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lady_of_god
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I know of a pretty good book.... its call "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman ...I recommend this book to anyone who may be having problems understanding how the other person is showing there love, or defining there own love language.
Many times we say to the other person "You don't love me...", its just a matter of miscommunication. It shows you what needs you may have in a relationship and what your SO needs from you to sustain a lasting healthy relationship.
-Lady.
Many times we say to the other person "You don't love me...", its just a matter of miscommunication. It shows you what needs you may have in a relationship and what your SO needs from you to sustain a lasting healthy relationship.
-Lady.
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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Here's my general list...
* Boundaries in Dating - a MUST have for ANYONE (in my not-so-humble opinion!)
* The Five Love Languages
If you are considering marrying this person, I'd also include Fit to be Tied, and Every Man's Marriage...
For personal growth (which always helps in a relationship) - I like the Every Man's Battle, Every Women's Battle, Let Me Be A Woman, and The Measure of a Man...
* Boundaries in Dating - a MUST have for ANYONE (in my not-so-humble opinion!)
* The Five Love Languages
If you are considering marrying this person, I'd also include Fit to be Tied, and Every Man's Marriage...
For personal growth (which always helps in a relationship) - I like the Every Man's Battle, Every Women's Battle, Let Me Be A Woman, and The Measure of a Man...
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thanks, those definitly will come in useful. I want to marry this girl so bad. She wants to as well, we just have to give it time first. She's 20, im 18 in a week, but I have to get into a 4 year school before I can do anything else, otherwise If i start out right in marriage, I won't ever end up going to college, thus adding pressure financially to our relationship. Luckily the schools are 30 min away. So I won't have to much to worry about in terms of leaving the area. Anyway, I plan on making things take the best possible route until then, after all, neither of us are leaving.
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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That's great you're looking at books to get some inspiration from...
What else are you doing to help this relationship grow and mature?
What have you been doing seperately to help yourself grow?
Just, given your age, a relationship at this point is going to go nowhere, unless you are maturing and wising up, as God directs us, on your own...
Sasch
What else are you doing to help this relationship grow and mature?
What have you been doing seperately to help yourself grow?
Just, given your age, a relationship at this point is going to go nowhere, unless you are maturing and wising up, as God directs us, on your own...
Sasch
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After observing other relationships based in our age group, I'd say we have grown past most stages that others are going through. I rely on god to direct us. I thank him every night for her, and he has blessed us.
Luckily, we both are aiming in the same direction. When I first opened up to her, she did the same to me. We have been discussing our personalities, and how to react to eachother during certain situations to keep things tame even in the worst of situations. How to initially get started is another one. I have been 'questioning' family members and others to recieve a good amount of information on how to get a good start. Being 17(18 I'll say for now on), my family would call me nieve, so I must play things not to get them worried or concerned. To earn their respect, I've picked up my responsibilities (I do my own laundry, clean up my room as I get up, take care of dishes, sometimes cook, along with school and a job that is being held until my b-day when I can get my alcohol liscence). I believe she is attempting to do the same, however, she told her mother what we are aiming for. Her mother said "You don't have to worry about anything, it will be hard to find a better man"(!!!)
There is a cultural boundary though. I am American, and she is from Brazil. It pretains mostly to language (her parents only speek portuguese, but they try to speak english with me). That causes struggles once in a while, but we overcome it easily.
Anyway, if you can offer any tips, advice, etc; it would be appreciated.
thanks ~Luke
Luckily, we both are aiming in the same direction. When I first opened up to her, she did the same to me. We have been discussing our personalities, and how to react to eachother during certain situations to keep things tame even in the worst of situations. How to initially get started is another one. I have been 'questioning' family members and others to recieve a good amount of information on how to get a good start. Being 17(18 I'll say for now on), my family would call me nieve, so I must play things not to get them worried or concerned. To earn their respect, I've picked up my responsibilities (I do my own laundry, clean up my room as I get up, take care of dishes, sometimes cook, along with school and a job that is being held until my b-day when I can get my alcohol liscence). I believe she is attempting to do the same, however, she told her mother what we are aiming for. Her mother said "You don't have to worry about anything, it will be hard to find a better man"(!!!)
There is a cultural boundary though. I am American, and she is from Brazil. It pretains mostly to language (her parents only speek portuguese, but they try to speak english with me). That causes struggles once in a while, but we overcome it easily.
Anyway, if you can offer any tips, advice, etc; it would be appreciated.
thanks ~Luke
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Pope Gonzo
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If you want a strong relationship, start with a strong walk with God.
The Screwtape Letters, by CS Lewis
Revolutionized my walk with God.
The Screwtape Letters, by CS Lewis
Revolutionized my walk with God.
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KristianJ
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A few that I'd recommend:
- The 5 Love Languages for Singles (Gary Chapman) - there are two fabulous chapters pointing at serious dating/courting relationships and helping you assess whether your partner is indeed someone you can envisage spending the rest of your life with.
- Any sort of book that focuses on personal growth will be very beneficial, be it specifically for males of gender-neutral
- Some sort of devotional book could be good if you wish to reinforce your times together with looking at the Bible for guidance and praying together.
- The 5 Love Languages for Singles (Gary Chapman) - there are two fabulous chapters pointing at serious dating/courting relationships and helping you assess whether your partner is indeed someone you can envisage spending the rest of your life with.
- Any sort of book that focuses on personal growth will be very beneficial, be it specifically for males of gender-neutral
- Some sort of devotional book could be good if you wish to reinforce your times together with looking at the Bible for guidance and praying together.
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