Your post is too long for me to read but I got the gist of it.
There is another word for what you are calling tithe. Maybe it is offerings or alms?
Please understand what I'm saying in that, words mean things, and when we use the term "tithe," we're addressing a very specific system and items as defined within that system. In this modern age of applying whatever word to something that feels good to us, that only leads to confusion and disingenuous dealings with the concepts and absolutes of God's word.
I disagree as for me I give to the church and usually fairly big ones because I want them to be able to spread Gods word to the world and that takes money.
Big, as in the size of the building? How does that building spread God's word? Is it not WE who should be spreading the word of God? Look, I'm not saying it's wrong to possess the luxury of a communal facility, no matter how large, but when the largest portion of our giving is handed over for the support of hay, wood, stone and stubble while the needs of fellow believers and those in the local community go unmet for the sake of something that's going to burn with this earth, we are NOT following the example of the first century Church of the apostles, and our message is utterly corrupt.
The little churches aren't able to do that. No matter what my actions are as long as I do it with good intent God will see to it that it is a blessing.
God also has laid upon us the responsibility for first and fore most meeting each other's needs above all else, as is exemplified in the scriptures. Why? Simply stated, when a family in need has clean water to drink, food in their stomachs, shelter over their heads, they are then freed to live and function for the Lord as well as the rest of us. Anyone who has read the NT will see that they met needs first with the collections. They didn't go out and buy materials to erect a communal facility as an alleged spreading of God's word. It is PEOPLE who spread God's word, not dead buildings. We can spread the word of God without any ties to our building.
I leave it up to him After all, it is his money.
He already owns cattle on a thousand hills, and to my knowledge, nobody has rustled them to the point that the Lord needs us to hand over to Him what's in our pockets. Yes. He owns it all, whether it's in your pockets, mine, everyone else. The point is, you are trying to defend passing on to God your own personal responsibility for proper giving. We are more faithful to God and His will for giving when we hand over the primary portion of our giving to those in need before we support dead buildings and all their visual appeal. To say otherwise is not supporting God and His work. God's work is PEOPLE, not THINGS.
I feel like if it isn't to his liking he will let me know some way.
Really? What if He says to you, "I showed you in that Bible, which you read only with blinders on, what I wanted you to do, and instead you tried to put your responsibility on ME by listening to those false teaching men and their silky tongues to pour your resources into dead things before ever thinking to meet the needs of that suffering family down the street or across town."
In a congregation of thousands, or twenty, what do you think is more effective; having one guy standing there preaching to the few unbelievers who come in occasionally, or those people themselves ministering Christ to the world around them wherever they are out in the culture where that one man behind the pulpit can reach, and meeting needs in far greater ways than any one man-made organization?
Only the mathematically challenged do not get the following in what is more effective:
10,000 people who hand over to the needy 80% to the needy of what they have available for giving, AND ministering Christ to thousands of people each week, or
10,000 people who hand over all their giving to an institution that absorbs 80% of what they give for its own expenditures and staffing, reaching only the small hand full of potentially new converts who drift in each week, and not doing much discipling at all apart from Sunday School classes once a week after the people handed over to one man and his staff that responsibility.
You know, this vicarious nonsense we've adopted here in the west in the place of actually living spiritual lives governed and empowere by Holy Spirit, we really are in sad shape in America, just like the Chinese believers have been saying for decades now. People get their warm fuzzies in hiring others to do what they themselves should be doing, giving into something from which they reap direct benefit. That's not "giving" in its true meaning. That's paying one's dues for a membership, leaving God to go out and find others who will do His will in the place of all those people sitting in their dead, multi-million dollar building they think will bring others to Christ for them.
Jr