Is Privacy Important To You?

[quietpraiyze]

This isn't about whether privacy exist, so please don't derail the thread with that subject

When someone tries to invade your privacy (person to person) what do you do? What do you do when a person ask you something very personal that they really have no right to? How do you do deal with an "invasive" person?

 

[Mark_CB]

I like some things to remain ambiguous about myself. If a person detects this and is nosy, I still don't precisely answer their questions.

 

[Job3315]

This isn't about whether privacy exist, so please don't derail the thread with that subject

When someone tries to invade your privacy (person to person) what do you do? What do you do when a person ask you something very personal that they really have no right to? How do you do deal with an "invasive" person?

Learn to establish boundaries and learn use words like No, I am not interested in or comfortable discussing that topic with you and I don’t want to talk about it.

 

[Heavenhome]

Learn to establish boundaries and learn use words like No, I am not interested in or comfortable discussing that topid with you and I don’t want to talk about it.

 

[Heavenhome]

That sounds like a really good way to. respond, clear and decisive and polite. I think I will try that.
I value my privacy in certain things and have found myself sometimes answering questions that I would never ask anyone else. I don't have anything to hide but some
things should be private.
I think it shows lack of respect on the side of the questioner too.

 

[name_is_irrelevant]

When someone tries to invade your privacy (person to person) what do you do? What do you do when a person ask you something very personal that they really have no right to? How do you do deal with an "invasive" person?

Tell them you choose not to share those details with them. If they're a respectful person, they will accept this. If they're disrespectful and try to push, then you don't want to share details with them anyway, you can't trust them. Be careful about what you share at work, at church, in any kind of institution as there are people whose purposes for being nosy are to gain leverage. These people often get butthurt when you choose not to share things with them, they have an entitlement mentality, so be doubly vigilant about defending your boundaries with those people, they also tend to be the ones with loose mouths that gossip to everyone about everything. Say no, and escalate as appropriate.

 

[blackribbon]

I value privacy but not to the point that I feel that people who ask questions are invading it. I have the right to share what I want and not answer or even point out that this isn't something I choose to share. I am in control. Mostly, I don't mind sharing about my life because I feel it is often a door that I can also share God. If you are asking about my personal life then I assume that you are giving me permission to talk about what shapes me and that is God's presence in my life. The place I draw the line is in sharing much about my children and their lives. This area of my life is not for me to share because it is about their lives. I also don't feel the need to give information about my past life, especially sins that I have repented from unless I feel that God wants me to share for their benefit. I also don't give ammo to people who I feel want it to harm me. I do pick my friends carefully and don't share too much too early in a friendship.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

We're living in an age where you might as well get over the fact your privacy and information are being invaded. A few weeks ago I stopped in at a liquor store to buy a small bottle of Brandy, and I used my debit card to buy it. The next day I had ads popping up on my Facebook for the exact brand of stuff I bought at the liquor store. And it's going to get worse. The government has what they call "fusion centers" where they collect data on everyone that's on the grid. At any time they can haul you in, sit you down, and throw a book at you, filled with some of the most intimate things about your life. No kidding.

 

[High Fidelity]

I'd tell them if I wanted them to know, I'd have told them.

 

[Niels]

I deflect the question, sometimes answering with a question of my own, or give them a vague answer that doesn't reveal what I'd rather keep private.

 

[quietpraiyze]

That sounds like a really good way to. respond, clear and decisive and polite. I think I will try that.
I value my privacy in certain things and have found myself sometimes answering questions that I would never ask anyone else. I don't have anything to hide but some
things should be private.
I think it shows lack of respect on the side of the questioner too.

This my experience. It bothers me because I have a tendency to be polite in general which I think sometimes conveys the wrong message. I do think it's disrespectful and I need to have a stern retort to let others know that...

 

[quietpraiyze]

I'd tell them if I wanted them to know, I'd have told them.

I like this a lot because it's actually how I feel...