Hello Anon,
I understand what you're experiencing, Anon, and remaining a virgin until marriage is something I wish all of us could do. Unfortunately, as you already know, we live in a Fallen World. Not only that, but we live in an age in which the liberation of sexual impulses has been relegated to the status of a social value, which means that this kind of situation will be doubly complex for those of us who wish to remain virgins until we find a comparable mate. Some of the social complexity we find here accounts for why some of your Christian friends don't "understand" or sympathize with you on this issue; probably they've already failed in this department of life and your presence reminds them of this fact each time they see you.
So. What to do about this? First, you're going to affirm that following Jesus has its social price and wasn't meant to be easy (which is why He indicated that we have to "take up our cross daily"). Second, you'll need to construct a protocol for yourself that will require you to ascertain from each and every potential date (or wife) as to their 'sexual status.' Third, realize that because most people fail in the area of 'sexual purity' in today's world, there will be consistent backlash and resentment each time you purposely ascertain their status.
Fourth, and I separate this from the three previous steps for a reason, you will have to realize that even if you find a "sexually pure woman" to marry, this by no means guarantees that you will have a functional, happy, mutually supportive marriage for life. It also does not guarantee that she will remain faithful to you as you both mature in years into your marriage together. Nor does it mean that you will remain free from temptation as you press on into your future years together.
Fifth, and most importantly............realize that the best person for you MAY or MAY NOT be a virgin. Each of us fails in various ways before the Lord, some sexually, some otherwise, perhaps by way of pride, narcissism, arrogance, rage, lack of charity, lack of mercy, lack of graciousness, or a lack of willingness to forgive others. What is your sin by the way? (Do not answer--I ask this rhetorically). The truth is, the desire for a virgin is good and noble, but in the social and spiritual context that Christ has placed us, it may not necessarily be the best or final criteria by which to build a relationship and/or find a wife. I was a virgin until I met and married my wife, but my criteria were focused primarily on the status of her faith, love, and goodness of heart before the Lord. If Christ can forgive someone of their sexual failures, you might find that Jesus will want you to be willing to do something along that line as well. You may also find that a woman who has something to forgive may love you all the more for overlooking her failures and affirming her, as she will likely have to for you in other respects in life. Ask God to help you discern who the BEST person would be for you!!! Ask Him to help you meet her.
Peace
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