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Tiredknight
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Here is my 2 cents...
1. I feel the church in general has put sexuality in a place it does not belong. They have almost Idolized it. They have placed sex on this righteous pedestal that God never placed it on. They have placed Natural desire for sexuality on this taboo list of no no and it is sickening. Sexuality is normal. It is normal for men to look at women and be aroused. No matter what feminism or some kind of pseudo psychology says, that is how God built us. God Built men for women and he built women for men. He built us to like how the other is put together. He built us to enjoy and take pleasure in the other.
2. I think this world has saturated the christian world with misunderstanding of Sexuality. And I think what I just said was a huge understatment. We are bombarded from every angle and I mean every angle. Sex is everywhere. Literately. Like right now on my screen On this very website there is an ad for "Zwinky" the picture is a of a cute blonde animated girl with large breasts and cute girlish eyes. It is even here! We have a war on our hands for the hearts and mind of young people. We have stories of a president getting oral sex while in office and we had huge televised events of how one man can not be faithful to his wife. Sex is under attack and I feel it is under attack from both sides.
3. Porn destroys sex in a way, that nothing else can. Porn brings men and women down to a level that is sad. Men become this domineering power tyrant and women become slaves of what others want. Or it is the other way around and it all becomes just a power play. It becomes a giant struggle of how we can show who has the bigger penis and who can control the most women...Or how women can subvert the authority of men and so on. That just the normal versions of porn.
brother you need to understand that you were built for women and women were built for you. BUT we have a place and that is marrige. Now you can get into the what is sex and what isn't but I think it is clear what it is to you. You are facing such conviction after every event that you even consider breaking up with this woman. A couple things on this... A. if your a believer you are condemning yourself Christ is not... "Therefore there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus." Confess your sin to Jesus and move on. B. you will never be free of indwelling sin till the day you see Jesus. It is just a fact C. Do not let the Devil steal your joy. If this woman is what God wants for you, do not let the devil get in between you and her.
4. And this will be the most harsh but in love thing I have for you...
Grow up. It is time to put your big boy pants on. God has called us men to be the spiritual leader of our homes. There is no requirement on what stage our home is in, but we are called to be the Shepards of our homes. Lead. Stand up for what the bible says and lead her. The bible says we are to treat our women as Christ loved the church. That means you need to deny what you want and serve her. That is what true sexuality, love, relationship, marriage, and biblical living, is all about, Service. How can you best serve her the way that Christ Served her? IF you start thinking like that and treating her like that, you will be man that is a rare gift. You will be a man that I think most women would not have a problem submitting to. Because your seeking her good and not your own. Also The bible says how men and women are are to treat each other as Husband and Wife, what better time to start practicing then when your dating, because if you cant serve her now, you definitely cant when your married.
5. Got to forgive yourself and move forward. Jesus already did...
1. I feel the church in general has put sexuality in a place it does not belong. They have almost Idolized it. They have placed sex on this righteous pedestal that God never placed it on. They have placed Natural desire for sexuality on this taboo list of no no and it is sickening. Sexuality is normal. It is normal for men to look at women and be aroused. No matter what feminism or some kind of pseudo psychology says, that is how God built us. God Built men for women and he built women for men. He built us to like how the other is put together. He built us to enjoy and take pleasure in the other.
2. I think this world has saturated the christian world with misunderstanding of Sexuality. And I think what I just said was a huge understatment. We are bombarded from every angle and I mean every angle. Sex is everywhere. Literately. Like right now on my screen On this very website there is an ad for "Zwinky" the picture is a of a cute blonde animated girl with large breasts and cute girlish eyes. It is even here! We have a war on our hands for the hearts and mind of young people. We have stories of a president getting oral sex while in office and we had huge televised events of how one man can not be faithful to his wife. Sex is under attack and I feel it is under attack from both sides.
3. Porn destroys sex in a way, that nothing else can. Porn brings men and women down to a level that is sad. Men become this domineering power tyrant and women become slaves of what others want. Or it is the other way around and it all becomes just a power play. It becomes a giant struggle of how we can show who has the bigger penis and who can control the most women...Or how women can subvert the authority of men and so on. That just the normal versions of porn.
brother you need to understand that you were built for women and women were built for you. BUT we have a place and that is marrige. Now you can get into the what is sex and what isn't but I think it is clear what it is to you. You are facing such conviction after every event that you even consider breaking up with this woman. A couple things on this... A. if your a believer you are condemning yourself Christ is not... "Therefore there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus." Confess your sin to Jesus and move on. B. you will never be free of indwelling sin till the day you see Jesus. It is just a fact C. Do not let the Devil steal your joy. If this woman is what God wants for you, do not let the devil get in between you and her.
4. And this will be the most harsh but in love thing I have for you...
Grow up. It is time to put your big boy pants on. God has called us men to be the spiritual leader of our homes. There is no requirement on what stage our home is in, but we are called to be the Shepards of our homes. Lead. Stand up for what the bible says and lead her. The bible says we are to treat our women as Christ loved the church. That means you need to deny what you want and serve her. That is what true sexuality, love, relationship, marriage, and biblical living, is all about, Service. How can you best serve her the way that Christ Served her? IF you start thinking like that and treating her like that, you will be man that is a rare gift. You will be a man that I think most women would not have a problem submitting to. Because your seeking her good and not your own. Also The bible says how men and women are are to treat each other as Husband and Wife, what better time to start practicing then when your dating, because if you cant serve her now, you definitely cant when your married.
5. Got to forgive yourself and move forward. Jesus already did...
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