Lonely and need your prayers

[NoHope]

I sit here extremely lonely and depressed. I am 28 and have never had a date, never had a women that I knew of that was even interested in me. This is really starting to eat at me. I can remember starting college when I was 18 asking God to bring a strong christian woman into my life. I prayed that until 25. Then I started praying to God to bring a christian woman into my life or if that was not his will to rid me of the loneliness I was feeling. So now, at 28, some 10 years later it seems to me that my prayers have gone unanswered. I am more lonely then ever.

I have lost all confidence in my self and am at the point where I have lost all hope and faith in God. I have prayed, read my bible, gone to church, tithed, fallen on my knees and told the Lord your will not mine, but yet I am more lonely now then I have ever been. I cannot even imagine going another 10 years without loving somebody and being loved. I am writing this in hopes that somebody out there with a strong faith in God will pray for me.

 

[songz777]

DONT GIVE in Ive been waiting and suffered much for 19 yrs (Im 42) Ive been down the road of utter despare, and anger agianst God. He has given me assurance that He will bless me. Ive come out of the valley and the pit and now, while im still single I am free from most depression / and emmotional pain.
Ive posted below an old post of mine Hope it helps.
Some of you folks, have been asking God for something for a long while, it may be a spouse or a dream a wild precious dream. But you may be feeling so weary of waiting and a bit low. You believe God will do this thing for you, because He is faithful who has promised,

This really encouraged me.

God says Don’t throw away your CONFIDENCE in Me; it will be RICHLY REWARDED, but you need to hang in there and PERSEVERE so that when you have done MY will (the will of God) you WILL RECEIVE what I have promised.

God says When you have done my will. Only God knows what things you need to be doing before He can grant you that promise, may be you should ask Him? May be it is you who isn’t ready for a blessing?

May be the blessing would so great it would be too much for you to bear at the present?

Or may be you need to change your ways and become like “new wine skins” that can cope with the expansion of glorious blessing, just as wine must be put in new wine skins.

 

[stormgade4]

See above. I couldn't say it better.

 

[Heiroglyph]

Allow me to go out on a limb here. Even though I don't know how you've been approaching this, i will judge solely by your post. If you prayed and prayed and prayed for God to send a woman into your life and ten years later he still has not then I'd take that as a "No".
God's not sending you one you'll have to go get one all on your own.
I think this is bad dogma this whole idea that God is going to send you someone anyways. It says nothing of the sort in the Bible. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that if God doesn't send you a mate that you should remain single. It particularly says that if you can't stand to remain single then marry.
God made a wife for Adam, just for him but back then there were no other women around. Now there are 3 billion of them, go pick one yourself!

 

[silentpoet]

You have my prayers. I pray soon you shall grab the abundant life we are promised. I pray that God will show you in a powerful way His answer to your prayer. I pray it will be soon for you.

 

[DavidH]

I know that your supposed to put pretty much everything in God's hands, but homie, you ain't going to get a women like you want just setting around...Take the initiative to get our there, and work your game.

 

[Carri20]

Allow me to go out on a limb here. Even though I don't know how you've been approaching this, i will judge solely by your post. If you prayed and prayed and prayed for God to send a woman into your life and ten years later he still has not then I'd take that as a "No".
God's not sending you one you'll have to go get one all on your own.
I think this is bad dogma this whole idea that God is going to send you someone anyways. It says nothing of the sort in the Bible. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that if God doesn't send you a mate that you should remain single. It particularly says that if you can't stand to remain single then marry.
God made a wife for Adam, just for him but back then there were no other women around. Now there are 3 billion of them, go pick one yourself!

I agree with this. I was very lonely and thought no one would ever want to be with me, because I have 2 kids and was engaged once but broke it off, and on top of that I live in a place where everyone's into drugs and there are no Christians around my age...and I'm a little rough around the edges because of my upbringing...but I prayed to God about it and then went out and got active. I started going to Bible studies, talking to people, checking out Christian personals ads...and eventually my search brought me to a website called Fusion 101 where I sort of "accidentally" met the guy who is now my boyfriend. So you gotta be active and get out there. I know it can be hard, especially if you're shy or introverted, but I would STRONGLY suggest going to Fusion 101. It's free and it's full of great Christians. Just make sure you send out lots of messages to lots of girls, and don't just wait for them to contact you first. Remember, the Bible says a good woman is like a valuable pearl that needs to be FOUND.

 

[Peculiarone]

Hi...

Mr you can arise and make seomthing of yourself. Myabe God has delayed your wife because he wants you to fix the way you think towards yourself so that when she comes, you can think great towards her without feeling low.

I pray that you will be comforted in the Holy Ghost, refreshed and encouraged in the Lord so that you can do his will. Then while you are looking for him...the blessings will overtake you.

Just wait and see.

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Deuteronomy 28
1 And it shall come to pass, if thou shalt hearken diligently unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to observe and to do all his commandments which I command thee this day, that the LORD thy God will set thee on high above all nations of the earth:
2 And all these blessings shall come on thee, and overtake thee, if thou shalt hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God. 3 Blessed shalt thou be in the city, and blessed shalt thou be in the field. 4 Blessed shall be the fruit of thy body, and the fruit of thy ground, and the fruit of thy cattle, the increase of thy kine, and the flocks of thy sheep. 5 Blessed shall be thy basket and thy store. 6 Blessed shalt thou be when thou comest in, and blessed shalt thou be when thou goest out. 7 The LORD shall cause thine enemies that rise up against thee to be smitten before thy face: they shall come out against thee one way, and flee before thee seven ways. 8 The LORD shall command the blessing upon thee in thy storehouses, and in all that thou settest thine hand unto; and he shall bless thee in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 9 The LORD shall establish thee an holy people unto himself, as he hath sworn unto thee, if thou shalt keep the commandments of the LORD thy God, and walk in his ways. 10 And all people of the earth shall see that thou art called by the name of the LORD; and they shall be afraid of thee. 11 And the LORD shall make thee plenteous in goods, in the fruit of thy body, and in the fruit of thy cattle, and in the fruit of thy ground, in the land which the LORD sware unto thy fathers to give thee. 12 The LORD shall open unto thee his good treasure, the heaven to give the rain unto thy land in his season, and to bless all the work of thine hand: and thou shalt lend unto many nations, and thou shalt not borrow. 13 And the LORD shall make thee the head, and not the tail; and thou shalt be above only, and thou shalt not be beneath; if that thou hearken unto the commandments of the LORD thy God, which I command thee this day, to observe and to do them: 14 And thou shalt not go aside from any of the words which I command thee this day, to the right hand, or to the left, to go after other gods to serve them.
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[HoneyComb Son]

God i pray for my brother..Lord please comfort and reveal your great love..Lord please help my brother..in Jesus name amen

have hope!

 

[Brutus/HisCatalyst]

I haven't been in your boat as long, but I know the feeling. God's time is best, even though it can take several rough years. I'll certainly keep you in my prayers.

 

[JPPT1974]

I am thirty & never had but one date in my life. But I am happy and content that I am single and maybe will be that way for the rest of my life. As the Lord only wants the best for me and nothing else. And He can do the same for you.

 

[winglovesall]

Don't give up praying though!

 

[RefinedByFire]

Allow me to go out on a limb here. Even though I don't know how you've been approaching this, i will judge solely by your post. If you prayed and prayed and prayed for God to send a woman into your life and ten years later he still has not then I'd take that as a "No".
God's not sending you one you'll have to go get one all on your own.
I think this is bad dogma this whole idea that God is going to send you someone anyways. It says nothing of the sort in the Bible. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that if God doesn't send you a mate that you should remain single. It particularly says that if you can't stand to remain single then marry.
God made a wife for Adam, just for him but back then there were no other women around. Now there are 3 billion of them, go pick one yourself!

BAM! That's it right there.
Sorry folks, but there is something of a game to this dating thing. You have to play to win. Ever heard of a lottery winner who never bought a ticket?

 

[RefinedByFire]

Remember, the Bible says a good woman is like a valuable pearl that needs to be FOUND.

Source please.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Source please.

She is probably thinking of these verses..... (NIV version)

Prov 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

Prov 31:10
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

In both of these verses, it basically speaks of a man "finding" a wife which means that he was seeking/looking.


Carrie20 if I'm wrong on your intent, please feel free to clarify.

On another note....

Why does dating HAVE to be a game? Games are for Parker Brothers, not serious people looking for compatibility. Why can't people just be real (who they are) and have that be good enough? This is one of the most frustrating things to me about dating - men (and some women I'm sure) not being themselves or feeling the need to follow this book's advice, a friend's advice, etc about dating. Don't pretend to be who you THINK I am attracted to or the kind of man you THINK I like. Just be yourself.

If who you are isn't good enough for the other person, then they can kick rocks...and you move on.

 

[mina]

This is always so hard to give advice on, b/c none of us really know God's will for your life. I know what it's like to be single and not want to be, cause I am. I know what it's like to pray and recieve a wonderful answer and then have that wonderful person taken away and still not understand why, b/c it's happened to me. People can give you a thousand opinions and their own speculations on your situation- they can say it's because you've sinned, b/c you don't have enough faith, b/c you don't know God's will, b/c you aren't ready yet, etc. People don't really know. The only one that knows your situaiton and can ultimately do anything is God. Don't stop praying if this is truly your heart's desire. Ask God for His answers. I know it hurts. It hurts me to think that there might be no one in the world to love me. I am sure of God's love, but I would like to see love in the flesh- to know by a physical touch and audible voice that someone loves me; God created us like that. It hurts to think that I might never have children, b/c that one of the most precious dreams to me. God has a reason for everything , but by golly when life disappoints you it can hurt really bad.

 

[JPPT1974]

Pray and let the will be God's will and not your will. Pray that God will have your best interests at heart.

 

[winglovesall]

Trust yourself!

 

[JPPT1974]

BAM! That's it right there.
Sorry folks, but there is something of a game to this dating thing. You have to play to win. Ever heard of a lottery winner who never bought a ticket?

But what happens if you play to win and then find out that you become a loser yourself in the end? Ever thought about that?

 

[findinghope06]

im praying for you and i agree with everyones post. put yourself out there. i believe that God has someone for everyone. but you need to get out there! dont settle for being lonely, do something about it

Trust me, God will let you know if someone is not right for you. and rejection only makes you stronger. i know from experience!

and im definitly praying for you =)