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He's as honest as they come, and loves me with all his heart. He also loves Jesus even more than me and is a Godly man.
First, a little background. I'm new here and hoping for some help and insight with my marriage. I'm 45 years old, been married twice. The first husband lasted 13 years until after two affairs, (his), he left me for a friend of mine. (some friend, I know) Unable to financially make it on my own with two growing daughters, I remarried a year later to a Christian guy whom I met at the singles meetings at church. He's a great guy.
Here's the part where I need help.
...Not sure when it became that one sin justified another. Marrying after your first husband left isn't an excuse to just up and divorce your current husband. You vowed to be with him in health AND sickness; that includes mental sickness. Let me ask this: if you were married(we'll say to someone other than your current husband) and started to lose your mental stability, would you want him to divorce you and leave you by yourself? Would you want to be abandoned? Even if you ended up having the mentality of a kid?
Love is a choice. You could have chosen to love your husband. It would have taken a lot of work, because making that choice is often difficult, but it was still a choice you had. Your daughter doesn't sound like she was in any danger. He couldn't help his mental state anymore than your daughter can help hers. That's an excuse to somehow justify your actions.
I'll be praying for you. I'm not even sure what to pray, as I am entirely against the idea of divorcing just because someone's mental state is deteriorating, but I will offer a prayer for you.
I have to agree with C2W here. Speaking as someone who is divorced myself, I don't agree with the motivations for why you married and are now divorcing this man.
I will be praying, too - for God's will in your life and your marriage to be apparent to you and for you to make choices according to it.
He's a great guy.
Great. You guys can all be married to him. Since you don't have the FULL picture, you can't exactly judge my situation. I DID try for 5 years to love him. I still don't. He deserves better. Why should I live the rest of my life miserable and make HIS life miserable just because a few people are offended by divorce. God hates ALL sin. But he forgives ALL sin. I took this sin to the cross and left it there. I can feel my stress level completely gone. Contrary to popular belief, God doesn't want us to be miserable. He wants us to be happy. I never plan of getting married again, I'm just too happy being single and men are a pain. I don't want sex, I don't want company, I don't want ANYTHING a man can give me because I have everything I need right here. You wanna jugde? Fine. Go ahead. But I would NEVER judge any of you for making whatever decision you felt was right in YOUR life. This is supposed to be a Christian support forum yet you are ALL tearing me apart. Gee...thanks. I'm outta here. God forgave me and that's all that matters.