lonely nights

[faith177]

How do you deal with the quiet nights, being stuck at home when you would really rather be out, or socializing in some manner.

 

[BeanMak]

I read a lot of books, played on the internet, took the kids to the movies- we did that a lot. Had dinner at my sister's house. Visited with friends who also had kids...

 

[dawnsday]

i prayed a lot that my friend would hurry up and have babies too.

they waited five years then all got pg in the same six month period. now that i can get a sitter to go see a movie, they are at home with new babies.

God's a funny guy like that. LOL

 

[InFathersArms]

How do you deal with the quiet nights, being stuck at home when you would really rather be out, or socializing in some manner.

By socializing in other manners, such as posting here online, calling family or good friends.

If you're stuck with a child or children, it's time to find something they can all do, whether it's attend a children's museum, or play in the park, especially duing the summertime, when the sun's up late.

 

[Demi4God]

With my alone time I do yoga and I do have friends over often with their own kids.I have 2 galfriends that are divoriced and so this is actually helpful that we all share alone time. I do believe I am going to be better off and happier in my new life and I remind myself daily.There is something better for me and God has it all laid out,ok?
I also sit in church alot.I get peace from this.

 

[TexasSky]

I recommend to all parents, single or not, that they develop a little network with other parents. (If you don't know any yet, try your church.)

This gives you a chance to do events together where you all bring your children, and it gives you a chance to exchange nights out when they take your kids one night so you can relax, and you take their kids one night so they can relax.

These arrangements have the benefit of not costing you extra money beyond sometimes needing to feed their kids. You watch theirs for free one week, they watch yours for free the next week.

 

[Laurie919]

How do you deal with the quiet nights, being stuck at home when you would really rather be out, or socializing in some manner.

I have never felt "stuck" at home. I love being a mom and being a single mom doesn't bother me. I acutally think it is easier to be just the two of us than it is to have a man who requires more attention than children do.

 

[Ceili]

I'm staying busy. I have alot of interests and things going on but the worst time for me is bedtime.It's that alone time that costs me some tears.

 

[thebigguy]

I love black people!

 

[kanga22]

I'm personally "over" wanting to go out and socialize in the evening. The interactions I get during the day at work and talking with friends on the phone is enough for me.

My kids get bored of staying home, so for them I plan activities and events. Recently we joined the YMCA. Now whenever we get bored and need some exercise we can just pop over there and swim or play raquetball.

 

[Ceili]

Working is helping me but a long with late nights comes snacking and more time to think. I try and work nights thought to help me. Nights are the hardest.

 

[Lori-lee]

As far as most nights alone... a glass of wine while surfing the net; crafts; i don't watch tv much but maybe a fave tv show. Some housework that is difficult to do during the day with a 17mth old (like ironing- not that i do it much though haha)

But every so often I get those nights where you're really full of restless energy and would love to go hang around a bunch of adults and dance til your feet drop off! I haven't really got an answer for those nights besides surfing/reading/knitting til your eyeballs dryy up and you finally convince yourself you need sleep... or putting ur mp3 player to highest volume (ok, highest volume bearable) and cleaning your shower and floors with an vigour you didn't know you possessed.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

I formed a League (we call ourselves The League of Extraordinary Females) and it's just all my girlfriends getting together to support, love and celebrate each other. Some of us have kids and so some of our activities are family centred (everyone still joins in but those of us who have kids can bring the little ones). We also have nights where we do something after the kids are asleep, like all of us come to one persons house and watch moves, eat junk, do facials, or play games. Then we have our grown up time where we get babysitters and go out to a nice dinner or go dancing...

I also started a book club that meets once a month so some of those nights I'm home reading and working on questions for the book...

Plus I take on alot of volunteer work so that sometimes consumes me... and hobbies are great too! I started quilting this summer and it's going beautifully!

The key for me was to busy my time and think positively about it. Don't get upset about what you "can't" do... look at what you can...

Prayers that you don't feel lonely!

 

[romans324]

Me I don't like alone time, in fact I honestly don't know what that is? When it is thier mom's weekend I usually work. LAtely I have been going out with a friend, getting Christams stuff done. Although this Christmas will be the first time I maybe alone, with kids living at 11am and parents going out and no family really around.

 

[godsbassist]

I read a ton of books. Church networking is the bomb diggity, though. We have so many church grandmas that they 'fight' over who gets to watch him. I feel guilty leaving him with them, but they really do like it.

 

[faith177]

That is awesome that you have that network, dont feel guilty. I know that I love having my friends baby sometimes because my kids are alot older its nice to have a different age stage for a visit. I think its great that you are having your kids in a church family also.

 

[JC'S~GIRL]

Whatever Interests I Have That I Can Do At Home, I Do It. Even Just Relaxing And Watching A Movie Can Do U Some Good.