Judge orders 30 year old man out of parents home

[Mountainmanbob]

I know it can be a rough world out there. MB

Maybe somebody here on-site would like to adopt this nice young man?

 

[grasping the after wind]

Chickens coming home to roost. If the parents were responsible adults they might have raised their son to be a responsible adult. I know I did not need to go sending messages and crying to the government to get any of my children to leave. Did they never talk to their son face to face when there was an issue between them? Reminds me of the woman that called 911 when her children wouldn't listen to her and then made a big stink when the 911 operator reasonably mocked her for doing so. She had no problem bullying the 911 operator for disrespecting her disrespect worthy behavior but could not find a way to demand compliance from her children.

 

[Sabertooth]

My kids will always have a home with us as long as

1. they are single,
2. they honor our house rules,
   
3. they contribute, and
4. we can afford it.

Only one has found these terms acceptable, and he has long-term goals otherwise.

I consider this to be the Old Testament model, though not particularly a mandate.

 

[nChrist]

Hello MB,

No, I don't want to adopt this young man. I would simply tell him that his free meal ticket is gone - it's time for him to get a job and take care of himself.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

Hello MB,

No, I don't want to adopt this young man. I would simply tell him that his free meal ticket is gone - it's time for him to get a job and take care of himself.

He can come here and take care of our goats but, he has to live outside with the goats and eat with the goats. Kind of like The Prodigal Son. Seems eating with the pigs straightened him out a little??

M-Bob

 

[mama2one]

My kids will always have a home with us as long as

1. they are single,
2. they honor our house rules,
   
3. they contribute, and
4. we can afford it.

Only one has found these terms acceptable, and he has long-term goals otherwise.

I consider this to be an Old Testament model, though not particularly a mandate.

that's how my parents felt
a single, never married, never lived on own, over 35, sister of mine just recently moved out

first time out of house and moved states away for job

 

[Sabertooth]

They are free to leave when they're 18. Our home just remains an option under said terms.

 

[Radagast]

Kind of like The Prodigal Son. Seems eating with the pigs straightened him out a little??

Some people think that the Prodigal Son got a bad rap:

I wasted my substance, I know I did,
On riotous living, so I did,
But there's nothing on record to show I did
Worse than my betters have done.
They talk of the money I spent out there -
They hint at the pace that I went out there -
But they all forget I was sent out there
Alone as a rich man's son.

(Rudyard Kipling, 1901)

 

[Radagast]

Some people think that the Prodigal Son got a bad rap

Of course, Kipling was really talking about prodigal sons of his own era, who got sent to India and then lost all their money there.

He also describes a case that ended far less happily: Plain Tales from the Hills, by Rudyard Kipling : Thrown Away.

"... To rear a boy under what parents call the 'sheltered life system' is, if the boy must go into the world and fend for himself, not wise. Unless he be one in a thousand he has certainly to pass through many unnecessary troubles; and may, possibly, come to extreme grief simply from ignorance of the proper proportions of things.

Let a puppy eat the soap in the bath-room or chew a newly-blacked boot. He chews and chuckles until, by and by, he finds out that blacking and Old Brown Windsor make him very sick; so he argues that soap and boots are not wholesome. Any old dog about the house will soon show him the unwisdom of biting big dogs’ ears. Being young, he remembers and goes abroad, at six months, a well-mannered little beast with a chastened appetite. If he had been kept away from boots, and soap, and big dogs till he came to the trinity full-grown and with developed teeth, just consider how fearfully sick and thrashed he would be! Apply that motion to the 'sheltered life,' and see how it works. It does not sound pretty, but it is the better of two evils. ..."

That one may be relevant to the OP.

 

[*LILAC]

I have a bil who is in his mid 40s and never moved out. Yes, it really is a sad little world when mommy and daddy haven't raised you better.

 

[~Anastasia~]

My kids will always have a home with us as long as

1. they are single,
2. they honor our house rules,
   
3. they contribute, and
4. we can afford it.

Only one has found these terms acceptable, and he has long-term goals otherwise.

I consider this to be an Old Testament model, though not particularly a mandate.

I never articulated it fully but I felt the same. I had only a daughter though, and she managed to take care of herself fairly young.

I'm not sure if I would have felt the same about a son? But it seems reasonable to me that if he were contributing and not just mooching as a lifelong child I would have allowed that too. If a child doesn't marry, I'd just as soon see them have an option to remain in the family home, if it's beneficial to all.

I like your rules though.

 

[Southernscotty]

Lol, If more people were farmers then the kids would want to leave the nest very fast. I used to dream of the day that I could get out of those chores and hauling hay. lol
A good dose of old fashioned farm work for just one day would kill most kids today.

 

[~Anastasia~]

Lol, If more people were farmers then the kids would want to leave the nest very fast. I used to dream of the day that I could get out of those chores and hauling hay. lol
A good dose of old fashioned farm work for just one day would kill most kids today.

Lot of truth in that. We had just a little hobby farm really - lots of different animals and growing stuff just for us and them. Just the basic animal chores took 6 hours a day. Even if it was over 100 degrees, or well below freezing with wet stuff falling - still had to be done. Even on Sundays. No vacations or holidays lol.

 

[Southernscotty]

Lot of truth in that. We had just a little hobby farm really - lots of different animals and growing stuff just for us and them. Just the basic animal chores took 6 hours a day. Even if it was over 100 degrees, or well below freezing with wet stuff falling - still had to be done. Even on Sundays. No vacations or holidays lol.

Amen, The animals came first at our place and it was hard to crawl out from under the quilts in the morning when it was -zero and sleeting, But I did it without much thought because I thought everyone else in the world done it to? Just another part of life for us. I am so glad to have experienced this though and I believe I am blessed above all :] lol

 

[Hank77]

Lol, If more people were farmers then the kids would want to leave the nest very fast. I used to dream of the day that I could get out of those chores and hauling hay. lol
A good dose of old fashioned farm work for just one day would kill most kids today.

The only kids that continue with the family farm are the ones who really love that life. I have cousins who do and my s-i-l, who wasn't raised ranching/farming. We kept livestock and put up hay until the last couple of years.
I agree with you that most kids wouldn't last a day bucking bales in the summer heat or milking cows at any time of the year but especially not in the winter.

 

[Southernscotty]

The only kids that continue with the family farm are the ones who really love that life. I have cousins who do and my s-i-l, who wasn't raised ranching/farming. We kept livestock and put up hay until the last couple of years.
I agree with you that most kids wouldn't last a day bucking bales in the summer heat or milking cows at any time of the year but especially not in the winter.

Yes I couldn't wait to get away from that place and then when I grew all I wanted was a farm of my own. lol funny how that works :]
Now I miss that old farm and would love to go back live it again.
A man can have some serious talks with God while sitting 10 hours on a tractor :]

 

[RDKirk]

Yes I couldn't wait to get away from that place and then when I grew all I wanted was a farm of my own. lol funny how that works :]
Now I miss that old farm and would love to go back live it again.
A man can have some serious talks with God while sitting 10 hours on a tractor :]

My maternal great-great grandparents (former slaves) were in the 1889 Oklahoma land rush. That farm/sawmill succored the family through the Dust Bowl and Great Depression until the uncle who controlled it sold it off in the 60s to move to Oklahoma City.

Doggone his time.

Now here we are about to retire, and after living on the other side of the planet more than once, I find myself searching for an acre of land only 50 miles from that old family farm.

 

[Southernscotty]

My maternal great-great grandparents (former slaves) were in the 1889 Oklahoma land rush. That farm/sawmill succored the family through the Dust Bowl and Great Depression until the uncle who controlled it sold it off in the 60s to move to Oklahoma City.

Doggone his time.

Now here we are about to retire, and after living on the other side of the planet more than once, I find myself searching for an acre of land only 50 miles from that old family farm.

You can take the boy out of the farm, But you can't take the farm out of the boy :]

 

[*LILAC]

Lol, If more people were farmers then the kids would want to leave the nest very fast. I used to dream of the day that I could get out of those chores and hauling hay. lol
A good dose of old fashioned farm work for just one day would kill most kids today.

LOL! Not so in the case I know of! Stay home and have the farm stuff sold off so he don't gotta do nothin'!

 

[Rukado]

Does make us wonder a little? How many of these lazy ones can we support??

There are over 65 million people on disability (all under 65)

Roughly, a third have no significant disability. Another third have a disability, but they could still easily earn a living. And, only the last third should be getting any disability money, or maybe not. I figure at last half of that last third become severely disabled through hedonism and self-abuse, including letting themselves rot on disability before they become severely disabled (being on disability causes disability).

We should ban people who collect disability from working, to encourage the bums to get off of it, because they can make more money working.