Just got a phone call need some advise

[heartnsoul]

I was thinking about ya & hoping & praying that things are ok!

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Wow this just seems unreal.

for the children involved

 

[pray_for_us_all]

ok thought i would keep everyone updated, tried the other day but it wouldnt work, ok we go to court this friday, please be praying that day 9:00 am oklahoma time. Still dont know much of what she is doing to better herself, She sends verbal attacks by people that she know i will talk to. The other day i heard she told someone that she never loved me that she only married me to get out of her parents house. i dont believe it because we were together 6.5 years and have 2 kids together. but still it hurt so bad. James was right the tongue is a powerful weapon. my attorney and the child welfare guys say i will win custody. so im praying that they are right. In a huge blessing news, the DA dropped all charges they filed againist me from the report she made when she ran off with that other guy. They filed them after hearing her story but afer checking into it they dropped them all that is huge heading into the custody hearing it is a major blessing. i'm just trying to stay strong and it's hard sometimes this has taken so much out of me i'm not as strong as i once was , but i know god will see my through it. Just like in Exodus when moses became tired aaron and hur held his hands up for him. i need some of my christian brothers and sisters to hold my hands up for me as i grow weary. i know there are alot of people on here and all around praying for me and i appreciate i know some times i feel down a few minutes later im up again i know someone i praying for me. i just want to say thank you for all the prayers and to ask you to keep praying with me and for the boys.

thanks
danny

 

[llghoney]

So glad to hear from you & that things are heading in the right direction for the kids sake! I will diffentely keep you in my thoughts & prayers. We are ALL brothers & sisters in Christ. God knows his plans for you & there are better things to come from your troubles. Stay strong in his word & may you have the strength to keep the faith.

God Bless you Danny

 

[HunterJG]

Stand strong Danny. God will never leave you or forsake you.

 

[kayd1966]

Praying Danny...you've seen God work in some amazing ways the last few months...continue to lean on Him and trust in Him. I will continue to bring you and the boys before the Father.

 

[elizabethchick]

I am praying for you and her i hope god will be with you all and do the right thing. if she doesnt love you at least she should stay because of her kids. Why is she acussing you of hitting her

 

[shep87]

good luck

 

[pray_for_us_all]

Went to court friday, i got full custody , thanks for all the prayers. Keep her in your prayers i felt so bad for her, she looked so bad her hair wasnt fixed it looked like she just woke up, she was wearing a sweater and skirt that she use to wear to church and she looked nice in it but she has lost so much weight it looked bad on her. she was wearing her b/f big brown oil stained coat. please keep praying for her she is in a bad situation. They gave her almost two months to get a lawyer and she didnt have one, her mom was giving her money for a lawyer she claims he quit the day before, we think she was blowing the money.

thanks danny

 

[Rhoni10]

Congrats! I'm glad to see you got custody! When will you get the children? Do you have them already?

 

[pray_for_us_all]

I picked up the boys the same day, keep praying its rough being a single parent

thanks danny

 

[kayd1966]

Praying and Praying and Praying!

Its going to be tough with two little ones SO young. Get yourself into a routine so that you know where you are at and the boys will find a lot of security from it too.

I'm so happy that the boys are with you and that they are safe.

Get on here and post as much as you need too...if you need any help let us know and maybe we can point you in the right direction.

You are going to do awesome, and please remember that God is right there beside you guiding you every step of the way.

Praise the Lord...your little ones are safe!

God Bless...

 

[HunterJG]

Good for you trusting in God during this time, Danny. Keep trusting and God will make your road level. You are never alone. God is right beside you all the way and there will always be a willing ear to listen when you come here.

Praise God!

 

[kayd1966]

Danny...haven't heard from you in awhile and I'm sure you are keeping busy with those two little boys of yours. If you have time, drop a quick line and let us know how you are...if you don't have the time, I'm just letting you know that you all are still in my prayers.

God Bless...

 

[pray_for_us_all]

hey, sorry about not checking in, haven't been myself lately and the boys take about 98% of my time, things are going good as can be expected i guess. The boys are fine, devin will turn 3 the 29th of this month, brayden is 7 months now and what a chunk he is lol. Hope i am still in your prayers i need them now more than ever, don't forget my ex-wife either she needs our prayers also. The puppet ministry has been on hold, mostly because of me, i just dont have the fire i had before all of this, it took something from me and i can't seem to get it back. I stood strong through out the whole thing and now i'm just not the same person i was. It's hard seeing her the way she is living like a bum. Rumors around are that she is pregnant she sure looks like it but says she is not. I hope she is not she is strung out right now. Still don't have the baby sitter situation locked down the daycare i want is full, waiting for them to get 2 spots open. My sister watches them most of the time, but she has a handicapped son that is having alot of health problems so pray for him to. Don't know what else to say, were planning on starting up puppet practice again this sunday. I have turned down so many churches and events here lately, i hope to make them all up in the coming months. It has been over 5 months since the day i started this thread, that means she has been gone over 5 months i can't believe it's been that long. I have had custody of the boys for almost 3 months now. Man time is flying. I just take it one day at a time, try not to let it get me down, it hurts me that the boys dont have a mom, i mean they do but not to love and care for them. It makes me feel like a big loser to see what she is going through now, having to live like a bum and borrow gas money off of my sister when she goes to see the boys and to think she chose that over living with me big ego boost for me there, but she also chose that over her kids to. I so hate being alone, I just want to meet someone that loves the lord and loves kids, I did meet someone but it won't workout, to many differences in us, her kids are 6 & 8 but they do not behave at all, so we have some big parenting differences. She just screams at them an then ignores there, not a situation i want for my kids. She was wanting to move in but i told her i didn't feel right living with someone i wasnt married to. I'm not ready for that anyway. Just keep lifting me up in your prayers, i can go back through the post from this and just see how god worked in my situation. How everytime something happened that look to be bad for me god turned it around to be in my favor. And i know he never left me, but i seem to be wandering in the dark without a flash light at the moment.

I'll keep posting it seems to help, i know prayer changes things i don't know if anyway will read this since it is an old thread but if you do pray for us.

danny

 

[llghoney]

Wow I can't believe time has flown by like you said. When I was reading this I was like has it been 3 months? Time does fly for sure!

Thanks for letting us know what has been going on. I will still keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.


God Bless!

 

[MaraPetra]

Danny, I don't know how I missed this thread, but I have some words for you.

You're doing GREAT! The devil's given you some tremendous sorrow, but you've leaned on God and overcame. Reading over your story, I was moved to tears on several occasions. You're truly a testament to what God expects of us as Christians, and your personal story is a testimony so powerful that it should be shared.

Don't lose your faith, keep leaning on God, and that fire will come back. Keep in mind Ecclesiastes 3..."To everything there is a season, and it is tied to every purpose under heaven." Perhaps your season for puppet ministry is over...Or perhaps, your season of sorrows will ultimately light a spiritual fire that's almost blinding. Pray on it, see what God's will is there.

My husband underwent something very similar to your situation when his first wife left him. He, too, ended up with sole custody of his kids (his son was 2 1/2, and his daughter only 8 months old) after a very nasty discovery of four different men in his wife's life, and the subsequent nasty divorce. The mother walked away, and stayed out of the kids' lives for three years. During that time, he prayed, and showed his kids pictures of their mother, so that they would know who she was if she returned.

His ex-wife describes those three years as "nightmarish". She did things she now knows are wrong, got mixed up with the wrong crowd, developed a few addictions, and caused immense pain both to herself and to others.

At the end of those three years, my husband received a phone call from her. She'd been living with a man, who'd beaten her so savagely that she'd lost the child in her womb. My husband immediately went to the home, helped her pack up, and moved her to a safe place. During that episode, my husband asked her to come back to him and the kids. She refused point-blank.

He continued to pray.

After that, she came around a bit more. She visited the kids, and straightened herself out. She attended school, got her degree, and she finally met a good man who could give her what she needed in life. After she married, my husband started dating again. He and I met. Likewise, we fell in love and married. I met his ex about five months before he and I married.

He continued to pray. I started to pray with him.

These past four years have blessed us all. My husband, his ex, and I all co-parent the kids together. I'm blessed to have a close friendship with her...A friendship so close that, in times of trouble, she doesn't hesitate to call. We giggle over the kids' actions, cry together when they're in trouble, and work together because her kids won't suffer if we do so.

And last month, she accepted Jesus as her Savior!!!! I keep grinning when I think about this, because she's going to church religiously, being a better role model for her kids, and even buying them Bibles and discussing the Word with them! God's put a song in my heart every time she and I speak now!

You are where my husband was those many years ago. Please don't give up faith, continue praying for your ex without ceasing, and love those boys with every breath of your being. God doesn't leave us or forsake us, and it hurts Him when we're not in His will. That goes for your ex, too. Forgive her in your heart, and be prepared, because there will come a day when she'll turn to something different...But she'll have to hit rock-bottom first.

Your life will change...Again, it's that season thing. But whether your life of seasons will bring your wife back to you, or if it brings a woman who can appreciate all you have to give, and complement you in your life, just be content that God won't leave you to flounder.

I'm in a family that's living proof that God can take the horror you and your boys are experiencing, and turn it into something of such joy that your heart bursts when you even think about it.

God bless you.

And keep praying for her.

 

[Endless]

You are not alone danny. I am engaged to be married to a wonderful man who found himself in a similar position. She won't admit to it, but was probably involved in some illicit sexual activity prior to leaving, but after leaving found herself enmeshed in a 3-way fling with a biker couple.

she moved herself out of the house and took her then 2 year old son. after a few months C was allowed to see where she lived (previously she would bring him to C's house) when he was allowed to see him. turns out she had no furniture...no heat...no food...and was surrounded by crack houses. c cried all the way home and instead of calling child protective services he told her to move into his townhouse and he'd move in with his mom. she then proceeded to move her biker couple in with them. because he did not want to take his son away from his mother he fought to quell the sickness that overcame him when thinking about the situation his son was living in. after a while he just couldn't and told her that if she didn't give him custody he'd take her to court to get it. 24 hours later he had custody of his son.

it's been a long 4 year struggle for him. he still combats depression about his own failure ... feeling that there was more he could have done.

thankfully God answers prayers and saved his life ... and gave him love and stability. it is always a struggle. to see the mother spend maybe 6 hours with her kid a week is torture. but he thinks of me as mom already.

thank the Lord for answered prayers.

~M

 

[Autumnleaf]

Keep it up Danny. It sounds like you're doing the right things.

 

[homeschooling_Momma]

my brother is going thru something similar right now...his wife has taken up with one of her sisters ex husbands....

she has just cast him aside...and hes a good man, I dont get it!

he is living here with us now until he can do better...bless his heart.

I am praying for you & so sorry that you are going thru this.