Living At Home

[B'alaam]

You're a health care professional?!? I would be extremely worried about anyone who was in your "care" if you're taking "time out" to post 10X every day, every year. If you're posting that often, you're likely reading at least 50 posts a day to respond to, editing your posts, checking back on them, etc. Let's face it, you're an internet junkie. It is likely you are doing the same on several other forums as well.

Health care professional my tuckus! If it means changing a diaper, I would believe it. Get real.

ummm, even though I completely sympathize with your OP and completely disagree with her high handed denouncement of you, I would be careful about denigrating somebody based on average posts per day

10 posts per day does not mean a health care professional isn't a good one.
A good friend of mine is a full time time cook and kitchen manager, yet he really is a 'net and forum junkie. Does that mean the food he cooks tastes bad or fails HACCP standards? Not at all.
How many times one posts on their free time (away from work, on break, on lunch, etc) does not necessarily reflect how well one does one's job.

Her assessment, in my opinion, of 'what you should do' is wrong, but her post count should not be a reflection of her credentials in her chosen profession.
I understand that you may be a bit ticked at her right now, but dont lower yourself to nearly ad-hominem attacks.

 

[eves_adam]

Certainly not, it may very well be possible to be a 'net junkie and have a career. But it does tell me they hold little weight in their judgments since their lives are so severely skewed by addiction.

And I'm still skeptical about the notion that the poster in question has a career at all. If one's posting 10x a day, they are reading many more times that number of posts. They are editing their posts. They are reading responses to their posts ad nauseum. And likely posting ad nauseum on other boards as well.

I know of several 'net addicts who fit this profile and they certainly did not have careers. Is it possible, yes. Likely, no.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Charity?
O cmon, he's paying rent, paying for his food, doing chores, etc
That is not charity on their part
They are nothing more than apartment managers that he feels an emotional connection to

You mean if they were apartment landlords that he paid rent to and helped them out with (say) lawn maitenance, he'd go to church with them out of some false sense of obligation?
I dont think so.
And I dont think you would either

That's actually a pretty fair compromise

I would actually say "Unless they pretend to drink blood and eat flesh", but that's just me

Why?
Because he's paying rent to a landlord and paying for his own food and helping them out around the rest of the house?
I dont get your reasoning

Doesnt sound to me like they are "providing for him"
They agreed to let him move in, they agreed to the rent conditions.
They are nothing more than landlords, and he has every right that every other renter has.
Been there
Done that
Fortunately, my parents didnt try to emotionally blackmail me (which is what his parents sound like they are doing), into going to church.

You're just pointlessly tossing out misleading and false statements loaded with emotional impact.
Is Argument by "Emotional impact" even valid?


EDITED TO ADD- emotional blackmail is far and away not "charity" in any sense of the word, and is definitely NOT "agape"

He is not staying at an apartment. He is staying at his parent's house. That means he has to play by their rules just like he would have to play by your rules if he stayed at your house, yes even if he paid you rent. If their rules mean he has to go to church then he should ask himself if he wants to stay there or move somewhere else and not go to church. If any of my children give me this much trouble if/when they try to move back in I will drop them off at the homeless shelter along with their 'rent money'. Lets be honest here. If he had real rent money he'd have his own place. He's probably signing half his unemployment check over for rent/utilities/food. The rest he probably spends on internet and beer.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Certainly not, it may very well be possible to be a 'net junkie and have a career. But it does tell me they hold little weight in their judgments since their lives are so severely skewed by addiction.

And I'm still skeptical about the notion that the poster in question has a career at all. If one's posting 10x a day, they are reading many more times that number of posts. They are editing their posts. They are reading responses to their posts ad nauseum. And likely posting ad nauseum on other boards as well.

I know of several 'net addicts who fit this profile and they certainly did not have careers. Is it possible, yes. Likely, no.

Maybe some people reply more often to what they choose to read. Maybe some don't edit as much as you do. Maybe some reply faster than others. Maybe you are right and I'm a 40 year old virgin living in my mother's basement replying to many posts on many forums day and night.

 

[eves_adam]

What's clear is that you've got severe emotional damage from your upbringing. I can't imagine what kind of a warped mind your child is being exposed to. Assuming it hasn't stuck it's finger in an electrical socket and keeled over while you were spending every waking moment on the 'net.

Maybe some people reply more often to what they choose to read. Maybe some don't edit as much as you do. Maybe some reply faster than others. Maybe you are right and I'm a 40 year old virgin living in my mother's basement replying to many posts on many forums day and night.

 

[eves_adam]

Oh, and if autobiographical accounts are true, the poster in question was either raped as a marine, or engaged in rape. Such nice folks, eh? I hope your lessons from guantanamo bay are serving your child well!

 

[eves_adam]

I doubt you're a virgin, although the type of sex you've had as a marine is probably not exactly the type of sex you wanted to have if you are a heterosexual male.

Oh, and good luck with the VA trying to get treated for depleted uranium exposure.

Maybe some people reply more often to what they choose to read. Maybe some don't edit as much as you do. Maybe some reply faster than others. Maybe you are right and I'm a 40 year old virgin living in my mother's basement replying to many posts on many forums day and night.

 

[Autumnleaf]

You are derailing your own topic by defaming a fellow forum member. Were you fired or laid off?

 

[eves_adam]

If you are a marine, and "served" the US in that capacity, I can assure you you have about as much legitimacy in offering "Christian" advice as one of Hitler's minion would offering assistance to the Jews.

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you are a marine, and "served" the US in that capacity, I can assure you you have about as much legitimacy in offering "Christian" advice as one of Hitler's minion would offering assistance to the Jews.

If you would make such a comparison it is understandable that you are where you find yourself.

 

[eves_adam]

You mean within a couple months of moving out? Friend, I pray for your child. It is likely you are engaging in, or will engage in corporal punishment, and that you will continue the cycle of violence and abuse you were definitely exposed to in the marines and likely experienced as a child prior.

I think you should come clean on all the tortures and abuses you witnessed and were a part of as a marine. Your moral "instruction" is a joke.

If you would make such a comparison it is understandable that you are where you find yourself.

 

[Autumnleaf]

You mean within a couple months of moving out? Friend, I pray for your child. It is likely you are engaging in, or will engage in corporal punishment, and that you will continue the cycle of violence and abuse you were definitely exposed to in the marines and likely experienced as a child prior.

I think you should come clean on all the tortures and abuses you witnessed and were a part of as a marine. Your moral "instruction" is a joke.

You make crazy accusations about someone you don't know. Yet you can't seem to find an acceptable Christian church to go to. If you came to my church you'd probably find your behavior unacceptable there too. Those intolerant Christians...

Get a grip. I hope you aren't like this where you work or you will end up living under a bridge because I'm sure your parents won't put up with such nonsense for long and it goes without saying that any job other than digging ditches is out of the question for a man with such a temperance.

 

[eves_adam]

If I am wrong, share some of your experiences as a marine. Are you saying that killing and raping and plundering are not part of the history and reality of what US marines do?

 

[eves_adam]

Yeah, I try to avoid churches where the members have just returned from killing innocent people for money.

You make crazy accusations about someone you don't know. Yet you can't seem to find an acceptable Christian church to go to. If you came to my church you'd probably find your behavior unacceptable there too. Those intolerant Christians...

Get a grip. I hope you aren't like this where you work or you will end up living under a bridge because I'm sure your parents won't put up with such nonsense for long and it goes without saying that any job other than digging ditches is out of the question for a man with such a temperance.

 

[Autumnleaf]

If I am wrong, share some of your experiences as a marine. Are you saying that killing and raping and plundering are not part of the history and reality of what US marines do?

I served at base motors in 29 Palms California. I was never deployed overseas. I drove other Marines to the airport so they could go to Okinawa. I drove sick Marines to the hospital in San Diego. I drove Marine wives to the San Diego zoo. I never did get around to raping or shooting anyone. Sorry to disappoint you.

 

[eves_adam]

Oh, and I'll try to be more grateful. Which is what you asked innocent civilians to be before you shot them and put them out of their misery.

 

[eves_adam]

And I'm sure your fellow marines did their "jobs" very well as a result. Isn't this like saying you only drove the operators of the incinerators to their jobs so you weren't responsible for Nazi atrocities?

I served at base motors in 29 Palms California. I was never deployed overseas. I drove other Marines to the airport so they could go to Okinawa. I drove sick Marines to the hospital in San Diego. I drove Marine wives to the San Diego zoo. I never did get around to raping or shooting anyone. Sorry to disappoint you.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Oh, and I'll try to be more grateful. Which is what you asked innocent civilians to be before you shot them and put them out of their misery.

I'm sad that you are the way you are. Goodbye.

 

[eves_adam]

And enjoy the "war stories" from your fellow marines. Like I said, I pray for your child.

Edit: I hope your child can locate a suitable bridge to live under if/when he refuses to go to church with you and your fellow marines!

I'm sad that you are the way you are. Goodbye.

 

[B'alaam]

He is not staying at an apartment. He is staying at his parent's house. That means he has to play by their rules just like he would have to play by your rules if he stayed at your house, yes even if he paid you rent.

Nope. he'd only have to "play" by the rules of the law. They have a contract for rent and food (or so it sounds), so they are,just as he his, now obligated to law, not personal emotional blackmail
Laws are laws, and renters have rights
Being emotionally blackmailed is unacceptable, whether the child is paying rent or not

VIf their rules mean he has to go to church then he should ask himself if he wants to stay there or move somewhere else and not go to church.

O, dont get me wrong Autumn, I really think he should leave, rent or not
I think he should put forth all of his efforts to find roomates if need be to help with bills and get out NOW.

If any of my children give me this much trouble if/when they try to move back in I will drop them off at the homeless shelter along with their 'rent money'.

Wait, if they refuse to go to your church because they dont like YOUR church and because you are emotionally blackmailing them, you'd drop them off at a homeless shelter?
"Christian" love is so contradictary apparently

Lets be honest here. If he had real rent money he'd have his own place. He's probably signing half his unemployment check over for rent/utilities/food.

Assuming he's getting an unemployment check, as opposed to workingn at a lower wage than what he's used to, you might be correct

The rest he probably spends on internet and beer.

Do you have any reason to assume that's what he's doing, or are you just assuming he's a drunk internet addict?
I could say that the 'rest' of your money is spent on heroin and boy-toy-prostitutes, along with snuff films, but does that statement make it true?
Do not assume anything without at least some concrete evidence. To do otherwise opens you up accusations of ad hom attacks.