I feel this is an extremely important topic.
Certainly! And I believe it's an under-discussed topic, so thank you for starting this thread.
I'm coming to the conclusion, more and more so, that apologetics is nothing more than a 'front.' Most did not come to their belief by arguments and 'evidence'. Most came to belief by personal experience and/or emotion. Thus, if the believer did not come to belief by arguments and 'evidence', then what would lead the believer to surmise this would work for the atheist/doubter/skeptic/etc?
I still don't think that apologetics would only be a front. While I don't think apologetics alone will bring someone to faith, it can be a stepping stone in that direction. My non-religious friend, who seems to be becoming increasingly interested in religion, would likely have never started down the path of curious interest in religion if he didn't believe that there had to be a divine creator. I can see it as a real possibility that he (and you!) may become more & more interested in this whole God thing, eventually getting a personal contact with God that will lead him to faith. Even if personal experience is the catalyst for faith, apologetics paved the way for him to find that personal experience!
A priest was discussing a study done by the Jesuits, a religious order within the Catholic Church, on when & why people who are raised in the Church leave the faith. The overwhelming amount of people lost their faith around 5th grade, and it was overwhelmingly because they could not reconcile faith with science. Faith seems to be all these stories from thousands of years ago, that we believe because we're told they're real; science is verifiable, tested every day, following the evidence to the conclusion, instead of starting with a conclusion already in mind. The priest said that if he saw disparities between faith & science, with science being factual & faith being belief because you're told to believe, than the priest said that he would probably leave the faith, too. I am inclined to agree with him; after all, I picked Albert the Great as my confirmation saint, because he was the patron saint of scientists!
I bring this up because it points to the importance of apolgetics, maybe not as a reason to believe initially, but as a reason to not lose belief in the midst of challenges. Suppose these 5th graders had been educated on St. Thomas Aquinas, who said that faith & science can never truly contradict, because they come from the same source. Suppose they were educated on the poetic nature of Genesis 1-11, making the 7-day creation simply an artistic way to describe the stages of God's design, instead of something that was meant to be taken literally. This kind of apologetics can show that there is a logic to faith, and correct misconceptions about faith.
To summarize & move on: I believe apologetics has its place. It can be useful, it can serve as a pathway towards the personal experience that brings about faith in God. However, let us work with the idea that God is infinite. Most religions will agree with some notion of a God that always was & always will be, and Christianity is no exception.
If God is infinite, that means he can't be narrowed down to one thing. Agreed? As such, God can't be understood by only one path. God is not simply intellectual (as overly zealous apologetics would presume); God is not simply emotional (as pure personal experience may presume). The best faith in God lines up with His infinite nature; bringing together the intellectual, the emotional, the intuitive natures that we all have, should all culminate into faith in God! Suppose Jesus could prove to the people around 33 AD that He rose from the dead. There was no one in the tomb, someone rolled the stone back from the opening, the guards are dead with no apparent injuries, and the prophesies all say that the Messiah would suffer greatly & be raised from the dead on the third day. This would all form intellectual reason to believe. Yet Jesus wasn't satisfied to leave it at that; there are several instances of Jesus appearing to people, giving them personal experience that led to great faith in Him! Furthermore, intuition is praised, when doubting Thomas is lovingly rebuked; "Blessed are those who have not seen & have believed!" Reading the last section of the Gospels shows the different avenues that Jesus proves His divinity to people, and it's partly intellectual, but to narrow faith down to a purely intellectual virtue is to constrain faith to something smaller than its nature.