You're way off for a number of reasons. At this point, I think you're seizing upon whatever you think you can to justify your preferred narrative. Me supposedly dating a medium, and expressing concerns about my ex's media consumption appear to be desperate attempts to justify your narrative, with little concern for the actual details.
To say that "sex is my #1 concern" is to display a profound lack of depth and sense. It is a power and control issue for me. Nobody gets to force celibacy upon me - I won't stand for it. For me to accept permanent celibacy as my fate would be to accept second class citizenship. It would be an abomination, and I will have none of it. If you cannot understand the difference between obsession with sex and a steadfast refusal to give an inch to spiritual abuse, then you probably don't understand the value of freedom either.
When someone tries to control and manipulate me in some inappropriate way, I take it as an insult and a personal affront. I don't forget, nor do I forgive such things easily. If you disregard my boundaries in this area, I will make my displeasure known, and I will intentionally make myself abrasive and unpleasant to deal with until I am satisfied I have gotten the point across. If that doesn't work, then my ruthlessness will be severe. I once fired a $24,000 / year client in my business because of this sort of thing. I can assure you that I would not have walked away from $2,000 / month just to be a jerk. I have also banished family members from my life permanently for this kind of thing.
To say that I "refuse to discuss anything [other than my divorce]" is nowhere near a fair characterization of my posts here. My divorce had far reaching implications in many areas of my life including (1) my relationship with my then-church assembly, (2) my social circle, and (3) the level of trust and respect I now have towards other believers. It became a recurring theme in my discussions because the ramifications were so broad, not because that's all I care about.
I was so thoroughly irked by how little moral sense other professed believers behaved towards me that I nearly declared that I would never again associate with other Christians! You have demonstrated the same folly they did in some of these ways.
As an example, here is a thread that I started regarding sound biblical interpretation:
There are times I've found myself in some heated debate or controversy regarding what the Word of God does and does not say regarding some moral or ethical issue. This is what I found bizarre: There have been times when I would advance some assertion in logical terms ("A implies B / A /...
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I never dated a medium, though at one time I was interested in doing so. To be fair, I really had no business dating anyone at that time anyway. She probably didn't either. Nothing ever came of it, and that's probably a good thing.
Yes I did express concern about my then-wife's excessive media consumption, but that was more on the line of "I wish she would get out more, for her sake". I don't know why you found it so horrid that I would express such a sentiment. I have a thriving social life now, and it concerns me a bit that she does not appear to have anything comparable. Why would you fault me for saying so?