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My comment was meant for you. I'm reposting it because I don't want you to miss it.

Human trafficking a.k.a sex slavery is a tremendous problem in the US and around the world, especially in developing countries. Please google the following. I haven't posted enough to link, but I had to comment because raising awareness is vital. What we don't know does have the potential to hurt us or our family members.

FBI: Atlanta a hub for human trafficking
Human trafficking brutal and widespread in Georgia
lysaterkeurst, I need your prayers

In the US, Atlanta GA is the hub for human trafficking. These girls (and boys) don't choose this lifestyle. They are kidnapped as kids or teens and forced into it.

Okay...normally, I don't mind when a thread goes off in a direction of its own...but I am not sure how "sex slavery" moved into my thread asking men how to get Christian men to step up to become leaders in their home? If you want to debate this topic, maybe it should become its own thread?

I really do wish that this topic would be addressed. Men want their wives to be honor them in the bedroom, but what about taking their role as heads of the family outside the bedroom?
 
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Okay...normally, I don't mind when a thread goes off in a direction of its own...but I am not sure how "sex slavery" moved into my thread asking men how to get Christian men to step up to become leaders in their home? If you want to debate this topic, maybe it should become its own thread?

I really do wish that this topic would be addressed. Men want their wives to be honor them in the bedroom, but what about taking their role as heads of the family outside the bedroom?

I originally responded to dayhiker by accident. It was a simple click of the wrong button. My comment was meant for memoriesbymichelle because she raised the issue in comment #31. I do not wish to debate anything. I read threads, but I rarely ever comment. I think I've commented about 20 times since I joined in 2011, so I'm not a debater or a person who likes to derail threads or troll. I was merely responding to a comment by memoriesbymichelle in #31. I reposted it to her after realizing I sent it to the wrong person. Sorry if I offended you.
 
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Actually, I love when new people post and encourage you to continue to do so. There is nothing wrong with debate...it encourage us to think...both to think about new ideas that challenge our thought or to give us a chance to prove (to ourselves as well as others) our current way to current way of thinking. To often, we form an opinion based on limited information and never get the opportunity to research or think about something on a deeper level.

My only issue was with that the change of discussion changed drastically before anybody actually responded to my questions...but I am actually starting to believe that no one really will.
 
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Are you familiar with Christine Caine? She is a christian that has dedicated her life to trying to stop human trafficking. Her web site is here.

Stop Human Trafficking - Organization Home - The A21 Campaign

and thank you for the information you posted. I know there is still human slavery and I think it is very sad. I wonder how many missing children are actually alive and sex slaves? About 6 months ago I read that there was a big human trafficking bust and they recovered over 100 children. I was hoping to see that some of these kids were ones that were missing, but I never heard if there were and because they were children they don't post the names.
 
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Actually, I love when new people post and encourage you to continue to do so. There is nothing wrong with debate...it encourage us to think...both to think about new ideas that challenge our thought or to give us a chance to prove (to ourselves as well as others) our current way to current way of thinking. To often, we form an opinion based on limited information and never get the opportunity to research or think about something on a deeper level.

My only issue was with that the change of discussion changed drastically before anybody actually responded to my questions...but I am actually starting to believe that no one really will.

My post stemmed from previous comments about slavery that you and others were discussing.

When I was married there were SO many times that I wanted my husband to be the spiritual leader of our family but he was not up to the task at that time. Then whenever he DID step up to the task he became more of a judgemental dictator where if you breathed the wrong air you would be told how sinful you were. I used to think that even though he was not taking the responsibility, that responsibility was still his and God would hold him accountable over me.
I think alot of the problems we have are because we are taught wrong in church. Society also plays a role but I don't think we invest in our children enough when they are young to teach them how to treat others and what their God given role is in life and when they get married. And then sometimes what comes across is the King of the castle type leadership where whatever the man says goes with an iron fist and that is not the model we have in Ephesians 5. But as always the church, and we as individuals get it wrong alot. Poor humans.
 
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David, it's not the fact that you bring up the bible. The bible is our model and I take it very seriously. First off, and I mean this as lovingly as I can, do you not see how you come across in your posts? And I'm not talking about just responses to my posts, I'm talking about most of your responses.

You tell us how we "should" feel and act and you say its according to the bible, but sometimes it's more your interpretation of the bible than anything. And I have never seen you post that we should just disagree. Rather you would like to keep telling us, and schooling us, and even suggesting homework for some of us unsolicited. I am not alone.

And it would be helpful if you would say that this is how you interpret the bible instead of acting like you are speaking for God Himself which you are not.

You have some very solid beliefs. None of them are bad. But presentation is everything and the way you come across is that you know more than the rest of us about the bible and Christianity and everything basically and if we don't agree than we aren't Christian enough or whatever. I don't see any compassion in your posts or empathy or grace or mercy. That may be just me interpreting your posts wrong but that's how I feel. IMO, Jesus is my model, and with the exception of the religious leaders leading the people astray, he never went around pointing out everyone else's sin and telling them they were going to hell if they didn't believe in Him. He exemplified Himself by how He lived. He had compassion on prostitutes and immoral women and men. I just don't agree with you on that issue and never will and it doesn't make me right and you wrong or vise versa, it just makes us people that see the bible and our purpose differently.

Thanks for sharing and clarifying. I really think you should have approached me via PM which would have been the more appropriate manner having a discrepancy with a fellow Believer, because that is the biblical mandate on how to handle such matters.

I don't know why so many Christians view the Bible as being ambivalent on matters that are clearly identified and defined in The Bible ; I don't find the great majority of Biblical Mandates 'a matter of interpretation' at all...and instead find them axiomatic (without the need for debate because they are so evidently addressed in scripture) . Now, I do understand that we are all on different levels of our Christian Walk and understanding the Bible properly...so allowance must be given for that.

I believe there is a time for just disagreeing...but not when Gods Word makes something so plain , understandable , and applicable for daily living. We can agree to disagree on Neutral things which the Bible doesn't address , but if the Bible DOES address it concretely , then really it should be a given that we both agree with that. The Bible is the final Court of Aribitration .. the place we go to get our instruction as 2 Tim. 3:16 explicitly states.

Im afraid you are in error of Jesus never going around pointing out sins and telling people they will be lost for eternity if they don't repent. In fact, that IS the good news Gospel that saves , and Jesus didn't pull any punches when it came to people being lost forever if they don't trust him and repent. I believe, today, many Christians see Jesus as totally humble, meek, tolerant, passive, etc...where he wasn't like that all the time ; in fact, we are told in scripture that many people who followed him turned away because of his direct language ...and the highest Religious Leaders of his day hated him for his Gospel message . So, Jesus was very confrontational regarding sins and he even got in peoples faces and attacked what thier whole life had been about up till then.

At the risk of sounding self righteous which I don't mean to sound...theres probably a good chance that I do know the Bible better than the average Christian on C.F. because I have diligently studied it , debated many issues using it as the truth source , and have helped many people understand it more accurately in dialogue ., since 1986 .

What ive noticed with certain C.F. Posters ...is that they espouse or believe in the pseudo-biblical / a hybrid version of personal feelings with 'some' biblical truth.... or they put a great deal of trust in their personal feelings because they've always held to a particular feeling on something....regardless of what Scripture says ...or at times so it seems, that they aren't even interested in what The Bible reports on as far as truth. I reside in the deep South where its termed 'The Bible Belt' , yet when I moved down here from the North, I was shocked at how precious few Christians even read The Bible as evidenced by some of their closely held feelings which didn't coincide with the Bible in the least. 'The Bible Belt' isn't based on most People reading it..rather...its a term to signify that theres a church almost on every corner , and, most people here are conservative in their personal and political beliefs. Personally, I think its a travesty that Christians don't have the desire or see the need to immerse themselves in Gods Word which is one important way of coming to know and love God better and to be used more fully . The BIble changes us in a dramatic fashion , for, its our power source for Christians.

So in closing, I think if any apology from myself is required, I think it would have to be for me to get a hold of the fact that People vary greatly in their Christian Walk and oftentimes not even understanding many fundamental teachings of the Bible .... and for Me not to assume that the Bible is where all Christians go to get their truth. That, coupled with Me not driving home an explicit biblical teaching in such a solid manner .
 
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Well again, as lovingly as I can put this......you come across as if YOU are the authority and the way YOU interpret the bible is the ONLY correct way and then you put yourself above all of us by stating that you probably do know the bible better than most of us here. You have no idea who has or has not studied or for how long or how deep and yet you are sure that you know more.

Yes Jesus went after the religious leaders and the only ones that he got in their faces, but he did not make the samaritan woman feel like doo doo because of her lifestyle, nor the prostitute caught in the act. He spoke truth and most people didn't want that so it's not as you say.

The GOOD news is that Jesus paid the debt we could not pay. He is the Savior that we need. If we do not accept Him we would have to pay the debt for our sin ourselves which of course we never could do, but we have to make the choice.

And for the record, I don't think anyone was looking for you to apologize for anything, just try not to post as if you know it all because you don't. None of us do. And don't assume you are the only one that has studied the bible as much as you have. I assure you there are many others. Also without the help of the Holy Spirit you could understand nothing in the bible. Lots of people have alot of knowledge about the bible and have studied it but since they don't have the Holy Spirit who draws them to Jesus, they cannot totally understand it even though they may have studied it for years. I am not saying you don't understand the bible, and please do not assume that I don't understand the bible because that is just not true. And don't make generalizations about people like your comment about C.F. posters....
Do you really want to come across as a know it all? If that is your goal than you have succeeded. I don't think it is your goal though, so maybe think about that?
And as far as coming to you privately...again I will say this.....I am not alone in how I feel regarding alot of your posts so it is not an issue with just you and me so don't make it out to be like that.
You may not agree with some of us at all, but WE that have posted here for awhile have agreed to disagree on issues that we don't agree on. I don't agree with pre-marital sex, but I don't need to bash the others here everytime I post. They know my position and I know theirs. I have stated my belief and how I believe that the bible says we shouldn't do it. They have not changed their minds and neither have I but I am still friends with them. I leave it up to God to change them if He sees fit to do it.
We are not a perfect people. And God is not surprised.
I respect the knowledge that you have and how well you know the bible, but still disagree with our purpose here being to tell everyone what they are doing wrong and how they will go to hell if they don't change. Not everyone is called to be an evangelist. That is not my gift. I am also not a teacher. Not my gift.
 
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Well again, as lovingly as I can put this......you come across as if YOU are the authority and the way YOU interpret the bible is the ONLY correct way and then you put yourself above all of us by stating that you probably do know the bible better than most of us here. You have no idea who has or has not studied or for how long or how deep and yet you are sure that you know more.

Yes Jesus went after the religious leaders and the only ones that he got in their faces, but he did not make the samaritan woman feel like doo doo because of her lifestyle, nor the prostitute caught in the act. He spoke truth and most people didn't want that so it's not as you say.

The GOOD news is that Jesus paid the debt we could not pay. He is the Savior that we need. If we do not accept Him we would have to pay the debt for our sin ourselves which of course we never could do, but we have to make the choice.

And for the record, I don't think anyone was looking for you to apologize for anything, just try not to post as if you know it all because you don't. None of us do. And don't assume you are the only one that has studied the bible as much as you have. I assure you there are many others. Also without the help of the Holy Spirit you could understand nothing in the bible. Lots of people have alot of knowledge about the bible and have studied it but since they don't have the Holy Spirit who draws them to Jesus, they cannot totally understand it even though they may have studied it for years. I am not saying you don't understand the bible, and please do not assume that I don't understand the bible because that is just not true. And don't make generalizations about people like your comment about C.F. posters....
Do you really want to come across as a know it all? If that is your goal than you have succeeded. I don't think it is your goal though, so maybe think about that?
And as far as coming to you privately...again I will say this.....I am not alone in how I feel regarding alot of your posts so it is not an issue with just you and me so don't make it out to be like that.
You may not agree with some of us at all, but WE that have posted here for awhile have agreed to disagree on issues that we don't agree on. I don't agree with pre-marital sex, but I don't need to bash the others here everytime I post. They know my position and I know theirs. I have stated my belief and how I believe that the bible says we shouldn't do it. They have not changed their minds and neither have I but I am still friends with them. I leave it up to God to change them if He sees fit to do it.
We are not a perfect people. And God is not surprised.
I respect the knowledge that you have and how well you know the bible, but still disagree with our purpose here being to tell everyone what they are doing wrong and how they will go to hell if they don't change. Not everyone is called to be an evangelist. That is not my gift. I am also not a teacher. Not my gift.

Someone who diligently studies the Bible is naturally going to know it better than the National average. If I come across being an Authority on the Bible, I don't see that as a negative --- I see that as the natural outflowing of loving it, desiring it regularly, patterning it for life application, and to use it to train up myself and Others in Gods ways as 2 Tim. 3:16 exhorts us to.

Respectfully, the way you come across Michelle is Someone who is Feeling-focused for their truth source ... and not holding Gods Word in the kind of high esteem that it should be to know what is truth on an issue and/or how we should pattern our feelings, knowledge, and convictions. It could be for a variety of reasons known only to you. I might add that this is not uncommon amongst Christians today , for, many many Christians don't have a strong desire for Gods Word / they don't apply fundamental hermanuetics for the greatest amount of understanding on it / or they've bought into a tolerance mindset of accepting Anothers feelings and beliefs as 'truth' instead of applying sound discernment as Gods Word instructs us to. In short, there is such a thing as misapplied 'grace' and tolerance instead of interjecting the absolute truth of Gods Word on a given matter . This tolerance philosophy is actually a catalyst coming from our secular culture .

Regardless of the consensus, you and they should always honor Gods Word by going in private (first) to an Individual you have a discrepancy with and particularly if its one of a personal nature.

Finally, I don't feel 'I know it all' ...but I do believe that with continued diligence I can become an even better Student of The Word for life application . I wonder if its a matter of you feeling somewhat insecure or inadequate from not going to The Bible for it to shape your convictions instead of relying on how you feel about something (?) . I regret you feel that im present in this Room to wait to whack you over the head with the truth from Gods Word ... but that is not my intention ; I will, however, correct a professed Christian if what they are espousing does not line up with the Bible ...and I hope Someone would do that with me if I ever got off track. That's how we grow .
 
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nope I do not feel inadequate about my knowledge of the bible and if I did it would surely not be because of your wealth of knowledge.

I have tried to explain to you how you are coming across but since you think you are fine, I guess you are fine. I'm done.

And can I just say one more thing? Oh nevermind you wouldn't listen anyway.
 
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nope I do not feel inadequate about my knowledge of the bible and if I did it would surely not be because of your wealth of knowledge.

I have tried to explain to you how you are coming across but since you think you are fine, I guess you are fine. I'm done.

And can I just say one more thing? Oh nevermind you wouldn't listen anyway.

Well good then ; keep on studying Gods Word which says its to make a Worker approved . If you make the Bible your sole ultimate truth source , then none of us as Christians cant go wrong.
 
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Actually there probably are words, you are just too kind.

LOL well there's that, and then there's the fact that I really don't want to get kicked off the forum. I feel like I have some really cool friends here even if they aren't IRL. And of course one has to give up on words when they quit having the desired effect, right?
 
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