Ladies ,here are Tips for getting the guy of your dreams

[yam]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

 

[Oddish]

One problem. He has to be physically attracted to the girl who is pursuing him.

 

[Crosscheck]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

Personally I think people that smile all time end up looking somewhere between flat out stupid and insecure.

 

[Stravinsk]

Personally I think people that smile all time end up looking somewhere between flat out stupid and insecure.

Who smiles "all the time"? Not many people I know.

I always appreciate a smile from a female as long as I can tell it's genuine. Straight faced or frowning doesn't do much for me, lol.

 

[Schneiderman]

It depends on the smile. Some people naturally wear a natural looking smile. Others either naturally wear an awkward smile, or force an awkward smile that screams insecurity.

The smile wouldn't make much of a difference to me. But if you are interested in a guy, you should show your interest. Sometimes we see and know girls who we could kind of consider dating, but we're not knocked out by them at first so we don't pursue them on our own- but if they made it clear that they were interested it would create interest in us and motivate us to do something about it.

The rule #3 is probably good advice. That would be a relatively clear way to let a guy know that you are open to being asked out. But you have to do it in a clear way- ie, "Have you heard about [movie]? I'd really like to see it, maybe this weekend." or "[band] is playing a show this week, I'd really like to go see them with somebody".

Not, "So what kind of music do you like?" A question like that is just a friend question, or even just a small talk question, the kind of thing you talk about with people that you have nothing better to talk about with.

 

[StarryEyes]

What is your opinion about the rules ?

Where's God in these "rules"?
They sound like more of man's ways combined with desperation. I sure dont' want to be in a relationship out of desperation ever again!
It also sounds like not thinking about the future and just thinking about "my happiness right now."
Also, coming up with ways to get the guy to ask you out sounds pretty deceptive, and also like God isn't in the center of it.

 

[h3sean]

I think these 3 tips are pretty good. You have to do the first two genuinely though to all people not just to guys whom you're interested in.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I think these three tips are great advice. But I'm also aware that there is a time to draw the line for each of them, you don't want to overdo it.

 

[Crosscheck]

Who smiles "all the time"? Not many people I know.

I always appreciate a smile from a female as long as I can tell it's genuine. Straight faced or frowning doesn't do much for me, lol.

It's a submissive gesture, and lot's of people react to any uncertain situation by smiling. It demonstrates an automatic tendency to be passive and submissive. Not really a trait I find especially attractive.

 

[BRISH]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

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Honestly I'm leary of any advice given through the media

The first two suggestions are basic suggestions on having a pleasant persona.

The last part is just way too much work to replace simple open communication. I can/do admire chivalry and prefer it, but why should we have to leave signals around and wait for the guy to ask all the time.

I think alot of worries are too thought out...overanalyzed. Connections are just made naturally.

 

[Fremdin]

I guess I've been doing it wrong all these years. I thought #1 was "put out" Oh well

 

[Inkachu]

My first thought was the same as Becky's. Smiling and complimenting won't get you anywhere if he doesn't think you're pretty.

Instead of titling those rules "Tips For Getting The Guy Of Your Dreams", it should be "Tips On How To Flirt". Because there's no guarantee that the guy would reciprocate the attention, be attracted to you in any way, ask you out, fall in love with you, propose to you, and marry you. So to act like doing those things is somehow going to wind up in an idyllic ever-after scenario...is kinda just stupid. Typical teen magazine pop culture nonsense.

But hey, if you wanna be a good flirt, they're good tips.

 

[Tink]

I smile more than most people I know. I wonder if that's considered a bad sign. lol.

 

[SonicBOOM]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

this is surprisingly accurate. A girl like this would win my heart for sure! I particularly like number 3. If it truly is the guy's duty to ask you out, at least you can do is put out the fishing line and see if you can get a bite.

 

[BarelyBreathing]

Who smiles "all the time"? Not many people I know.

I always appreciate a smile from a female as long as I can tell it's genuine.

Personally I think people that smile all time end up looking somewhere between flat out stupid and insecure.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.

I smile more than most people I know. I wonder if that's considered a bad sign. lol.

I smile a LOT also. I am always smiling at other people. I never realized before it made me look stupid and insecure. And oddly enough, people have always assumed I am stuck up despite the fact that I am always smiling at others.

I must not be smiling correctly.

 

[LoneSheep]

It's easy to get a guy to like you in the workplace or elsewhere: Just talk to him! Then talk some more! You'll get an impression of him and what he likes by just talking.

You can hint at a date type of outing if things seem to be going well. It seems too simple but it actually works.

 

[Thunder Peel]

The best tip of all, without trying to sound cheesy, is just be friendly and be yourself. Honestly, that's more attractive than anything and guys with any sense will be attracted to that.

Also, having Oreos helps too.

 

[127.0.0.1]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

Why can't she just ask him out?
If a girl asked me out I'd be...

 

[Marycita]

Where's God in these "rules"?
They sound like more of man's ways combined with desperation. I sure dont' want to be in a relationship out of desperation ever again!
It also sounds like not thinking about the future and just thinking about "my happiness right now."
Also, coming up with ways to get the guy to ask you out sounds pretty deceptive, and also like God isn't in the center of it.

This...



and also - these tips SO wouldn't get the guy of my dreams - the guy of my dreams better not be okay with me sort of manipulating him into asking me out....

 

[Labayu]

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and also - these tips SO wouldn't get the guy of my dreams - the guy of my dreams better not be okay with me sort of manipulating him into asking me out....

Originally Posted by StarryEyes

Where's God in these "rules"?
They sound like more of man's ways combined with desperation. I sure dont' want to be in a relationship out of desperation ever again!
It also sounds like not thinking about the future and just thinking about "my happiness right now."
Also, coming up with ways to get the guy to ask you out sounds pretty deceptive, and also like God isn't in the center of it.
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How about:

1) Don't pay them any attention- If they are God's chice then He will make it happen even if you ignore the guy.
2) Don't try and look nice- hell don't even bother to shower- if you make too much effort then he won't see you for who you really are, and he shouldn't care about appearences anyway.

Number 3 is the hard one though...

Should it be:

Continue to ignore the guy and show no intrest but pray to God that if the guy is His choice then he'll still ask you out...

or

When God tells you yes, march up to the guy and say it's the Lords will that you two get married (and yes that does happen- luckly not to me but it's happened to a friend on a couple of occasions- including when his then fiance, now wife, was sitting next to him!)