Just want some advice

[gweneviere]

I haven't been on this site for very long, but I figured I would put to use the good people that are here.

I have been having some hard times lately, and would like it if some of you could pray for me. I am in my 2nd year of college, and I am struggling with school and the rest of my life because I am so lazy and I procrastinate with everything. Even though I recognize my problems, it seems impossible to change them. I fall behind on schoolwork every semester, and have trouble keeping up with simple things, like laundry, cleaning my car, etc.

This may not seem like a big deal to some, but it is causing me to almost ruin my plans for my life. This explanation isn't a very good one, but I don't have time now for a full explanation. If you guys could please post some advice/encouragement, and pray for me, I would greatly appreciate it.

 

[Mapik]

gwenenviere,

You surely will be in my prayers. I unfortunetly don't have many helpful tips for you.
Try this though: Everytime you want to do something that mades you procrastinate (watch TV, play games, go out, etc), tell yourself only after you study for a half hour. You have to tell yourself this and stick to it whatever you promise yourself exactly. Don't put it off and say later, cause you probably won't.
Doing these little things maker a strong impression on other people also. For example if you are single and looking for a mate, no one wants someone who can't keep their car clean, nor do laundry.
You'll be in my prays!

 

[Misnomer]

Hi Gweneviere. I know how it goes. I'm entering my fourth year of college and I have a serious procrastination problem. It gets overwhelming so I've gotten to the point where I make a list/schedule of everything that needs to be done and a time to do it with breaks inbetween. This actually seemed to help most of the time except for the times when classes and homework seem to just take up the entire day. I would highly suggest that you do something like making a list at the very beginning of the semester and stick to it. You may even want to start during the summer or whenever you have a break so that you get use to following a plan.

From my experience it's hard to catch up on schoolwork once you fall too far behind. So remember to go over your notes shortly after class, do the assigned reading and get help as soon as possible. If working with others helps keep you on top of things then that might work too. Or you could try asking someone (roommate/classmate) to keep you accountable. Also with the cleaning things: I'd suggest cleaning regularly so that things don't get out of control. It's easier to handle little messes than big ones. Try different things and see what works best for you.

But this is just my OP.

 

[Buttermilk]

Yes I've been there, sort of. I stayed at home while I was at university (I am asuming you are away from home), but it didn't make it any easier to study; there were too many distractions (in my case it was my various hobbies)

My advice to you would be to set small goals. If you study for say an hour, allow yourself 10 or 15 minutes to procrastinate, do some more studying and then go and do a job that needs done such as your laundry. Have a night off each week as well; noone can study 24/7.

You can do it

for you

 

[gweneviere]

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Another thing that makes it very dfficult is that i am involved in a relationship, and my problems put a real strain on our relationship. I have been with the same guy for 2 and a half years, and we plan on getting married when i graduate from college.

I also have this weird problem that I can't express emotions. This has a lot to do with my past, but anyone have any suggestions on how to do this. Even when I'm excited about something, or very sad, I have trouble showing it. I don't know what to do.

 

[Jill Pole]

Gweneviere -

Is there a counseling center at your college? If so, someone there will be able to help with a lot of the things you've mentioned. This doesn't mean you're crazy or anything, just that you're want your life to be better - which it sounds like you do!

Sometimes when I want to procrastinate it helps me to set a timer for 15 minutes. I tell myself that once that timer goes off I can quit, but until it does I have to keep at whatever I'm doing. Sometimes getting started is the hardest part, and by the time the timer goes off I actually want to keep going!

 

[gweneviere]

Anyone else feel like you are always backed up with stuff to do? I feel like i am constantly trying to catch up on everything, then when i feel like i've accomplished something, more stuff comes up. It is exhausting! If only life were easier

 

[cat has felt the light!]

I always feel like that, constantly too tired as well to do everything I should!
but I'll pray for ya and you should pray too I mean like talk to him all the time in ur head, at first u feel wacky but it gets to be the norm and he'll help ya with most stuff
C@ xx

 

[gweneviere]

lol, I'm not a new Christian, just to let you all know, I just feel like my life is falling apart, Coming on this site has been good for me, even though it's not physically fellowship with other Christians, it feels the same, and it is refreshing to read all the posts. Thanks again for the prayers

 

[pgmike]

I haven't been on this site for very long, but I figured I would put to use the good people that are here.

I have been having some hard times lately, and would like it if some of you could pray for me. I am in my 2nd year of college, and I am struggling with school and the rest of my life because I am so lazy and I procrastinate with everything. Even though I recognize my problems, it seems impossible to change them. I fall behind on schoolwork every semester, and have trouble keeping up with simple things, like laundry, cleaning my car, etc.

This may not seem like a big deal to some, but it is causing me to almost ruin my plans for my life. This explanation isn't a very good one, but I don't have time now for a full explanation. If you guys could please post some advice/encouragement, and pray for me, I would greatly appreciate it.

exactly the problem with me as well. its been absolutely ridiculous. from chistmas 03 till june i only did my laundry twice lol. thats pretty sick. you couldnt see the floor in my room and i didnt have that motivation to clean it. i actually lost a scholarship and now am dirt poor adn dont know how to pay for stuff, but find comfort in the Lord. however, i finally made a change this summer with Gods help and actually started reading my books for class. just realize that "you can do all things through Him who strangthens you".

 

[pgmike]

it sounds liek you are swamped, is there anyway you could take a semester break?

 

[silwJC7]

Gosh, I've been there. In fact, it's my constant struggle during the school year. It is hard to fall too back behind and catch up, but if you have that determination to rise back up--you can do it. It happened to me so many times that I have a border grade D/F, but with determination, trust in the Lord, and prayer I was able to bring my grade up to a mid-B to a high B. Nothing's impossible with the Lord, but you have to do your part. Try to prioritize things, but always keep God as your 1st priority. You said that you're in a relationship and problems there affect your schoolwork, then, you have to think about a few things and evaluate your life---school is a lot more important because God wants to use us in different ways--if your relationship is a distraction--then, ask yourself and God if this guy is the right one for you. If that's the man that God intends for you then, your relationship won't be a problem because He is always at your side and in the middle of your relationship mediating everything. Hey if you have questions or you need to talk, just send me a message and I would gladly help ya. Have a blessed day!

 

[Tuffguy]

Put restrictions on your self. If you're lazy, you're probally doing something with your free time like sitting on your A$$ and watching TV or playing on the internet. Well,,,stop it. Unplug your cable, or disconnect your lan connection.
You're playing with your whole future here. I dropped out of college and that was a total waste of time and expensive. But i now have a great degree from a good school, but it took one heck of alot longer to get because i was lazy too.

 

[gweneviere]

You said that you're in a relationship and problems there affect your schoolwork, then, you have to think about a few things and evaluate your life---school is a lot more important because God wants to use us in different ways--if your relationship is a distraction--then, ask yourself and God if this guy is the right one for you. If that's the man that God intends for you then, your relationship won't be a problem because He is always at your side and in the middle of your relationship mediating everything.

I didn't mean that the relationship is having an affect on my schoolwork, but rather it is the other way around, lol. and it's not just the schoolwork, but everything. I actually don't spend that much time with my BF because he works 3rd shift 4 days on and 4 days off, so his schedule rotates. I work monday-friday, and go to school monday through thursday nights. Although the schedule is busy, I would have more time if i didn't screw up my schedule so much by getting backed up with work...

 

[silwJC7]

I didn't mean that the relationship is having an affect on my schoolwork, but rather it is the other way around, lol. and it's not just the schoolwork, but everything. I actually don't spend that much time with my BF because he works 3rd shift 4 days on and 4 days off, so his schedule rotates. I work monday-friday, and go to school monday through thursday nights. Although the schedule is busy, I would have more time if i didn't screw up my schedule so much by getting backed up with work...

you have to keep a positive outlook. It's tough--seems like you're all backed up--but if you're going to continue being pessimistic and not try your best to organize your life--you can't really do it. You have to straighten up our priorities and prayer helps a lot too. I'm not trying to discourage you or whatever, it's just that I have a sister whose out look is the same as yours and being negative really doesn't help. Now that she's changed her perspective and outlook--she's on top of everything.

 

[gweneviere]

I don't think i am pessimistic, I guess I am just mad at myself, cus I know what I do wrong, I just feel like I haven't been able to fix it. It's kind of a hard situation to explain, but basically, I wasn't taught a lot of things when I was young, like discipline and organization, and now I'm trying to learn them and live my life at the same time. It's been difficult, but my BF, who has amazing parents, tries to help me out. Unfortunately, it's very frustrating for him, because change isn't easy, and he loves me, so he gets mad sometimes that I didn't have good parents who taught me stuff.

I know everything will turn out ok, I'm just struggling right now. I'm happy to hear about your sister though. It is hard not to get overwhelmed when I have so much to do. I've been trying more to seek God in everything--See my other post in here about my trip to school the other day http://www.christianforums.com/t718354.

 

[super_mog]

Just take each assignment one step at a time. Start one thing and don't move to another thing until it's finished. Some folks can handle lots of assignments at one time, other have difficulty. With me, the hardest thing was getting started. I just prayed for you. Not is impossible with Jesus....even a little homework

 

[john14v6]

I have a problem with getting things done as well. It helps to let some of the people around you know what needs to get done and then everytime you try to slack off the tell you to get back to work. Although they are not always there, it does help. Now back to statics...ugh.