Kissing on the first date - A poll

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I'm curious to see if there is a big difference between men and women in their views regarding kissing on the first date. Poll coming...

 

[ido]

As I mentioned in the other thread - I'm not keen on perfunctory first date kisses.

 

[.Sabre.]

I voted.

 

[AuburnMeg]

I said "not sure" just because I don't think I really have a "typical". If it's someone that I've known for a while, but this is just the first date, I'll kiss him if he tries. I wouldn't do that with someone that I don't really know though I don't think.

 

[lostaquarium]

I voted "not sure" because I've only ever been kissed twice... The first was after 2 weeks of seeing the boy continuously (we went to the same school), and I liked him very much, but the kiss was terrible. The second was after 5 dates, and I didn't like him, and the kiss was so-so.

 

[Inkachu]

Hehehe...the guys want the kisses, naturally.

 

[Markus6]

Well I said no. A kiss on the first date is pretty much based just on looks and "chemistry" and I'd prefer the first kiss to mean a little more than that. Though I agree there might be wiggle room if I'd known the girl a bit longer I'd still probably want to wait till the second at least. It's not that hard.

I know some guys want to try for a kiss so they can gauge how well the date well. I like to think I'm good enough at reading body language etc. to not need a kiss to tell.

 

[latteda]

Not typically, but there are some exceptions. And those exceptions have nothing to do with the attractiveness of the guy in question, but the level of commitment in the relationship as well as how well I know and trust him. To me, a kiss should mean something very deep and true.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

No, not if you don't really know the guy before the date.

One date does not allow you to get to know someone properly, I wouldn't want to be made to feel like I have to kiss a stranger, KWIM?

I remember one guy who I went out with for a day, we didn't even go on a date. I was with my old friend and two guys and one of the guys wanted to go out with me so I said yes. On that same day he kept trying to kiss me (which was REALLY annoying) but I would turn away lol. Next day I said to him, "I don't think we should see each other". He seemed really slimy.:o

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I picked I'm not sure. I really think it would depend on the guy for me.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I voted "not sure" because I've only ever been kissed twice... The first was after 2 weeks of seeing the boy continuously (we went to the same school), and I liked him very much, but the kiss was terrible. The second was after 5 dates, and I didn't like him, and the kiss was so-so.

Kissing can start off a little awkward for some people, especially if they haven't kissed before or if they haven't done any kissing in a long time. It takes practice.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Hehehe...the guys want the kisses, naturally.

I know and most of the girls are like "no first date kisses!" -- its funny

 

[RobinRedbreast]

I'm female and when I was still dating, I wanted a kiss on the first date

 

[Inkachu]

I will say that, until recently, I was all about getting me some kissing and some groping on the first date. Yes, I was a frisky little tart. So I've been on both sides of the issue lol. I've learned that my time, emotion, thoughts, energy, and affection are all precious things, and I'm not going to give them to someone who 1) doesn't deserve them and 2) doesn't value them and 3) doesn't earn them.

Or think of it this way: if you could speak to your future spouse right now, even if you weren't going to meet them yet, and you said "Hi honey! Say, do you mind me kissing all my dates between now and when I meet you?" What would he/she say? Forget the fact that "I don't expect my future spouse to have never kissed anyone". That's missing the point. Do you think they'd rather have your kisses saved up for them and them alone? Yes or no?

 

[Blank123]

i voted not sure just because i don't think there are any hard and fast rules. I don't wanna feel pressured into having to kiss but i don't think the option should be off the table either if both people wanna kiss

 

[deliciousBass]

I said not sure... some first dates are great and would be even better with a kiss. And others are rubbish and should be ended ASAP.

 

[Luther073082]

Speaking of which, offically Melissa what date (not day) did we kiss on??

I want to say it was the 5th.

 

[JonMiller]

Never been on a date, pretty sure I wouldn't want to kiss on a first date. I would probably feel really shy about hugging even.

I could if I had alcohol, but I don't want or think that meaningful kisses be because of lowered inhibition. And for my culture, meaningless kisses shouldn't be.

I wouldn't say definitely no kiss on the first date though, probably would only happen if she initiated.

JM

 

[Manda_24]

I am pretty sure I wouldn't want to kiss on the first date, there may be exceptions but for the majority no. My ex waited forever, or at least it seemed that way, but the kisses finally came, I don't really know why he waited so long, I should have just kissed him first or something.

 

[mina]

typically- no
but i guess it really depends on the guy and the situation and the circumstances and context that i know him in