Is this Okay?

[Briseis]

I totally agree with this, it may not actually be a sin, but to put yourself in that much temptation could be asking for big trouble. I know for me and my bf, we don't even go in a bedroom together. There really is no reason to unless you're looking for privacy...which could lead further...if you get my point.

Even if it doesnt lead further. I believe that me and my bf could be alone as much as possible and there is no chance that we would make that mistake. It is really not that much of an issue. He has amazing self control. And me? Well, its just not an issue for me yet. Even if its not gonna lead to anything, to me it just doesnt feel like something that should be done until marriage.

 

[superfly]

Is it sin? I doubt it.

Is it asking for trouble? you betcha.

spot on!

i think that things do vary per relationship and per person though. BUT, even if you do think you could handle it, i would strongly recommend not going there.

God gave us 2 things to use.
firstly, He gave us His Word. that gives us clear guidelines on most issues.
secondly, He gave us common sense. use your common sense in conjunction with His Word when things are not clear-cut.

so, while sleeping together (not sex) is not wrong, it probably isn't a good idea.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Thanks guys for all of your advice. I knew it was not a good situation to put myself in, and it was helpful to see that others agreed with me.

 

[YouthPastor]

Even if it doesnt lead further. I believe that me and my bf could be alone as much as possible and there is no chance that we would make that mistake. It is really not that much of an issue. He has amazing self control. And me? Well, its just not an issue for me yet. Even if its not gonna lead to anything, to me it just doesnt feel like something that should be done until marriage.

if YOU are not ok with it! Then don't do it. If he does not like it...... he can always find someone else.

Being too "careful" is "sexual areas" or areas that walk that line - is always a good thing - I don't thin k you can be too careful

 

[Briseis]

if YOU are not ok with it! Then don't do it. If he does not like it...... he can always find someone else.

Being too "careful" is "sexual areas" or areas that walk that line - is always a good thing - I don't thin k you can be too careful

Were you refering to something that I said? I am sorry I dont quite understand your post.

 

[jenptcfan]

I'm glad that you both have very strong convictions on the topic of keeping your virginity. I'm sure that you will be blessed for it.

Along the same line, we protect those things that are important to us. If your virginity is important to you, it might be best to avoid situations that could lead to temptation.

And people don't just have sex in bed....if making out on the couch or living room floor gives you any sense of temptation, it might be best to reassess that too. It's good to understand what tempts each of you so you can work together to protect your convictions.

Better safe than sorry.

 

[holyroller2005]

I dont think its a good idea to ever put yourself in a situation like that one. Its kind of like lead me not into temptation, we do that on our own. It can be dangerous to compromise with that. Clint and I have been courting a while now, but we talked about 2 months before we actually started courting and we were talking about just this thing only a couple of weeks into talking. Neither of us want to take that step until marriage and we are both strong believers in abstainance until marriage and he's a
minister, but if any of us, as humans, put ourselves in a temptous situation as this...let's face it. It give our flesh the leniancy it needed to take over. So I just wouldnt try it. Seek the Lord and the Word for guidance. Ill be praying for you. God bless.

 

[holyroller2005]

Also if you fell convicted about something, its usually God's way of letting us know that He isnt okay with it. Just a thought. Thats how I find my strength in just about anything I do or question even when it comes to something I might say to someone. If I feel convicted about ANYTHING I pray about it and follow the Lord's direction. He WILL NOT lead us wrong. Like I said thats just a thought I hope it helps you out. God bless!

 

[Briseis]

I know I am repeating myself, but I am just wondering if anyone agrees with me. I have been in this kind of situation a few times with my bf. I had myself under complete control and as far as I could tell so did he. More importantly he told me he did. But I still decided not to let it happen again. Does anyone else believe that the problem isnt only what could happen, but this act alone should still be kept for marriage ?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Also if you fell convicted about something, its usually God's way of letting us know that He isnt okay with it. Just a thought. Thats how I find my strength in just about anything I do or question even when it comes to something I might say to someone. If I feel convicted about ANYTHING I pray about it and follow the Lord's direction. He WILL NOT lead us wrong. Like I said thats just a thought I hope it helps you out. God bless!

I completely agree!!

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I know I am repeating myself, but I am just wondering if anyone agrees with me. I have been in this kind of situation a few times with my bf. I had myself under complete control and as far as I could tell so did he. More importantly he told me he did. But I still decided not to let it happen again. Does anyone else believe that the problem isnt only what could happen, but this act alone should still be kept for marriage ?

I think that it is one of those things that is different for everybody. For me personally it is not that big of a deal, however I would only do it if we were not alone in the house and the door was open. If it were done any other way I think the tempation would be too great.

 

[Briseis]

I think that it is one of those things that is different for everybody. For me personally it is not that big of a deal, however I would only do it if we were not alone in the house and the door was open. If it were done any other way I think the tempation would be too great.

Other ppl in the house with the door open! You dont care if other ppl catch you rolling around in bed?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Other ppl in the house with the door open! You dont care if other ppl catch you rolling around in bed?

You misunderstood what I was saying sorry I was not more clear. I meant that we would be a lot less tempted to "roll around" in bed as you say. We probably would not be very comfortable even being in the bed together like that if there was other people in the house. Sorry I was not more clear on that.

 

[Briseis]

You misunderstood what I was saying sorry I was not more clear. I meant that we would be a lot less tempted to "roll around" in bed as you say. We probably would not be very comfortable even being in the bed together like that if there was other people in the house. Sorry I was not more clear on that.

Perhaps I am the one who was not clear because that was not what I was asking at all. I was asking if anyone thought it was bad to "roll around in bed" even if there is not temptation for sex (it is possible).

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Perhaps I am the one who was not clear because that was not what I was asking at all. I was asking if anyone thought it was bad to "roll around in bed" even if there is not temptation for sex (it is possible).

I believe that it is wrong to "roll around in bed" but my opinion of what that is could very easily lead to sex. Could you clarify what you mean by that statement? I am just really unclear on it. Thanks

 

[Briseis]

I believe that it is wrong to "roll around in bed" but my opinion of what that is could very easily lead to sex. Could you clarify what you mean by that statement? I am just really unclear on it. Thanks

Lol, true. That isnt a technical term. What I mean is making-out horizontally.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Lol, true. That isnt a technical term. What I mean is making-out horizontally.

Sorry, I just didn't want to be unclear. Yes, I absolutely think that this is wrong, and I thought that I stated that in my original post, but then again I could be wrong lol. I was mostly asking people's opinions on basically being in bed together, but not necessarily doing anything.

 

[Briseis]

Sorry, I just didn't want to be unclear. Yes, I absolutely think that this is wrong, and I thought that I stated that in my original post, but then again I could be wrong lol. I was mostly asking people's opinions on basically being in bed together, but not necessarily doing anything.

You think it is wrong even if there is no temptation for more? I think so. Everyone was saying that the reason for it being bad was because we may make a mistake. I know that I wouldnt, but I still wouldnt do this, and I just wondered if anyone agreed.

As for just being in bed but not doing anything, I dont think that is wrong, unless you and your SO have a problem with temptation. When I go to my bf's house we often watch movies in his room and lay on his bed. Come to think of it, we have done that in my room as well.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

You think it is wrong even if there is no temptation for more? I think so. Everyone was saying that the reason for it being bad was because we may make a mistake. I know that I wouldnt, but I still wouldnt do this, and I just wondered if anyone agreed.

As for just being in bed but not doing anything, I dont think that is wrong, unless you and your SO have a problem with temptation. When I go to my bf's house we often watch movies in his room and lay on his bed. Come to think of it, we have done that in my room as well.

yes, even if there is no temptation for more it is still wrong. I highly doubt that making out in bed will not lead to temptation, anything that causes to even think of going further is wrong. It would take a very strong person to even not think about sex if they were making out in bed.

 

[holo]

Hmm, I'm wondering if it's because y'all young, american or christian (or a combination) that makes you have virtually no space between sitting strictly up and down holding hands, and rolling around having hot sex on the floor?

You don't have to be so scared. Things are easier when you relax. Have fun, joke about it. It doesn't have to be so hard. You're not monsters.