I've been divorced from my ex because of infidelity for about 3 months now. During our divorce and just recently in July he has wanted me back but I wouldn't because all he would give me is lip service and no change. Now he says that everything is over for him but he wants me to go to my 2 year olds B-day party that he's putting on for her. Also, the last time he came to visit he asked me if I was going on a date? This confuses me, why would he care if I went on a date or not if he has made up his mind that it is over? Truthfully, if God did a miracle in his life I would reconcile with him but like I said it would have to be a MIRACLE! Anyone have experience with this?
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Hi trumpetgirl.
It sounds to me taht it's not truly over. He's saying that to try and make you believe that it is.
Obviously, he's thinking if you're dating someone because it will kill him inside if you are.
It's only been 3 months and it takes a whole lot longer to get over someone.
Let us know what happens
It sounds to me taht it's not truly over. He's saying that to try and make you believe that it is.
Obviously, he's thinking if you're dating someone because it will kill him inside if you are.
It's only been 3 months and it takes a whole lot longer to get over someone.
Let us know what happens
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He wants to see if you're still on the shelf. He probably doesn't want you bringing a date to the party he just invited you to.
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fields316_2000
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he wants you back. why not give him a chance so long as he's doing what he's saying he's doing?
my phrase of the day is this -
once you lose everything you are free to do anything.
well after a divorce and realizing that he does love you he might actually have turned the corner and started to repent. he wants you back and never ever discount the power or will of god. in fact you might be able to point to a better direction for him as far as his walk goes.
he is asking about a date because he wants you to himself. he wants his wife back he wants to have his family all under the same roof and he's not over you. dont play any games with him. let him know up front you would be willing to reconcile but it woudl be after a guinuie christ like change of heart.
my phrase of the day is this -
once you lose everything you are free to do anything.
well after a divorce and realizing that he does love you he might actually have turned the corner and started to repent. he wants you back and never ever discount the power or will of god. in fact you might be able to point to a better direction for him as far as his walk goes.
he is asking about a date because he wants you to himself. he wants his wife back he wants to have his family all under the same roof and he's not over you. dont play any games with him. let him know up front you would be willing to reconcile but it woudl be after a guinuie christ like change of heart.
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I can't take him back right now because he hasn't had a change of heart. He is still on myspace with trashy girls on his friends list and he's still blaming me for everything. By everything I mean blaming me for him cheating on me and him having a pornography problem. All I asked of him is to go to Christian individual counseling and giving me reassurance by getting accountability and putting blocks on the computer. He want do anything of this and everything has to be on his terms. I just can't go back to his anger and emotionally abusive behavior until he truly has a change of heart. I still have a hope that God will get a hold of him and I hope that everyone that reads this will put us on your prayer list.
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fields316_2000
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Trust me. if he's being ugly on the outside, what do you think is going on within his insides? god is dealing with him but dont quit. Jesus is the third member of your marriage and you have warned him, and i'd imagine that the church preaching has warned him through service. soon he'll be humbled - and when god moves to get your attention he will get it! your husband loves you deep down, but is caught up in lust. pray about him and ask the lord for your strength. if the lord tells you to leave then leave, but it was nt until lazarus died that jesus made a miricle. sometimes it has to get worse before it gets better!
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