Loneliness

[BoarderDave]

I deal with it by keeping myself entertained. Hobbys, music, movies, books.. I end up busy learning to play a new instrument, learning anything Ive always been interested in.

I started doing that, and I found others that shared the same interest. Thus, led to friends, significant others, etc..

Don't focus on finding people. Focus on enjoying your life, and God will weave other people in and out of your life as necessary.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I deal with it by keeping myself entertained. Hobbys, music, movies, books.. I end up busy learning to play a new instrument, learning anything Ive always been interested in.

I started doing that, and I found others that shared the same interest. Thus, led to friends, significant others, etc..

Don't focus on finding people. Focus on enjoying your life, and God will weave other people in and out of your life as necessary.

Amen to that.

 

[tams67]

Where I live there are no support groups unless you want to drive for an hour or more, thats pretty much out of the question.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Regarding the person who said when they moved out...I still live with my parents but I'm afraid that if I move out I will be so lonely that I will want to die (sorry if that sounds absurd)

But I don't think I'm any less lonely now. I graduated from college rather later than some (at 25 almost) but never got a job that would help me move out; I got only a couple temporary-contract jobs (they were full time but were not permanent) and I am looking for a permanent one now but have been struggling for well over 6 months (the job market where I am at is terrible; but the whole state - of Michigan - is pretty bad in that department). The only reason I want to move out is so that I can attend church and practice Christianity openly. My family doesn't know I'm Christian; I'm terrified of them knowing; I mean the guilt trips and crying/fights that would ensue, I do not look forward to. I'd rather not be living at home with my parents when they find out I'm a Christian...

Sorry if I said too much, that is why I am lonely right now...I need some fellowship and I want to get involved in church (still deciding what church to attend though, that is a process for me) and be more active as a Christian but it is too isolating for me at this point in my life right now.

I don't feel like writing more about this right now. Just wanna get this off my chest, thanks.

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Like I told tams feel free to post your struggles here, vent or whatever you need to do. I've found so much support and encouragment on this thread. I'm sure you will too. God bless you sweetie!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I deal with it by keeping myself entertained. Hobbys, music, movies, books.. I end up busy learning to play a new instrument, learning anything Ive always been interested in.

I started doing that, and I found others that shared the same interest. Thus, led to friends, significant others, etc..

Don't focus on finding people. Focus on enjoying your life, and God will weave other people in and out of your life as necessary.

Thanks! That's very good advice!

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

I have to say I am not dealing with my loneliness very well at all. My kids are almost grown and I am now taking care of my elderly mother. I have no one to help me carry the load. You want the truth. I just want to die now, I am so tired of dragging on...

I am in the exact same boat you are in,so you are not alone and neither am I .if you ever feel like talking,message me.

 

[Lady Bug]

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Like I told tams feel free to post your struggles here, vent or whatever you need to do. I've found so much support and encouragment on this thread. I'm sure you will too. God bless you sweetie!

Thank you Singing4myLord for your support; it's tremendously painful to be experiencing this. I still am able to read my Bible and other Christian resources in the privacy of my bedroom (but my family doesn't know, and I hate feeling like I have to live in this type of secrecy), and I hope one day I can embrace my faith openly in a different environment; as for now, I remain kinda quiet on my struggles, because sometimes once I started posting about them, I had a difficulty in stopping cuz it became too much. I don't want to become like that again.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

How do you deal with loneliness? Not really from not having a SO (although I've been there) but also from not having any/many friends. It's just something I've been dealing with for awhile.

Sorry, I know the feeling. Hope you can find some solace here!!

 

[crazyforchrist]

I grew up with hardly any friends because my dad was great about driving them away. He was very antisocial and didn't like to visit people or have people over so when I would make a new friend they were usually gone and out of contact in less than a month. So I know how you feel. Yet these were the times I was able to grow closer to God. I realized how He is more of a friend than I could ever have on earth. He listens, responds, and understands our dreams, hopes, and even fears. He brings comfort to us and enjoys our company.
It took me awhile to get to where I am now because I never had that support growing up so I pretty much struggled my way towards God even though I did grow up in a Christian home, God still seemed very distant from me. It's good to find new interests and hobbies to take up like alot have said here. For me it's music, writing, web design, and anything else God would open doors for me to have. I also had joined this forum too which helped alot because I made more friends on here who were much of an encouragement to me through my rough years.
Pm me anytime. I'm glad to be your friend.

Blessings,
~Bekah~

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Thank you Singing4myLord for your support; it's tremendously painful to be experiencing this. I still am able to read my Bible and other Christian resources in the privacy of my bedroom (but my family doesn't know, and I hate feeling like I have to live in this type of secrecy), and I hope one day I can embrace my faith openly in a different environment; as for now, I remain kinda quiet on my struggles, because sometimes once I started posting about them, I had a difficulty in stopping cuz it became too much. I don't want to become like that again.

You're very welcome!

Sorry, I know the feeling. Hope you can find some solace here!!

Thanks! I have found solace here! I've made some wonderful friends through CF and seriously couldn't have gotten through any of this without them!

I grew up with hardly any friends because my dad was great about driving them away. He was very antisocial and didn't like to visit people or have people over so when I would make a new friend they were usually gone and out of contact in less than a month. So I know how you feel. Yet these were the times I was able to grow closer to God. I realized how He is more of a friend than I could ever have on earth. He listens, responds, and understands our dreams, hopes, and even fears. He brings comfort to us and enjoys our company.
It took me awhile to get to where I am now because I never had that support growing up so I pretty much struggled my way towards God even though I did grow up in a Christian home, God still seemed very distant from me. It's good to find new interests and hobbies to take up like alot have said here. For me it's music, writing, web design, and anything else God would open doors for me to have. I also had joined this forum too which helped alot because I made more friends on here who were much of an encouragement to me through my rough years.
Pm me anytime. I'm glad to be your friend.

Blessings,
~Bekah~

Thanks so much! I added you to my friends list! We seem to have a lot in common!

 

[crazyforchrist]

Thanks so much! I added you to my friends list! We seem to have a lot in common!

I added you.
I do see this! Feel free to pm me anytime! Looking forward to getting to know ya!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Hey everyone! Just wanted to pop in and say hey and to bump this thread up! I don't wanna lose it!

How's everyone been doing lately?

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Hey everyone! Just wanted to pop in and say hey and to bump this thread up! I don't wanna lose it!

How's everyone been doing lately?

I hate how my life feels like it's on hold while I'm here in the desert. Maybe I need this for stability, but it feels repressive.

 

[crazyforchrist]

Hey everyone! Just wanted to pop in and say hey and to bump this thread up! I don't wanna lose it!

How's everyone been doing lately?

I've been doing great! How about you?

 

[Crucifix]

Has anything exciting been happening in your life - generally speaking, of course?

Singing, what haven't you been up to besides your height and no good?

 

[Love233]

I spend entirely too much time on here.

me too LOL

 

[Crucifix]

Are you artistically inclined (theatre, music, fine art or drama) or any other hobbies to help you get away from the 'puter? I've been in a couple of operas to help diversify my interests. Just a thought for you.

 

[JPPT1974]

I love going to this festival
We have in our town once a year
In the spring as I try to broaden my horizons.

 

[Going Merry]

Listen to depressing music then cry

 

[gracegreciagracet]

I never thought about having a boyfriend and getting married, until last year. Only last year, I started to have a feeling a loneliness. I never have this type of feeling before when I was younger. I feel like someone is missing in my life, like I need a partner, like what is said in Genesis 2:18 and now I pray everyday to God to let me meet someone, who will eventually be my future husband. Although I don't really go anywhere, I hope God will answer my prayer and let me meet someone. I know God can do miracles.