I think it is good that a time away for an extended period of time is needed (without divorce) should be considered as an alternative until the abusive partner cleans up their act on their own. God says the only way we are allowed to divorce is if they cheated on us.
But why should a Christian suffer like this? Well, we are to live the life of Christ. Life is not always going to be full of lolipops and kittens. Christ suffered greatly, and we are said to follow His example. Also, the story of Hosea and Gomer comes to my mind, as well.
Check out my CF thread on Hosea here:
Did God Really Tell Hosea to Marry a Prostitute?
Of course life isn't going to be all lollypops and kittens, but to suggest that someone must go back to an abusive spouse is not right. For abusers, some will say they have changed to get their partner to come back to them, and then start the whole cycle of abuse over again. Abusers are about manipulation and control.
I remember reading a post from a woman who was in an abusive marriage, whose husband "repented" only to return to his behavior. She did the right thing, the courageous thing, and divorced him. If I were in her shoes, I'd do the same thing. Oh, and she also said that she was sick of being judged by those who had never been in her position. I am sure that others who have been in abusive relationships share her sentiment.
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