Hi there - I'll give a brief summary of what's going on and hopefully someone can point me in the right direction. My husband and I relocated to a different region for his job a little over a year ago...the same day that I found out I was pregnant. I had a difficult pregnancy, and a sick newborn, both of which kept me isolated until a couple of months ago. As soon as the baby was okay to go out regularly, my car died. Now that we're healthy enough to leave the house, we have no transportation, and no way of getting any for the time being. We live on a 55mph road, so we cannot walk anywhere. The winters here are 6 months long and very cold.
The flip side of the coin is that I'm a freelance designer, and we're in the middle of re-modeling the house, and I am perpetually buried under a never ending pile of housework, freelance work, and construction tasks. I try and try, but cannot lesson the weight of work that is on my shoulders.
I feel like a slave, locked in a prison. My husband works long hours, and does what he can, but it's usually not very much. I beg him to help me, since he's the only one I ever see. He see's that I break things around the house daily out of frustration, but all he ever suggests is that I "do less and take some time for myself". He doesn't understand that "doing less" upsets my clients, and puts more weight on my shoulders. We need my freelance income, and it's the only thing in my life that makes me feel like I have any purpose at all.
Please help me, I'm so lonely and overwhelmed with work. I desperately need help, and can't drive to a therapist (and I don't know anyone who can babysit!). I've asked some other people about this, and they just told me that I was ungrateful. All that did was make me feel even more horrible, so if that's what you think of me, then please keep it to yourself.
Thank you so much.
The flip side of the coin is that I'm a freelance designer, and we're in the middle of re-modeling the house, and I am perpetually buried under a never ending pile of housework, freelance work, and construction tasks. I try and try, but cannot lesson the weight of work that is on my shoulders.
I feel like a slave, locked in a prison. My husband works long hours, and does what he can, but it's usually not very much. I beg him to help me, since he's the only one I ever see. He see's that I break things around the house daily out of frustration, but all he ever suggests is that I "do less and take some time for myself". He doesn't understand that "doing less" upsets my clients, and puts more weight on my shoulders. We need my freelance income, and it's the only thing in my life that makes me feel like I have any purpose at all.
Please help me, I'm so lonely and overwhelmed with work. I desperately need help, and can't drive to a therapist (and I don't know anyone who can babysit!). I've asked some other people about this, and they just told me that I was ungrateful. All that did was make me feel even more horrible, so if that's what you think of me, then please keep it to yourself.
Thank you so much.
- from a Mum who had postnatal depression.
