Joining the ranks and struggling!!

[RedheadedPrincess]

I am joining your ranks here and will change my name when I have enough blessings to do so. My husband is planning on filing for a divorce soon since it has come out this last week that he has a girlfriend and he has no desire to work on things. I moved out a few months ago after he demanded that I leave before the lease was up. We were both doing counseling separately, and had been going on a weekly date. It looked like we were starting down a road that might lead to eventual recovery after lots of hard work.....then I found out about the girlfriend (we had promised to keep our vows during the separation) and he just decided he didn't want to work on things anymore.

Please pray for me, because I am having a really hard time dealing with this. I really am trying to continue to glorify and stay true to God in all this, but I am so hurt and angry. I wish I could go back and change everything. I love my husband so much, but I respect myself to much to allow myself to be with him. I will continue to pray for him, but that will be the extent of the relationship other divorce paperwork.

 

[SearcherKris]

I'm so sorry.

Have you looked into DivorceCare. You can go online to get daily e-mail encouragments, and see if there is a group meeting near you. It is Christian, non-denominational.

 

[RedheadedPrincess]

Thank you Searcher! I saw info on Divorce Care when we separated and still working on things so I wasn't in that place. I have been doing individual counseling through my church once a week. I think I am going to look into Divorce Care or something similiar though. I know they don't have it at my church, but other area churches have it.

Thank you for the reminder of the daily e-mails because I had forgotten that they had those. I will definitely sign up for those.

 

[RedheadedPrincess]

Thank you for those that have given blessings!!! I was able to change my name from Ilovemyhubby to RedheadedPrincess. It makes it a little easier to think about logging in here. I also removed the picture that I had on my profile that had the 2 of us on it. Eventually I will find a decent picture to replace it.

 

[SearcherKris]

I was thinking that was you, RedHead!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Ditto on the Divorcecare. I just went thru almost the same thing you did a year ago. It does get better. It really does, but you will have nights where you can't believe that. Just hug a pillow and know that He's there and IT DOES GET BETTER.