- Jul 10, 2016
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Is it possible to ever feel that lightweight feeling in your heart again?
It is 3 years in December that my partner died. He was diagnosed with cancer 2 years 7months before that.
Since he died, my gran and my youngest brother passed also.
I think it has been five years since I laughed and smiled without the seriousness of life on earth weighing on my shoulders.
I am so sad lately, thankfully only intermittently, but it is starting to hit me that people don't come back. That it just won't happen in the future that he'll miraculously be there one day. I seem to have been living with the unspoken thought that this is temporary. (He wasn't a believer. Please don't comment in that part, it's not something I'm wanting to read).
I don't know what the next couple of months will hold but I hope to find strength in Him that He'll give if I lean on Him. But I think this might be my toughest few months as reality starts to sink in. I don't think I can ignore the finality aspect for much longer, my mind is starting to bring it up more often. I'm not ready to face it. Emotionally I just can't. There is no one to pick up my duties and no one I'm willing to talk to about it. However, I have mentioned it twice to my college classmates. I might at bible study tomorrow. Last time someone tried to hug me. It is not useful to be hugged, it limits freedom to talk.
So does talking to real people, compassion seems to stop me in my tracks and I have to minimise or be optimistic and change the subject.
Oh well. I guess it will work out the way it does.
Thanks for reading.
It is 3 years in December that my partner died. He was diagnosed with cancer 2 years 7months before that.
Since he died, my gran and my youngest brother passed also.
I think it has been five years since I laughed and smiled without the seriousness of life on earth weighing on my shoulders.
I am so sad lately, thankfully only intermittently, but it is starting to hit me that people don't come back. That it just won't happen in the future that he'll miraculously be there one day. I seem to have been living with the unspoken thought that this is temporary. (He wasn't a believer. Please don't comment in that part, it's not something I'm wanting to read).
I don't know what the next couple of months will hold but I hope to find strength in Him that He'll give if I lean on Him. But I think this might be my toughest few months as reality starts to sink in. I don't think I can ignore the finality aspect for much longer, my mind is starting to bring it up more often. I'm not ready to face it. Emotionally I just can't. There is no one to pick up my duties and no one I'm willing to talk to about it. However, I have mentioned it twice to my college classmates. I might at bible study tomorrow. Last time someone tried to hug me. It is not useful to be hugged, it limits freedom to talk.
So does talking to real people, compassion seems to stop me in my tracks and I have to minimise or be optimistic and change the subject.
Oh well. I guess it will work out the way it does.
Thanks for reading.