestion to focus on studies and other things and let God bless you with the right one in His own time. He knows what your hearts ache for.

Praying for you in the name of Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!

 

[bocannes]

You need to stop being envious of other people. You are only hurting yourself when you judge these "frumpy", "blond" or "big-chested" girls. And comparing yourself to other people is a horrible habit that will only make you unhappy.

I understand your situation. It can be tough being single. We want so much to love and be loved. At the same time, we (people) are good at making things overly complicated and painful. We spend so much time "making sure" that *someone else* is the "right" person - trying to protect ourselves or control our lives. All you can control are your choices. You need to make *yourself* the right person.

You are not alone in your suffering. I have had to wait ten years for God to even point me to the right person for me. I've waited another year for God to open the door for a relationship between us (I'm still waiting).

Be patient. Fight. Stand up. You were made in the image and likeness of *God*. Your life has meaning and purpose. And if you trust in Him and follow Him, you will find joy.

Praying for you.

 

[marcus900424]

I havent been in relationship and im 22.. :{
Im probably classed as nerd:{

But I learnt to live as a lone wolf :{

"Alone is strong"

Bye.

 

[Sarah2BH]

I felt very similarly until one month before I met my first and only boyfriend (now fiance).

I was all alone at work (a little shop that I was in charge of running a couple days a week) and I was depressed. I paced the floor and spoke out loud to God. I told God that I knew that I wanted a husband and I knew that He had given me that desire. I pleaded with God to lead me to that one special someone or else replace the desire with something else. I asked Him to take me to the bottom of this pit I felt like I was in because every time I felt like I couldn't get any lower, I would. I asked to see the bottom and to know that there was only "up" to look forward to. I gave my life to Him and asked His will to be done.

 

[Sarah2BH]

PS: I was 21 years old.

 

[bocannes]

I felt very similarly until one month before I met my first and only boyfriend (now fiance).

I was all alone at work (a little shop that I was in charge of running a couple days a week) and I was depressed. I paced the floor and spoke out loud to God. I told God that I knew that I wanted a husband and I knew that He had given me that desire. I pleaded with God to lead me to that one special someone or else replace the desire with something else. I asked Him to take me to the bottom of this pit I felt like I was in because every time I felt like I couldn't get any lower, I would. I asked to see the bottom and to know that there was only "up" to look forward to. I gave my life to Him and asked His will to be done.

Psalm 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Thanks for sharing this story. I pray that God will bless your engagement and marriage

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

May God bless you in His Merciful Love.

 

[sirender]

 

[HeSaveDave]

You're going to find someone sweet and special when you least suspect it. I know it's hard right now. Hang in there and seek God. He'll carry you. I'll pray for you.

 

[The Fire Rises]

I can, in some ways, understand your pain.

Today, my family and I have experienced heart-wrenching agony over the loss of our dog, whose life was claimed by cancer. It is a dark day for us, indeed. I prayed so hard for God to heal her, as I'm sure you've prayed for Him to find a suitable match for you. I know, believe me. These things can challenge your faith and shake your confidence in God to its very core.

But you cannot afford to give up. I'd like to share this poem with you.

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
Many scenes from my life frlashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,
other times there was one set of footprints

This bothered me because I noticed
that during the low periods of my life,
when I was suffering from
anguish, sorrow and defeat,
I could see only one set of footprints

So I said to the Lord,
"You promised me Lord,
that if I followed you,
you would walk with me always.
But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life
there have been only been one set of footprints in the sand.
Why, when I need you most, you have not been there for me?"

The Lord replied,
"The times when you have seen only one set of footprints in the sand,
is when I carried you."

 

[LillieRose730]

I was never in a relationship until I was almost 20 and I can understand the feelings you are having. Everyone else around me always had someone and I felt extremely lonely and like an outsider. I will pray for you.

 

[SplendidTree]

Praying!

 

[Jesusisgood]

thank you so much for your sensitivity and encouragement and prayers! I love you guys I just read through them and it did help to hear that so many people went through this same issue Thanks!

 

[Jesusisgood]

Please continue to pray about this situtation please. I'm really hurting again but seeing all of your posts honestly does give me hope It's when I forget what was written i feel lonely again. I need God in my life again.