OK, how many blessings do I get for this answer? I think you'll get some.
Try this: Talk to God, Pray something like, LORD God, what do you want me know about this? What are you like? What happens when people die?
Is there a hell like I've always been taught? If there is, how can I convince Tim? If there isn't, why can't I see that?
Then, after you are done praying and while you are praying, get into God's word, study it everyday. Keep asking Him to teach, Ignore me completely. Focus on God. Forget about hell for a while. Come back to it. Wrestle with God, Argue with God, Shout at God, Beg God, whatever it takes. Keep studying the bible, Let God speak to you. Forget about our voices.
I don't want to convince you, I want you to know truth, even if it isn't "my truth".