Ladies ,here are Tips for getting the guy of your dreams

[Marycita]

How about:

1) Don't pay them any attention- If they are God's chice then He will make it happen even if you ignore the guy.
2) Don't try and look nice- hell don't even bother to shower- if you make too much effort then he won't see you for who you really are, and he shouldn't care about appearences anyway.

Number 3 is the hard one though...

Should it be:

Continue to ignore the guy and show no intrest but pray to God that if the guy is His choice then he'll still ask you out...

or

When God tells you yes, march up to the guy and say it's the Lords will that you two get married (and yes that does happen- luckly not to me but it's happened to a friend on a couple of occasions- including when his then fiance, now wife, was sitting next to him!)

That's not what I said or meant at all....

 

[Inkachu]

How about:

1) Don't pay them any attention- If they are God's chice then He will make it happen even if you ignore the guy.
2) Don't try and look nice- hell don't even bother to shower- if you make too much effort then he won't see you for who you really are, and he shouldn't care about appearences anyway.

Number 3 is the hard one though...

Should it be:

Continue to ignore the guy and show no intrest but pray to God that if the guy is His choice then he'll still ask you out...

or

When God tells you yes, march up to the guy and say it's the Lords will that you two get married (and yes that does happen- luckly not to me but it's happened to a friend on a couple of occasions- including when his then fiance, now wife, was sitting next to him!)

Wow...someone's feeling bitter and hateful today...now that's the way to attract women!

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Wow...someone's feeling bitter and hateful today...now that's the way to attract women!

Your sense of humor gene must be turned off today.

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

It only works if he is interested or attracted in the first place. And even then, you never know - some guys like a girl with a little more attitude. Not to mention, another tip: there's a reason "playing hard to get" is the oldest trick in the book - done to the right degree, it works. It will spin dude's head around in circles, make him think about a girl WAY more, make him wonder if she's really that into him or not ... thus, putting the ball in the girl's court.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Where's God in these "rules"?
They sound like more of man's ways combined with desperation. I sure dont' want to be in a relationship out of desperation ever again!
It also sounds like not thinking about the future and just thinking about "my happiness right now."
Also, coming up with ways to get the guy to ask you out sounds pretty deceptive, and also like God isn't in the center of it.

That's a rather snap judgment. What if she snags a guy this way and gets married to him?

These are child's play compared to the "push/pull" method of getting a guy into you, which is also the single most effective way.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

My opinion on the rules:

Rule 1: Don't fake smiles. Fake smiles are obvious, can be seen from a mile away, and will tell a guy that he is not really impressing you.
Rule 2: I like this one to a certain degree, but don't overdo it to where you're just laying it on.
Rule 3: is the best of the 3

 

[GQ Chris]

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The last part is just way too much work to replace simple open communication. I can/do admire chivalry and prefer it, but why should we have to leave signals around and wait for the guy to ask all the time.

because the signals help. It doesn't even have to be a big signal, but just indicate mutual interest, otherwise I will think she's either not interested, frigid, or asexual.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

Those are the basics really. There has to be some mutual interest to begin with, this just gives the guy the go-ahead.

I've taken 3 to the extreme, telling the guy straight up that I think he's smart and quite the cutie. It works, if he already likes you and was just nervous to ask. If that doesn't work, I move on.

 

[ceh85]

If you actually like someone doesn't all this stuff happen naturally anyway??

 

[Irrkunst]

My first thought was the same as Becky's. Smiling and complimenting won't get you anywhere if he doesn't think you're pretty.

True. He also needs to realize that you are interested. A lot of guys can't pick up the signals.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

If you actually like someone doesn't all this stuff happen naturally anyway??

You'd like to hope. But from my experience, no one ever talks to anyone else. Everyone seems so concerned with themselves that they just do their own thing and never introduce themselves to strangers. I thought everyone was shy like me, but when I started asking girls out they always had a boyfriend. I haven't met any women of my age bracket in over 3 years now.

I'm thinking of going to beaches this summer. It would be nice to get married and have kids, but hey if God doesn't want that for me, I'm cool with that too. I went a long many year(over a decade) being depressed because no women would ever date me, but now that I know God is real, I don't feel the pressure to experience life to its fullest I had at one time. The way I look at it now is I should let people know Jesus is real more than my own personal desires.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I was watching this TV show and the lady give 3 rules that ladies can follow and get a guy to ask her out.

1. Smile a lot- it shows that you are approachable, intrested, friendly and not stuck up.
2. Give compliments- Guys love complimets. You can compliment him on his clothes or smiles.
3. Find a way to make the guy ask u out. For example : you can ask him about a new movie, resturant or music just so he can ask u to go with him to see this new film, concert ...

What is your opinion about the rules ? Guys feel free to comment too ?

Basic and general but good. Sometimes the simplest works the best. The smiling is very true. Makes you look easy to get along with, friendly, happy, and filled with spirit and cheer. Laughing is similar. It's good to compliment if you'd like to get the point across but don't overdo it. You don't want to come off as desperate and too strong. I don't worry about steering people in the direction of asking me out, though. I've dated enough now to not even worry about that. If it happens, it happens.