Just not sure

[waiting for him]

I have been dating this guy for 7 years now. Sometimes he pushes me away while he is not aware of it. I love him and he says he loves me. He puts his mother and friend before me. His mother I can understand to a certain point. I am just not sure if he is the one God wants me to be with. I would like to be married and have kids but that has been tossing the situation in and out. I have been praying about this. At times it seems like I may be trying to pull myself away. Any suggestions on this will be greatly appriciated.

 

[fishstix]

I have been dating this guy for 7 years now. Sometimes he pushes me away while he is not aware of it. I love him and he says he loves me. He puts his mother and friend before me. His mother I can understand to a certain point. I am just not sure if he is the one God wants me to be with. I would like to be married and have kids but that has been tossing the situation in and out. I have been praying about this. At times it seems like I may be trying to pull myself away. Any suggestions on this will be greatly appriciated.

If he hasn't gotten around to proposing in 7 years, I don't think it's too likely that he is going to.

 

[loved]

Hmmmm, 7 years is a long time to be dating.

Have you discussed marriage?

Is it possible to get married ie: funds, etc.?

 

[Talie]

could it be what's commonly called the "7 year itch"?

 

[MominTN]

Have the two of you discussed what you wanted for your lives in general? You want marriage and kids. What about him? Does he have an idea of when he thinks he will get married and have kids? These things need to be discussed if they haven't already. Some people don't have any plans. Life is too short to miss out on what you want. Women spend alot of time helping or dating someone only to realize later that their needs aren't met. Dating isn't the same thing as marriage and you have no obligation to continue to wait unless you choose to do so. A woman I met last night dated someone for 8 years, taking care of his every need. Then she came down with cancer, he couldn't handle it and left, and she has gone thru 1 1/2 yrs of treatments while her almost blind mother drives her, while he is dating someone else. Of course married men sometimes do not live up to their obligations either. Another woman moved to Florida to marry a man, and 3 months later, he decided he didn't want to be married any more. So you have to weigh out everything you know about someone, and use your best judgment to decide where to go from here. Pray that God will lead you down the right path because true wisdom comes from above. Pray for strength to make the right decision. God will take you where you need to be in this decision.

 

[JPPT1974]

I have been dating this guy for 7 years now. Sometimes he pushes me away while he is not aware of it. I love him and he says he loves me. He puts his mother and friend before me. His mother I can understand to a certain point. I am just not sure if he is the one God wants me to be with. I would like to be married and have kids but that has been tossing the situation in and out. I have been praying about this. At times it seems like I may be trying to pull myself away. Any suggestions on this will be greatly appriciated.

I think that he may not be ready for marriage nor have children. He needs if He's a Christian to go to the Lord for help & guidance. As well as you need to do the same thing. If you both aren't meant for one another then the Lord may have His reason or reasons with you two. Pray about it as we'll be praying for you as well.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Hey, three more years and you've missed your twenties waiting for this guy. Yeah, after seven years it's time to fish or cut bait.

 

[ummidrinkcherrycoke]

Dump him. He sounds like a loser. A few more years and you'll be posting in the "mature singles" forum.

 

[Johnnz]

he looks very much as if he has yet to grow up and live without mummy. I would move on, but beware, he may start clinging when you do.

John
NZ

 

[TriptychR]

It's certainly a tough choice, having invested so much time into someone. But the fact that you're worried about this is a relatively clear indication that a choice will need to me made soon. Seek God's guidance on this, but don't just let it slide.

 

[Talie]

don't people always say that you should look at the way a man treats his mother? to judge how he will treat his wife?

how DOES he treat his mother (aside from putting her ahead of you)

If you haven't done so, i think it's well past time you sat down with him and talked to him about this issue, how it makes you feel and also about your future

 

[chanis]

imo if he's putting friends before you and pushing you away there's something wrong here, I think you need to re-evaluate this relationship and where it's going because 7yrs is a long time to have invested to be treated this way...

 

[JPPT1974]

don't people always say that you should look at the way a man treats his mother? to judge how he will treat his wife?

how DOES he treat his mother (aside from putting her ahead of you)

If you haven't done so, i think it's well past time you sat down with him and talked to him about this issue, how it makes you feel and also about your future

Tell me about it as I had a boss that treated his women like he was a sexest and was a God towards commanding women. I hope that he doesn't treat either his mother or his wife like dirt. I worry about that though.