Lonely and need your prayers

[winglovesall]

Definitely praying for you -- my friend!

 

[lovinChrist4ever]

This is always so hard to give advice on, b/c none of us really know God's will for your life. I know what it's like to be single and not want to be, cause I am. I know what it's like to pray and recieve a wonderful answer and then have that wonderful person taken away and still not understand why, b/c it's happened to me. People can give you a thousand opinions and their own speculations on your situation- they can say it's because you've sinned, b/c you don't have enough faith, b/c you don't know God's will, b/c you aren't ready yet, etc. People don't really know. The only one that knows your situaiton and can ultimately do anything is God. Don't stop praying if this is truly your heart's desire. Ask God for His answers. I know it hurts. It hurts me to think that there might be no one in the world to love me. I am sure of God's love, but I would like to see love in the flesh- to know by a physical touch and audible voice that someone loves me; God created us like that. It hurts to think that I might never have children, b/c that one of the most precious dreams to me. God has a reason for everything , but by golly when life disappoints you it can hurt really bad.

ITA with this post (my experience, hope and desire as well) ... I am continuing to pray that Father God's will and timing for my life will manifest!!

 

[RefinedByFire]

But what happens if you play to win and then find out that you become a loser yourself in the end? Ever thought about that?

Ever thought about NOT playing the "game" at all and losing in the beginning?

Even if you did "lose" at the end and find out he/she wasn't the one for you, at least you tried. How else would you have found out otherwise? Matter of fact, you didn't really "lose" at all because you got to learn something about yourself and makes you that much more surefooted of what you want or don't want in a potential mate. That is how wisdom is attained. Through life experiences. Yeah, God gives wisdom to those who asks--we all know that. But he doesn't send the UPS truck out to deliver it to you in a package form. You learn by living life and yes, you'll get burned from time to time.

I guess I'll have to expound on my term of the dating "game." I placed it in quotations for a reason. When I mean "game" that means you have to take an active part in it. I don't mean game as in the secular sense of being a player and be the love-em-and-leave-em kind of person. I'm not superficial.
You have to go out on dates and see. And guess what, if you ask a girl out or you get asked out by a guy and you both go out, you are taking an active part in ruling out a partner--hence "playing" the "game."

The threadstarter doesn't even do this. He admits that he's 28 years old and NEVER been on a date. How is he going to get anybody? I've learned that confidence goes a long way with women. You don't have to be a Don Juan or Brad Pitt look-alike to be confident. An average looking joe can get a date simply by just being confident enough to ask a girl out. It really is that simple. It seems people just make it harder than it is. It's not. So ask a girl out and "play" the "game."

 

[JPPT1974]

im praying for you and i agree with everyones post. put yourself out there. i believe that God has someone for everyone. but you need to get out there! dont settle for being lonely, do something about it

Trust me, God will let you know if someone is not right for you. and rejection only makes you stronger. i know from experience!

and im definitly praying for you =)

God will let you know what is good and that it will indeed only make you stronger. Don't also settle for being lonely as you need to do something about it indeed!

 

[mina]

What does ITA mean?????

 

[=Joel=]

Maybe god has you single for a reason, maybe he is returning very soon and he knows you don’t need that in your life, who knows. But are you pursuing it? Are you around Christian women? Have friends? Talk to them? Ask them out etc? I don’t know if god will just throw someone in your lap, probably just like most things in life, you have to go out there and get what you want, of course with gods direction. . I think you need to pursue what you want in life; you can’t just pray for a job and not apply anywhere (in most cases) and expect to get a awesome job. but anyways, God said it is better to be single than to marry (something like that)



I’m 26 and I’ve never dated a good Christian women, I’ve dated quite a few non-Christians and I’ve had 3 or 4 long term relationships in the past that each last 1-3 years each, and it is very nice to have someone there for you and love you, but it is very heartbreaking to be able to share and connect on all levels except the most important one, which is god. Two of the women actually asked me to marry them, and I just couldn’t because they weren’t Christians, very sad.



I know that there are millions of people in the same boat as you my friend, and it is hard, I haven’t been in a relationship for about 2 years and it is a very lonely world I’ve pretty much excepted the fact that I will most likely never get married, mostly because I do not know any Christian women, nor have I. I believe it’s the end times, maybe god wants me to commit my entire heart mind and soul to him in preparation, I don’t know.



If you think about it, being in a relationship can sometimes take your mind off of god if you’re both not totally committed to him and both on the same level. You somehow get lost in the love for your partner…..i don’t know man, keep your head up, it’s not about this life anyways, you will have no pain, loneliness or sorrows in the next.