Is there anyone out there for me?

[indra_fanatic]

It seems all my life one of the biggest cliches in the Christian community is "There's someone out there for you, just wait"

Who is to say if there is or isn't? They don't know.

Does anyone out there feel this way.

Are there any things about you that need improvement? Do you need to lose weight? Are your interests too narrow? Do you have financial problems?

Without more specifics, I can't offer any guesses about your case.

 

[Godslass]

Thanks tenor voice I apprecaite all the advice.

also thanks to everyone else who has replied to this thread.

I will continue to seek His will in this matter as I do in most things.

Something else I read ...

“FIRST CLASS SINGLE”
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The single life can be a very fulfilling experience if you’ve got the right attitude.



You don’t want to endure singleness, but to enjoy it. You want to be first class, first rate, exceptional.



How does this ‘God’s leading man’ look?



1) First of all, pursue God, not a woman. Have a relationship with Him first, before we have a healthy relationship with a woman. Don’t look to a woman to fill the vacuum that only God can fill. He wants to present to a woman a ‘whole’ man! We’re not looking for our other ‘half’!



2) If you already know that you’re great, fine. you won’t be so desperate! And get excited if a woman tells you this. There are lots of desperate, clingy, needy men look-

ing for a woman to fill their ‘void’ – he can’t do this. Jesus said, “If you drink of me

you’ll never thirst again.” ‘Drink’ of Him, don’t have a surface relationship. No one should have the top tier of your heart, but God.



3) This ‘God’s leading man’ isn’t a holding pattern, but a wonderful opportunity to

develop into all that God wants you to be! Live in the present – recognizing your

situation is not a mistake. Be all that He wants you to be – ie get education, finish education, etc etc. The women in the Bible that made good matches – all were busy. Ruth and Naomi could’ve had a pity party every day! Ruth was busy as a single – not focusing on what she didn’t have, but what she did have. (I can’t change edit this section for guys, as I’m doing the rest of the text J There’s something God wants to accomplish in you in your singleness.



4) Set boundaries before you meet your Mrs Right. Don’t let her set the b’s – ie sex =

Off limits until “I do.” This man is first rate, exceptional. If God denies us something, it’s for our good.



5) You’ll not be paralysed by your past. Whatever’s happened, God still has a great plan

for your life. Jer 1 : “Before you were formed in the womb, I knew you.”He not only knew you before you were conceived, He even knew your assignment before you were conceived! Say, “Lord, make me a whole man. You have validated me, I know who I am in You.”



6) Trust God to give you HIS best, in HIS time. “Lord, I’m going to wait on you.

Whatever your ‘package’ is for me, I’m trusing that You know best.” (If you’re not careful, a counterfeit will come, and you’ll move in this direction (rather than in God’s direction towards the compatible mate who He has chosen and prepared for you.) God will not move on presumption. Say, “I’m gonna trust God, that in His own timing, He’s gonna give me what He deems is best. The only thing I have to depend on is Jesus. We have one agenda, God has another. (ie put away ours …..) There’s a temptation to get ‘busy’ and get ahead of God. “It’s not my responsibility to know how you’re gonna do it – I just know you’re gonna deliver on time.’



7) Reaffirm sometimes – “Lord, I trust You. You cannot lie. All of Your ways are

Right. I trust You’re gonna give me Your best – even if Your best is a woman, or no woman! I’D RATHER BE SINGLE THAN TO WISH I WERE! I’m gonna be a first class ‘God’s leading man’. Fill me with you, so I won’t be desperate, needy, clingy…. I’ll be discriminative.” Go to Him when you’re needy – He’ll fill you. Have a plan. Be busy. Be full of joy and excitement about what He’s doing!



If you do these things, I can guarantee that you’ll be ready for the next chapter of your life.