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Is it wrong for a Christian that is dating more than one person to kiss them both in the mouth ?
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It used to be normal to instruct people who were starting to date to never date the same person twice in a row, so dating was more causal and about getting to know a variety of people so that we could gain a better understanding of what qualities we are looking for in a mate. Now the ideal is more along the lines of that I am going to date this person and only this person until we either break up or get married. Neither way is contrary to Christianity, but it is important to be on the same page with expectations. In other words, is the person that you are dating expecting you to be dating a bunch of different people or are they expecting that you are exclusively dating them? If the person that you are dating would be upset if they found out that you were not exclusively dating them, then that is a breach of trust and is therefore not something that you should be doing as a Christian. Kissing another person in the mouth certainly qualifies for that. I didn't intentionally touch my wife until after I got married to her, not even to shake her hand, so I think that is ideal. In other words, there were qualities that I was looking for in a wife that are far more important than knowing how good she is at kissing and focusing on the physical aspect of our relationship first would have clouded my judgment. People often stay in relationships that they shouldn't because they've made a physical connection that causes them to overlook red flags.
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Passionatly vs friendly. Your post indicated " in the mouth ", maybe you meant on the mouth?
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No making out but lip to lip with the person your dating
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Honestly, I think the first kiss is important. But that's just me. As far as a sinful act? Seems more like a loving act to me. But there would be a problem for the other half of that kiss . No one really likes it when someone dates multiple people at the same time. Kissing is not the issue.
Blessings.
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But that’s what all young people do these days including Christians
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It is. You date to get married. Marriage is to illustrate to us the covenant relationship God makes w/ his people. If you're dating more than one person at once, you're prostituting yourself & your possible partner.
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Ok, so it seems you mean a quick goodbye kiss or even a greeting. I would make sure you have a group with mature Christians who know about this and talk with you about this, plus of course make sure the two people you want to date know you are dating more than one person, and make sure they really agree and do not feel pressured to accept this and each one is welcome to check out other people.
And if they are real Christians, they can minister to each other and others in your church. So, you should share your special people with each other and your mature friends, so they can be so good for others and not only for you.
Therefore . . . in case someone is getting more and more isolated in dating > Jesus says >
"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)
And if they are real Christians, they can minister to each other and others in your church. So, you should share your special people with each other and your mature friends, so they can be so good for others and not only for you.
Therefore . . . in case someone is getting more and more isolated in dating > Jesus says >
"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)
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